Party requesting guests to take shoes off

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

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No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

Nobody is saying that guests shouldn’t follow your rules. What we are saying is that if you put your rather arbitrary rules ahead of your guests’ comfort and enjoyment, you’re not a good host. So I would of course follow your rules but if I was made to feel completely uncomfortable at your home, I would know to decline future invitations from you, because you clearly aren’t comfortable with other people being in your home.

I keep a shoes-off house myself. But I would never dream of asking a large number of adults I had taken it upon myself to invite to my home for a party to take their shoes off. Their comfort is more important to me than the cleanliness of my floors for that one evening.

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A gracious host doesn’t ask their guests to remove their shoes.

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Anonymous wrote:I prefer to have a no-shoes house. My family has slowly come to realize it's gross to walk in a rest stop restroom and then come home and walk all over the house in the same shoes.

Since we're such a mix of cultures in the US, I think it would be nice to alert people to the fact your home is "no shoes." If people aren't prepared, they might feel funny going barefoot or even wearing slippers you provide. Maybe their toenail polish needs work or they have gross feet, etc. If you give them a heads up, they can wear socks or "arrange their look" to take no shoes into account.

Why?

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

Nobody is saying that guests shouldn’t follow your rules. What we are saying is that if you put your rather arbitrary rules ahead of your guests’ comfort and enjoyment, you’re not a good host. So I would of course follow your rules but if I was made to feel completely uncomfortable at your home, I would know to decline future invitations from you, because you clearly aren’t comfortable with other people being in your home.

I keep a shoes-off house myself. But I would never dream of asking a large number of adults I had taken it upon myself to invite to my home for a party to take their shoes off. Their comfort is more important to me than the cleanliness of my floors for that one evening.

That’s ok. I’m fine with keeping to my own values and mores. Your comfort doesn’t need to trump mine. Different strokes for different folks.

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Op here. I will see what other families do and how formal these events are. I assumed that they would be casual get togethers. People on here make it sound like a formal dinner party. We do have a very large house and can host hundred of people in our home. We also have a very large backyard. If we want to impress these people, we can but I’m not sure it is worth the effort.

I was out with my kids today and thinking about how people walk outside and walk inside their shoes. After posting this thread, I thought I should just let people walk around our house with shoes and I just can’t do it. Of course if someone feels that uncomfortable, they can keep their shoes on or if they have a medical condition.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I will see what other families do and how formal these events are. I assumed that they would be casual get togethers. People on here make it sound like a formal dinner party. We do have a very large house and can host hundred of people in our home. We also have a very large backyard. If we want to impress these people, we can but I’m not sure it is worth the effort.

I was out with my kids today and thinking about how people walk outside and walk inside their shoes. After posting this thread, I thought I should just let people walk around our house with shoes and I just can’t do it. Of course if someone feels that uncomfortable, they can keep their shoes on or if they have a medical condition.

OP I feel you. It's super gross to wear shoes in the house, but if everyone is on the first floor and the cleaners come the next day, you'll be fine. Just hire someone to come and deep clean the first floor of your home.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

Nobody is saying that guests shouldn’t follow your rules. What we are saying is that if you put your rather arbitrary rules ahead of your guests’ comfort and enjoyment, you’re not a good host. So I would of course follow your rules but if I was made to feel completely uncomfortable at your home, I would know to decline future invitations from you, because you clearly aren’t comfortable with other people being in your home.

I keep a shoes-off house myself. But I would never dream of asking a large number of adults I had taken it upon myself to invite to my home for a party to take their shoes off. Their comfort is more important to me than the cleanliness of my floors for that one evening.

Exactly, I do the same. Just because I don’t wear shoes in my house doesn’t mean my guests have to remove their shoes for my party. They are my guests, so I try to do my best to make them feel comfortable and I do not force my personal values on them.

That PP sounds like a selfish ass to me!

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

I think shoes off for 40 or so people is different. My friend who is a shoeless house had her party outside because she didn't want to deal with it.

I live on the west coast. This party would definitely be outside so it would be a non issue. But what do people do in snowy wintery places? Do people insist on wearing their slushy salty shoes inside someone’s house to hide their ingrown toenails?

No, of course not.

The fact that you have to suggest anyone thinks that way should tip you off to the weakness of your argument, but I'm betting it won't.

OP, just say on the invitation that yours is a shoes-off household for everyone, including guests. Then people can decide whether they want to be guests or not.

Then what do they do with their nasty shoes in the winter?

Have you heard about winter boots? No, they aren't worn in the house. Most people wear socks when it's cold.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

I think shoes off for 40 or so people is different. My friend who is a shoeless house had her party outside because she didn't want to deal with it.

I live on the west coast. This party would definitely be outside so it would be a non issue. But what do people do in snowy wintery places? Do people insist on wearing their slushy salty shoes inside someone’s house to hide their ingrown toenails?

No, of course not.

The fact that you have to suggest anyone thinks that way should tip you off to the weakness of your argument, but I'm betting it won't.

OP, just say on the invitation that yours is a shoes-off household for everyone, including guests. Then people can decide whether they want to be guests or not.

Then what do they do with their nasty shoes in the winter?

Have you heard about winter boots? No, they aren't worn in the house. Most people wear socks when it's cold.

So they keep their boots at the door? And then what go barefoot or in socks? Sounds like people can manage without footwear just fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I will see what other families do and how formal these events are. I assumed that they would be casual get togethers. People on here make it sound like a formal dinner party. We do have a very large house and can host hundred of people in our home. We also have a very large backyard. If we want to impress these people, we can but I’m not sure it is worth the effort.

I was out with my kids today and thinking about how people walk outside and walk inside their shoes. After posting this thread, I thought I should just let people walk around our house with shoes and I just can’t do it. Of course if someone feels that uncomfortable, they can keep their shoes on or if they have a medical condition.

Such a little snowflake.

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Anonymous wrote:I prefer to have a no-shoes house. My family has slowly come to realize it's gross to walk in a rest stop restroom and then come home and walk all over the house in the same shoes.

Since we're such a mix of cultures in the US, I think it would be nice to alert people to the fact your home is "no shoes." If people aren't prepared, they might feel funny going barefoot or even wearing slippers you provide. Maybe their toenail polish needs work or they have gross feet, etc. If you give them a heads up, they can wear socks or "arrange their look" to take no shoes into account.

Just wash, wipe, or scrub the bottom of your shoes then.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I will see what other families do and how formal these events are. I assumed that they would be casual get togethers. People on here make it sound like a formal dinner party. We do have a very large house and can host hundred of people in our home. We also have a very large backyard. If we want to impress these people, we can but I’m not sure it is worth the effort.

I was out with my kids today and thinking about how people walk outside and walk inside their shoes. After posting this thread, I thought I should just let people walk around our house with shoes and I just can’t do it. Of course if someone feels that uncomfortable, they can keep their shoes on or if they have a medical condition.

It’s already generous of you to try to make it work OP. This is why a lot of people don’t offer to host the private school parent gatherings - it’s complicated to host so many people you don’t know well enough to bring up the shoes rule in your home.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

I think shoes off for 40 or so people is different. My friend who is a shoeless house had her party outside because she didn't want to deal with it.

I live on the west coast. This party would definitely be outside so it would be a non issue. But what do people do in snowy wintery places? Do people insist on wearing their slushy salty shoes inside someone’s house to hide their ingrown toenails?

No, of course not.

The fact that you have to suggest anyone thinks that way should tip you off to the weakness of your argument, but I'm betting it won't.

OP, just say on the invitation that yours is a shoes-off household for everyone, including guests. Then people can decide whether they want to be guests or not.

Then what do they do with their nasty shoes in the winter?

Have you heard about winter boots? No, they aren't worn in the house. Most people wear socks when it's cold.

So they keep their boots at the door? And then what go barefoot or in socks? Sounds like people can manage without footwear just fine.

Socks, which a lot probably aren't wearing now. Sometimes people bring shoes with them if they can't be without support for long.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host? Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host. Problem solved.

You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home.

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host. If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything. If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.

Most people have house rules. No smoking, pork not served, shoes off, no alcohol, feet off the furniture, to name a few. it’s not a free for all for the guests to do as they please and have everything as they like it. I tell my kids to be respectful in other’s homes and follow rules that may not be the same as at our home. And I will remind kids who visit my home “in this house we do X.” Did some adults actually not learn those rules themselves? You may not agree but it’s the norm to respect their rules and customs for the short time you visit once pointed out. If someone asked you to smoke outside would you actually not comply b/c it’s cold out and you don’t want to? That would be ridiculous.

I think shoes off for 40 or so people is different. My friend who is a shoeless house had her party outside because she didn't want to deal with it.

I live on the west coast. This party would definitely be outside so it would be a non issue. But what do people do in snowy wintery places? Do people insist on wearing their slushy salty shoes inside someone’s house to hide their ingrown toenails?

No, of course not.

The fact that you have to suggest anyone thinks that way should tip you off to the weakness of your argument, but I'm betting it won't.

OP, just say on the invitation that yours is a shoes-off household for everyone, including guests. Then people can decide whether they want to be guests or not.

Then what do they do with their nasty shoes in the winter?

Have you heard about winter boots? No, they aren't worn in the house. Most people wear socks when it's cold.

So they keep their boots at the door? And then what go barefoot or in socks? Sounds like people can manage without footwear just fine.

Socks, which a lot probably aren't wearing now. Sometimes people bring shoes with them if they can't be without support for long.

Interesting so they should be easily able to adapt to this because they already do it for part of the year.

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Anonymous wrote:A gracious host doesn’t ask their guests to remove their shoes.

Yes they do. I am the hostess either the mostest and have fabulous parties with great food, drinks and convo. People respect me and my beautiful home and take off their shoes. Never had a single issue. Period.