Big 3 Nightmare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re moving from September to June to to our summer house in the Midwest from 2023-2027 for our current 8th grader’s college admissions prospects.

Who has a Midwest summer house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re moving from September to June to to our summer house in the Midwest from 2023-2027 for our current 8th grader’s college admissions prospects.

Who has a Midwest summer house?

Lake house in MI or IL, country estate in Kansas etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow- I went to a TT SLAC in the 90s from NCS with a similar GPA and a 1480 SAT.

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Anonymous wrote:“You may have more data at NCS but there are plenty of unhappy parents and students regarding college outcomes at NCS. Yes, the education is outstanding but it is hard for students not to question why they worked so hard in HS to end up at a school like Bates or Wisconsin. “

I am an NCS parent of a senior. We would be dancing on the rooftops if our DD got into Wisconsin. It was a rejection. We are looking at options much, much lower on the USNWR list. Think 75-120.

what is your child's approx. GPA? NCS parent here.

GPA is 3.4. ACT is 33

That truly sucks. All the grade inflation at public schools and test optional is so frustrating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow- I went to a TT SLAC in the 90s from NCS with a similar GPA and a 1480 SAT.

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Anonymous wrote:“You may have more data at NCS but there are plenty of unhappy parents and students regarding college outcomes at NCS. Yes, the education is outstanding but it is hard for students not to question why they worked so hard in HS to end up at a school like Bates or Wisconsin. “

I am an NCS parent of a senior. We would be dancing on the rooftops if our DD got into Wisconsin. It was a rejection. We are looking at options much, much lower on the USNWR list. Think 75-120.

what is your child's approx. GPA? NCS parent here.

GPA is 3.4. ACT is 33

That truly sucks. All the grade inflation at public schools and test optional is so frustrating.

I weep for those poor private school kids every day. So, so sad. I don’t know how they go on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know someone who decided to pull their kid out of a big three just for senior year. Sent the kid to public for senior year to boost gpa (grade inflation) and have the chance to take all APs (further bumping gpa and appearing most rigorous). The kid was less stressed with a lower workload and fewer out of classroom requirements to graduate. The kid seemed happy. This was a while ago but I wonder if we will start seeing more people do that.

Conveniently, you have the precise anecdote to prove provate school is more demanding than the most demanding public school track. But I don't actually believe you.

[Anonymous]

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Who said that 30-40% are the smartest? They certainly may be connected. But even with those stats it’s evident that the majority of Ivy kids don’t come from private. I’ll say it again - the *whole point* of private is to protect your children’s privilege to be average and still get into a great college. The brillian strivers going to MIT are in RMIB. Your “big 3” kid is not that smart and hardworking - and that is the whole point: they do not have to be. It’s the literal definition of privilege.

We can all just ignore your posts going forward. You have made it very clear that you resent kids who you deem to be “privileged”, many of whom are extraordinary, and somehow believe RM is the sole stomping ground of brilliant kids. News flash - you are very wrong. Many people would not even consider RM for myriad reasons. And yes - many, many Big 3 students ARE that smart and hard-working. Your insecurities and bitterness are blinding you to reality.

I do not resent your kids. I do resent your belief that they are the smartest and hardest working. They are not. I’m sure they are very bright and smart, but you are literally purchasing advantages for them. Ie privilege.

[Anonymous]

Are things really that bad overall? From what I've heard, this board is overreacting some.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“You may have more data at NCS but there are plenty of unhappy parents and students regarding college outcomes at NCS. Yes, the education is outstanding but it is hard for students not to question why they worked so hard in HS to end up at a school like Bates or Wisconsin. “

I am an NCS parent of a senior. We would be dancing on the rooftops if our DD got into Wisconsin. It was a rejection. We are looking at options much, much lower on the USNWR list. Think 75-120.

Sorry to hear that. Her solid education at NCS will serve her for life.
I hope she is happy with her choices but she can always transfer to a more selective school in a year or two if she wants

I had an old colleague who used to brag about her daughter ALL the time. Daughter went to NCS. I didn’t talk to them during Covid and her daughter ended up at third tier school. I thought for sure she would be Ivy material. Now that I have kids approaching high school, I realize how competitive the college universe has become. While her daughter may have been a superstar as a child, I guess she didn’t shine at NCS.

If the kid graduated 2020-2023, the deck was stacked against her. Unfair to say she didn’t shine. Institutional priorities changed and a private school coastal kid was on the wrong side of that change. Especially a white kid, no hooks, just a a good student with solid ECs. Since 2020, that’s been a formula for lottery ticket top 30, else outcome most likely is 50-150 ranked college

Just the facts. Look at the instas for this year and last year for all private schools around here. Of course they are incomplete and we don’t know accomplishments, but take our kids who have a sport next to their name (recruits), and I’d wager the median admit is far lower ranked school than 5 years ago. It’s why none of the top privates even publicly report matriculation data by class like they used to. They bunch it into “in the last 5 years, NCS students have attended XYZ schools”

We all know what’s happening. Not fair to say kid didn’t “shine”

Plus NCS has gone grade deflationary in last few years.

Omg 😂😂 the deck was not and never has been stacked against someone attending a $50,000 A YEAR private high school in any way, shape or form. Please educate yourself.

Agree. People need to get out of the private school bubble and see the world as it really is. Maybe going to a “third tier school” will teach the NCS student what four yrs at her high school could not teach her parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re moving from September to June to to our summer house in the Midwest from 2023-2027 for our current 8th grader’s college admissions prospects.

Who has a Midwest summer house?

Lake house in MI or IL, country estate in Kansas etc.

?? and where will kid go to school? my close friend moved to a MI vacation property in around 8th grade and the schools were awful. She ended up in private anyway. not sure that this will result in any college admissions boost. how utterly weird and sad. I mean, move to the lake if you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that Big 3 is useless for college admission, I wonder if Big 3 DDs will soon be advised by parents and college counselors to get pregnant senior year to lock in connection with top tier classmate.

We aren’t at a Big 3, but I can’t get over how bitter and insecure you sound. No one is sending their kid to a private to marry well. Are you really this ignorant? Not to mention the fact that a large number of area private schools are single sex where we send my child. Why do care so much about how other people parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg - many reasons I sent my kids to a big 3 (mostly to learn to write) but seriously who they hang around was zero on the list!

Meanwhile as posters have pointed out GDS outcomes looked great for last year as did NCS. Is there a noticeable drop for class of 2023 and if so does anyone know why?

There's boosters who get on here every year for various schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg - many reasons I sent my kids to a big 3 (mostly to learn to write) but seriously who they hang around was zero on the list!

Meanwhile as posters have pointed out GDS outcomes looked great for last year as did NCS. Is there a noticeable drop for class of 2023 and if so does anyone know why?

Not according to a lot of GDS parents of 2022 grads for unhooked kids. Actually, what posters pointed that out? So, who to believe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are things really that bad overall? From what I've heard, this board is overreacting some.

No. It’s not that bad. Also there is a dedicated troll who hates private schools and makes posts up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Now that Big 3 is useless for college admission, I wonder if Big 3 DDs will soon be advised by parents and college counselors to get pregnant senior year to lock in connection with top tier classmate.

We aren’t at a Big 3, but I can’t get over how bitter and insecure you sound. No one is sending their kid to a private to marry well. Are you really this ignorant? Not to mention the fact that a large number of area private schools are single sex where we send my child. Why do care so much about how other people parent?

That is the resident troll. Just ignore her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re moving from September to June to to our summer house in the Midwest from 2023-2027 for our current 8th grader’s college admissions prospects.

Who has a Midwest summer house?

Lake house in MI or IL, country estate in Kansas etc.

Country estate in Kansas...or a farm as it is commonly referred.