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Anonymous wrote:So this thread devolved into people who dislike private school kids bashing on private school parents.

Typical DCUM drivel. I bet with our anonymity that Jeff provides here, half of you would STFU and be too chicken chicken s**t to look me or my kid in the eyes with their 1500, near perfect GPA and tell them to buck up because their privilege is ending

Sorry (ok not sorry) I can afford private school.

I’m trying to decide whether or not to switch my kids to private. Private school families are the ones who look down at public and feel superior to them, not the other way around. That attitude turns me off. I’m also convinced that going to a private school will not help my smart athletic kid get into a better college. I have kids who will do well in any environment. It is your exact attitude that you have just shown in a public forum that makes others want to stick up for their public school kids.

I will likely send my daughter to private. Real reason? I will only admit this on an anonymous forum is so she can marry well. She is very pretty and I know she will be popular with the boys. Would rather she not mingle with riffraff of public.

You have to be a troll. No one is marrying their high school sweetheart. I can’t believe this even needs to be said.

Yes they are, and the ones who aren’t meet up with someone in their 20s who wasn’t in their class but one close in age.

It's kind of sad that you want your kid to marry someone of the same age from the same area.

There are 7 cousins in my extended family and we all married people from other countries. Get togethers are like a mini UN conference.

I found it creepy when high school kids at a private my kids attended started dating other students who had been in their class since Pre-K. Talk about a bubble.

I want my kid to marry someone from a similar cultural & socioeconomic background.

Oooh, tell us more snob

Reduces drama & risk of divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this thread devolved into people who dislike private school kids bashing on private school parents.

Typical DCUM drivel. I bet with our anonymity that Jeff provides here, half of you would STFU and be too chicken chicken s**t to look me or my kid in the eyes with their 1500, near perfect GPA and tell them to buck up because their privilege is ending

Sorry (ok not sorry) I can afford private school.

I’m trying to decide whether or not to switch my kids to private. Private school families are the ones who look down at public and feel superior to them, not the other way around. That attitude turns me off. I’m also convinced that going to a private school will not help my smart athletic kid get into a better college. I have kids who will do well in any environment. It is your exact attitude that you have just shown in a public forum that makes others want to stick up for their public school kids.

I will likely send my daughter to private. Real reason? I will only admit this on an anonymous forum is so she can marry well. She is very pretty and I know she will be popular with the boys. Would rather she not mingle with riffraff of public.

You have to be a troll. No one is marrying their high school sweetheart. I can’t believe this even needs to be said.

Of course not. I was half joking. I would prefer she not mingle with the public school bad boys and hang out in a different crowd in college. Yes, that is a thing. Rich private school kids hang out together in college.

I hung out with the cool bad boys in high school. I want her to have a different experience.

I think you have a strange view of rich...because I doubt your daughter will be hanging out with the truly rich crowd. No one in the truly rich private school crowd that only hangs out together at college ever sent their kid to one second of public school. And yes...the snobbery continues like crazy at the Ivy leagues...to most college kids coming from US and international boarding schools and even top NYC and LA privates...Big3 privates aren't much different than a public school in their mind.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this thread devolved into people who dislike private school kids bashing on private school parents.

Typical DCUM drivel. I bet with our anonymity that Jeff provides here, half of you would STFU and be too chicken chicken s**t to look me or my kid in the eyes with their 1500, near perfect GPA and tell them to buck up because their privilege is ending

Sorry (ok not sorry) I can afford private school.

I’m trying to decide whether or not to switch my kids to private. Private school families are the ones who look down at public and feel superior to them, not the other way around. That attitude turns me off. I’m also convinced that going to a private school will not help my smart athletic kid get into a better college. I have kids who will do well in any environment. It is your exact attitude that you have just shown in a public forum that makes others want to stick up for their public school kids.

I will likely send my daughter to private. Real reason? I will only admit this on an anonymous forum is so she can marry well. She is very pretty and I know she will be popular with the boys. Would rather she not mingle with riffraff of public.

You have to be a troll. No one is marrying their high school sweetheart. I can’t believe this even needs to be said.

Of course not. I was half joking. I would prefer she not mingle with the public school bad boys and hang out in a different crowd in college. Yes, that is a thing. Rich private school kids hang out together in college.

I hung out with the cool bad boys in high school. I want her to have a different experience.

I think you have a strange view of rich...because I doubt your daughter will be hanging out with the truly rich crowd. No one in the truly rich private school crowd that only hangs out together at college ever sent their kid to one second of public school. And yes...the snobbery continues like crazy at the Ivy leagues...to most college kids coming from US and international boarding schools and even top NYC and LA privates...Big3 privates aren't much different than a public school in their mind.

Except going by this thread, her daughter who has only her looks for her isn’t getting into the ivies. She’ll be stuck dating, gasp, an LMC striver.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Sure, all decent privates have actual space programs. https://www.wusa9.com/article/tech/science/thomas-jefferson-high-school-satellite-iss/65-bd7768ce-18f0-418a-8946-dacea821cfc7 I

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

Bottom dwellers (bottom 10%) at TJ would be in the top 10% at any Big3.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Don't the local privates try to recruit the best public school kids?

I attended a top western private school as a day student for basically the cost of the included lunch at the school after being in a magnet pre-IB program. The private school was able to get great local students that way. Most of us had an additional talent too. Mine happened to be on the athletic side but the same was true of the stars in the theater department too. They got great HS kids and admission into all of HYP and top LACs out of it (non-legacy). Here I know they recruit a ton sports wise but haven't seen them actively trying to get non-athletes in the same way.

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

Bottom dwellers (bottom 10%) at TJ would be in the top 10% at any Big3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this thread devolved into people who dislike private school kids bashing on private school parents.

Typical DCUM drivel. I bet with our anonymity that Jeff provides here, half of you would STFU and be too chicken chicken s**t to look me or my kid in the eyes with their 1500, near perfect GPA and tell them to buck up because their privilege is ending

Sorry (ok not sorry) I can afford private school.

I’m trying to decide whether or not to switch my kids to private. Private school families are the ones who look down at public and feel superior to them, not the other way around. That attitude turns me off. I’m also convinced that going to a private school will not help my smart athletic kid get into a better college. I have kids who will do well in any environment. It is your exact attitude that you have just shown in a public forum that makes others want to stick up for their public school kids.

I will likely send my daughter to private. Real reason? I will only admit this on an anonymous forum is so she can marry well. She is very pretty and I know she will be popular with the boys. Would rather she not mingle with riffraff of public.

You have to be a troll. No one is marrying their high school sweetheart. I can’t believe this even needs to be said.

Of course not. I was half joking. I would prefer she not mingle with the public school bad boys and hang out in a different crowd in college. Yes, that is a thing. Rich private school kids hang out together in college.

I hung out with the cool bad boys in high school. I want her to have a different experience.

I think you have a strange view of rich...because I doubt your daughter will be hanging out with the truly rich crowd. No one in the truly rich private school crowd that only hangs out together at college ever sent their kid to one second of public school. And yes...the snobbery continues like crazy at the Ivy leagues...to most college kids coming from US and international boarding schools and even top NYC and LA privates...Big3 privates aren't much different than a public school in their mind.

This is 100 percent true. Most people have never heard of the DC privates. At best, they know of Sidwell because of the presidential kids going there. The boarding schools are all well known and those kids only hang with each other in college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Don't the local privates try to recruit the best public school kids?

I attended a top western private school as a day student for basically the cost of the included lunch at the school after being in a magnet pre-IB program. The private school was able to get great local students that way. Most of us had an additional talent too. Mine happened to be on the athletic side but the same was true of the stars in the theater department too. They got great HS kids and admission into all of HYP and top LACs out of it (non-legacy). Here I know they recruit a ton sports wise but haven't seen them actively trying to get non-athletes in the same way.

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

Bottom dwellers (bottom 10%) at TJ would be in the top 10% at any Big3.

No they wouldn’t. TJ kids would not survive level of rigor in English or History classes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So this thread devolved into people who dislike private school kids bashing on private school parents.

Typical DCUM drivel. I bet with our anonymity that Jeff provides here, half of you would STFU and be too chicken chicken s**t to look me or my kid in the eyes with their 1500, near perfect GPA and tell them to buck up because their privilege is ending

Sorry (ok not sorry) I can afford private school.

eh.. my public school magnet kid 1580 SAT also got shut out. 4.77 WPA, and 5 on 10 AP exams. Clearly your privilege isn't working for you.

Your kid got in nowhere? Is she/he taking a gap year?

DP here. My friend’s daughter got shut out with similar stats. She is half Asian half white. While she had top grades, she did not have amazing extracurriculars. Of course she had a long list of achievements but nothing to make her stand out.

This is what I'm seeing all over social media. Long lists of achievements but they are all 'common' and 'typical' achievements that most others with their stats have.

The kids getting accepted are the ones who are young entrepreneurs and those who have done independent research/internships on their own.

DS's best friend's twin sister has ok stats. She's a very middle of the pack, mostly A & B with a C or 2 student. She was part of several clubs but had no leadership positions. She played 1 year of a sport but not varsity. She wasn't part of theater, band, symphony, or chorus. She has awards but nothing super unique that I know of. What she does have going for her is that she started an LLC to sell homemade slime. She has a business website that she runs and she's even expanded to have a warehouse distribution site with employees who package and ship the slime for her. It's crazy - she got into Yale, Penn, & Princeton.

Honest question: How did a teenager manage to hire several employees - legally? Did she had a lot of help from parents who could navigate the system, rent the warehouse site, help with filing taxes? Selling home-made slime is a middle school idea - implementing this is a major accomplishment and I am wondering how she could do this without a lot of support.

I don’t think this is a true story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

Bottom dwellers (bottom 10%) at TJ would be in the top 10% at any Big3.

What you smokin’?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Don't the local privates try to recruit the best public school kids?

I attended a top western private school as a day student for basically the cost of the included lunch at the school after being in a magnet pre-IB program. The private school was able to get great local students that way. Most of us had an additional talent too. Mine happened to be on the athletic side but the same was true of the stars in the theater department too. They got great HS kids and admission into all of HYP and top LACs out of it (non-legacy). Here I know they recruit a ton sports wise but haven't seen them actively trying to get non-athletes in the same way.

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

Bottom dwellers (bottom 10%) at TJ would be in the top 10% at any Big3.

No they wouldn’t. TJ kids would not survive level of rigor in English or History classes.

TJ kids routinely win state writing competitions. How many big3 kids could take upper level math and science classes at TJ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had kids in both private and public. The quality and rigor of the private was orders of magnitude better (and harder) than the public. Apparently even saying this is insulting all public school kids or something, based on the extremely sensitive posters I saw earlier. I don’t get the extreme over-sensitivity. It was a fact of our lives. Nothing more, nothing less. 🤷‍♀️

I guess I am supposed to pretend otherwise or something? Idk. Maybe the super sensitive posters were trolls.

Name the schools. I’m sure there are some privates harder than some publics but around here, publics have rigorous programs. Numbers wise, there are more high achievers in publics. Obviously.

No. I’m not outing my kids.

I take it you want me to pretend that difference didn’t occur. So weird.

DP. Sidwell vs. Ballou ==> big difference

Sidwell vs Whitman/BCC/RMIB/magnet/others ==> sometimes a difference in terms of educational emphasis but not quality

Don't the local privates try to recruit the best public school kids?

I attended a top western private school as a day student for basically the cost of the included lunch at the school after being in a magnet pre-IB program. The private school was able to get great local students that way. Most of us had an additional talent too. Mine happened to be on the athletic side but the same was true of the stars in the theater department too. They got great HS kids and admission into all of HYP and top LACs out of it (non-legacy). Here I know they recruit a ton sports wise but haven't seen them actively trying to get non-athletes in the same way.

Whitman/BCC are not the same as magnets. Unless you've had a kid in Whitman/BCC and a kid at Sidwell/GDS/Cathedral Schools, just stop. The workload is NOT the same at these schools, even if public kids are taking the most rigorous classes. Plus the grading scale, ability to retake, etc. makes getting good grades at Whitman/BCC so much easier. The PP had kids at both...why not believe her?

Bottom dwellers (bottom 10%) at TJ would be in the top 10% at any Big3.

No they wouldn’t. TJ kids would not survive level of rigor in English or History classes.

TJ kids routinely win state writing competitions. How many big3 kids could take upper level math and science classes at TJ?

shhh they don’t want to accept that the best & brightest are at public schools