Dad leaves toddler to die in hot car while he plays games on Play Station

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't think the loser was counting the neighbors camera showing the three hours he left her. Thought if he convinced them of a 1/2 hour story he'd be let off the hook. . He "probably" knew she would die, he had to of. How could he not? Probably not loving his role in life, too much trouble, and the easiest thing was eliminating her.
Can't imagine his remorse is sincere.

The "Mom" could have done more to protect her chikdren than just telling him to stop, alot more.

Actually not at all. If she divorced him he’d have half custody. She would have even less control over their safety and well being. Really you want to find a reason to blame the mom.

Divorce can be sub-optimal from a safety standpoint with parents like this. But talking is not doing all you can to protect either. She has some responsibility toward protecting too. So many want to make this a political/gender zero sum game. NO, the KIDS deserve to be safe. Maybe that means camp, a sitter who takes them out, cameras to WATCH what is going on, etc.

This is not a scenario where a COURT has ordered that dangerous dad has unsupervised visits and mom's hands are tied.

Mom is MESSED UP herself and an enabler of dad. A dead child in front of her and one "Sorry, Babe!" text and she fell right back into her sick relationship with him, only angry for minutes. Parker deserved better.

Hope the other kids survive. He can't be thrilled with them for ratting out his gaming to cops. He's the kind of loser who takes the family out with him, hope to be wrong.

She knew how he treated his first kid, the DUI, other criminal charges, the ignoring court orders and hearings, etc. Yet, she had 3 more kids with him. She is MESSED UP, she got him released right back into the home, he comes first and center in her world and she's not even economically dependent. Smh.

She’ll just pop out another one.

[Anonymous]

You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

Because he left her in the car intentionally. In the middle of the day, in Arizona, in July, during a record heat wave. And he did that frequently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

Because he left her in the car intentionally. In the middle of the day, in Arizona, in July, during a record heat wave. And he did that frequently.

That doesn't mean he was intentionally trying to microwave her to a crisp. He left her in an Acura with the AC running. Sadly he forgot about the time. He acknowledged killing his daughter. He has to live with this. Doctor mom wouldn't be defending him if there wasn't some part of him that loved his kids even if isn't someone who can be left alone with kids anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

+1

There's a long difference between intentional and forgot/got distracted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

+1

There's a long difference between intentional and forgot/got distracted.

She was 2. I have 3 kids ages 2-9 and I can’t imagine not knowing where my toddler is. He still needs very frequent supervision. I could never leave him somewhere out of my eyesight (aside from his crib) on purpose even for just half an hour (because even if he had “only” left her in there for 30 minutes as intended, it was garbage parenting).

This can’t be written off as being merely distracted. He made an intentional decision to leave her in that car alone and go play video games. He didn’t even set a timer or bother to check on her for 3 hours. He made incredibly selfish decisions that killed his child.

“Best case scenario” if this had gone as the dad intended, that poor baby would have been in the car for 30 minutes with the AC running where any number of things could have happened (she wakes up screaming, seat belt entanglement, she figures out how to unbuckle and wanders off, someone snatches her, etc.). He put her in harms way and prioritized video games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

+1

There's a long difference between intentional and forgot/got distracted.

She was 2. I have 3 kids ages 2-9 and I can’t imagine not knowing where my toddler is. He still needs very frequent supervision. I could never leave him somewhere out of my eyesight (aside from his crib) on purpose even for just half an hour (because even if he had “only” left her in there for 30 minutes as intended, it was garbage parenting).

This can’t be written off as being merely distracted. He made an intentional decision to leave her in that car alone and go play video games. He didn’t even set a timer or bother to check on her for 3 hours. He made incredibly selfish decisions that killed his child.

“Best case scenario” if this had gone as the dad intended, that poor baby would have been in the car for 30 minutes with the AC running where any number of things could have happened (she wakes up screaming, seat belt entanglement, she figures out how to unbuckle and wanders off, someone snatches her, etc.). He put her in harms way and prioritized video games.

Wow you're quite the stellar parent and confident in your abilities to never make a mistake. My kids are past this age, but I definitely left them sleeping in the car a few times to not disturb their naps when they were smaller. I checked in on them regularly but I can definitely fathom someone getting caught up in something and forgetting. There but for the grace of god go we all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

+1

There's a long difference between intentional and forgot/got distracted.

She was 2. I have 3 kids ages 2-9 and I can’t imagine not knowing where my toddler is. He still needs very frequent supervision. I could never leave him somewhere out of my eyesight (aside from his crib) on purpose even for just half an hour (because even if he had “only” left her in there for 30 minutes as intended, it was garbage parenting).

This can’t be written off as being merely distracted. He made an intentional decision to leave her in that car alone and go play video games. He didn’t even set a timer or bother to check on her for 3 hours. He made incredibly selfish decisions that killed his child.

“Best case scenario” if this had gone as the dad intended, that poor baby would have been in the car for 30 minutes with the AC running where any number of things could have happened (she wakes up screaming, seat belt entanglement, she figures out how to unbuckle and wanders off, someone snatches her, etc.). He put her in harms way and prioritized video games.

Wow you're quite the stellar parent and confident in your abilities to never make a mistake. My kids are past this age, but I definitely left them sleeping in the car a few times to not disturb their naps when they were smaller. I checked in on them regularly but I can definitely fathom someone getting caught up in something and forgetting. There but for the grace of god go we all.

No, I actually don’t think not purposefully leaving my kid in the car on a hot day to play video games makes me a “stellar parent.” I think that is just a baseline for being a non-horrible parent.

And no, I’ve never left my kids sleeping alone in the car. I have stayed in the car with them (with AC running or windows down on a cool day) and read my kindle or browsed the internet on my phone. I’ve also unbuckled them and carried them to their crib like a bomb from the hurt locker if for some reason I can’t sit in the car with them. On occasion they wake up and then I miss out on the nap break and maybe they are cranky before bedtime. But at least they are roasted in the sun.

And like I said before this wasn’t a mistake. Leaving your kid alone in the car on purpose is an intentional act.

[Anonymous]

*are not roasted

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have intense anxiety about the 5 seconds it takes me to walk around the car to the driver’s side after I load my kid in. Like what happens if I suddenly pass out?

Same!

Someone would notice the unconscious woman lying on the ground?

In your own garage?

[Anonymous]

I believe it was first degree murder.
Don't think he liked the child.

He is so disgusting. Who uses the word "babe" while a tragic event is happening? Who could text? Who' would be able to stop shaking enough to even hold a phone? Was manipulating her and she's dumb enough to think the idiot is someone special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My God. This story is sick on so many levels.

It is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

+1

There's a long difference between intentional and forgot/got distracted.

She was 2. I have 3 kids ages 2-9 and I can’t imagine not knowing where my toddler is. He still needs very frequent supervision. I could never leave him somewhere out of my eyesight (aside from his crib) on purpose even for just half an hour (because even if he had “only” left her in there for 30 minutes as intended, it was garbage parenting).

This can’t be written off as being merely distracted. He made an intentional decision to leave her in that car alone and go play video games. He didn’t even set a timer or bother to check on her for 3 hours. He made incredibly selfish decisions that killed his child.

“Best case scenario” if this had gone as the dad intended, that poor baby would have been in the car for 30 minutes with the AC running where any number of things could have happened (she wakes up screaming, seat belt entanglement, she figures out how to unbuckle and wanders off, someone snatches her, etc.). He put her in harms way and prioritized video games.

Wow you're quite the stellar parent and confident in your abilities to never make a mistake. My kids are past this age, but I definitely left them sleeping in the car a few times to not disturb their naps when they were smaller. I checked in on them regularly but I can definitely fathom someone getting caught up in something and forgetting. There but for the grace of god go we all.

He had a choice not to kill his kid and yet he did. That you will excuse this killer says a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are harsh. Yes the dad is a forgetful ass, and shouldn't be left alone with children. But I find it hard to make the leap some of you are making that he did this intentionally. There's a gazillion threads on DCUM from women complaining that their DH forgot something or screwed up something about their kid's care. This one had deadly consequences.

This. Go read the very,very long thread here about the parents in Ca who took their toddler and dog on a hike in the Sierra mountains in 100+ degree weather. There was no shade, they all died. People refused to accept that the conditions killed them and came up with the most implausible ridiculous explanations. One of the most popular involved assuming mom had post partum depression and killed them all. So, so much stupidity.