How to endure this cousin situation

[Anonymous]

He’s not a babysitter or a parent. He doesn’t want to be bothered. Leave him alone and entertain you’re own kid

[Anonymous]

OP, yips sound very defensive of your son, and yes, demonizing a 10 year old.

Because they’re together while you’re doing… whatever… doesn’t mean they have to engage with each other 100% of the time. If they’re hanging out on devices, I see nothing wrong with nephew putting on his headphones to listen to YouTube or whatever. Some may argue not making your device a distraction to other people is the polite thing to do.

As for the car, just *ask him* to help your son buckle in, or ask him to move over seats so your son have have the other “easy to buckle” seat.

As far as the drawing and the like.. of course he draws better.. he’s 10. He’s also a kid. He may actually be looking for you to tell him what a great job he did. It’s drawing.. not an art competition. My DD, just 5, loves to have competitions with DH an I, with the other acting as a judge. She knows the grown up can draw better, but she loves to just draw with us. Nephew is looking for praise from you, probably because he can tell you dislike him so much.

As far as your little snark about your SIL not saying anything.. what is she supposed to say? Did you ask for help? Explain the situation? Maybe she didn’t say anything because she was sitting back so you could parent your kid who was freaking out about not being in the seat that you couldn’t buckle?

[Anonymous]

Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Go home and stop picking on your nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Why didn’t you use your words and suggest that they alternate sitting in the middle seat?

You are the adult. Act like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop trying to force the cousin to play with your son. That’s too big of an age gap and the nephew isn’t interested. Entertain your own kid.

+1 I'm sorry to say that you're the problem here, OP, not your nephew. I also think you need to lose the attitude towards your nephew. It is so unbecoming when an adult shows their dislike of a child and your dislike of your nephew is coming through loud and clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, yips sound very defensive of your son, and yes, demonizing a 10 year old.

Because they’re together while you’re doing… whatever… doesn’t mean they have to engage with each other 100% of the time. If they’re hanging out on devices, I see nothing wrong with nephew putting on his headphones to listen to YouTube or whatever. Some may argue not making your device a distraction to other people is the polite thing to do.

As for the car, just *ask him* to help your son buckle in, or ask him to move over seats so your son have have the other “easy to buckle” seat.

As far as the drawing and the like.. of course he draws better.. he’s 10. He’s also a kid. He may actually be looking for you to tell him what a great job he did. It’s drawing.. not an art competition. My DD, just 5, loves to have competitions with DH an I, with the other acting as a judge. She knows the grown up can draw better, but she loves to just draw with us. Nephew is looking for praise from you, probably because he can tell you dislike him so much.

As far as your little snark about your SIL not saying anything.. what is she supposed to say? Did you ask for help? Explain the situation? Maybe she didn’t say anything because she was sitting back so you could parent your kid who was freaking out about not being in the seat that you couldn’t buckle?

Yes, this is obvious. I wish his parents would speak up and defend their kid against OP. OP sounds horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Its not your vehicle so you don't get to dictate where people sit. But, since you were in the vehicle you climb back there and buckle him in. At 6, why isn't he in a booster seat. Not all kids enjoy drawing or would even know who Thor is (I don't).

He's 10, he isn't lording over. He's older and more life experience. Stop being a bully. You don't need to teach him how to play. He's 10.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Why didn’t you use your words and suggest that they alternate sitting in the middle seat?

You are the adult. Act like it.

There are usually two seats in the back row. OP should have climbed back and buckled the child in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Go home and stop picking on your nephew.

I’m not “picking on him”. If anything I do a ton of stuff with him and DS - board games, chasing them around, etc. I always greatly enjoyed visiting my cousins when we were growing up!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Why didn’t you use your words and suggest that they alternate sitting in the middle seat?

You are the adult. Act like it.

There are usually two seats in the back row. OP should have climbed back and buckled the child in.

One of the buckles sits low, so with the booster seat it’s very hard to buckle. They also have a lot of stuff back there so it’s just hard to reach that particular seat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Tell your kid no about the third row. I could see something like this happening with my kids and their cousins and if my brother and his wife won't intervene I just say "ok kid, maybe next time you can sit in the back row" you absolutely don't say anything to them about it. It's not even a big deal. if your kid had a sibling you'd be dealing with this hundreds of times a day. Maybe it's a good lesson for you kid to learn how to deal with difficult people. Will serve him well later in life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Go home and stop picking on your nephew.

I’m not “picking on him”. If anything I do a ton of stuff with him and DS - board games, chasing them around, etc. I always greatly enjoyed visiting my cousins when we were growing up!

DP. Yes, you are. You also sound like you are raising a brat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Why didn’t you use your words and suggest that they alternate sitting in the middle seat?

You are the adult. Act like it.

There are usually two seats in the back row. OP should have climbed back and buckled the child in.

One of the buckles sits low, so with the booster seat it’s very hard to buckle. They also have a lot of stuff back there so it’s just hard to reach that particular seat.

Then you tell your kid no. I am guessing that is not something you ever do, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Regarding the car I don’t think the 10 yo has sat in the third row- literally ever. He only wanted to do so bc DS was coveting it, knowing only one person can sit back there bc of the wonky seat belt. Regarding Thor I “set up DS” by finding an easy “how to” on google and doing a screenshot for DS to follow. I didn’t tell nephew to draw Thor. Nephew has his own drawing priorities. I also don’t care that nephew drew Thor, I care that he loves lording over DS how much better he is at everything, including the cat’s love. I also am fine if nephew doesn’t want to play, I just wish he wouldn’t lord that over DS.

Why didn’t you use your words and suggest that they alternate sitting in the middle seat?

You are the adult. Act like it.

There are usually two seats in the back row. OP should have climbed back and buckled the child in.

One of the buckles sits low, so with the booster seat it’s very hard to buckle. They also have a lot of stuff back there so it’s just hard to reach that particular seat.

Then you tell your kid no. I am guessing that is not something you ever do, though.

As an only child he's probably used to getting what he wants when he wants. It's a good experience to be around other kids and have to navigate all these challenges and rivalries, because that's how life is.