Non-famous but frequent DCUM posters

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There is someone on this forum who hates their in-laws and their sister-in-law. Not sure if it's the same person, but it seems unhealthy.

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Anonymous wrote:The mom of 5 isn't the biological mom to all 5. I think it's 2 who are her husband's kids, and she came into their lives when they were elementary school age, if I recall correctly.

I point this out because she uses the mom of 5 title as a bit of a cudgel and definitely as a measuring stick, but she is really a mom of 3 who married a dad of 2, and together they have 5.

I think there are (somewhat oddly) two moms of 5 who frequently post the fact that they have five kids on DCUM.

One is the biological mother if all five kids, still lives in the DC area (in NoVA) & has not worked outside the ho.e since her oldest was born.

The other is the stepmother of some of the kids, was a SAHM for several years but returned to work when her youngest was in middle school, & used to live in the DC area but has since moved to Florida (& stopped WOH due to the move).

Both have grown/almost grown children who apparently were never allowed to behave as horribly as most DCUM posters' kids are allowed to behave.

Yes, there is more than one. One of them very specifically lists out her kids ages frequently and I don't think she is very kind to struggling new moms on DCUM. The other one has some that are step-kids. They share a certainty about parenting that I recognize, as a child of a big family myself.

I am a third mom of 5. I am relieved to say that I am not the first one (nor the second, but she seems to have a higher approval rating) above. Every once in a blue moon I have signed as Mom of 5 when I think that a young mom is being too self-focused and not showing a wide enough perspective about the child or family dynamics; however, I will never again sign as Mom of 5 now that I've read about the first one.

Do you talk about how skinny you are all the time?

She doesn't want to out herself any more than she already has.

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Anonymous wrote:There's someone who always posts about her food budget of $400 a month for a family of six or something. And when you dig for details, they're all eating a single serving of off-brand cornflakes for breakfast and other equally unrealistic meals. Like, meals that would never work for a normal human being.

Hey, I don't think there's anything wrong with this daily menu for my 16 year old son on a sports team and have NO IDEA why he's always complaining:

- 4 ounce cup of yogurt, glass of orange juice
- piece of toast with peanut butter on it
- pear or apple for snack
- one chicken drumstick, four broccoli florets and three tablespoons of rice

That lady was hilarious...she couldn't understand why her teenage sons were eating all the snacks when she had generously budgeted one drumstick per person for dinner. And if I recall, it came out that they were pretty wealthy.

I remember thinking how my 18 mo frequently ate 2 drumsticks at dinner.

This person would be fast friends with my ILs. We were at their house one night and for 6 adults (one of whom was pregnant) and 3 kids they served: 1 package of chicken, 1 can of green beans, 1 package of 8 rolls because "2 of the kids can just share one." I thought my SIL was going to cry (she was the pg one) when she got her 1 chicken wing, 3 green beans, and roll. Because of course, MIL and FIL took the chicken breasts for themselves.

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The poster who always pops up on name threads about unisex names like Grayson & Emerson claiming that names ending in SON (always capitalized) can'take possibly be girls names. Apparently this poster has never heard of the very popular girls names AlliSON & MadiSON.

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Anonymous wrote:The poster who always recommends traditional Indian meals to "What should I cook for X occasion?" posters. I'm Indian-American, and I appreciate the idea of normalizing Indian food. But her suggestions are always fairly traditional dishes that would be easy to whip up in an Indian home with a fully stocked Indian spice rack but would be unfamiliar and not something to be made with ingredients on hand by anyone else.

Indian foods are normalized now. Have you seen the offerings in Costco? It ranges from Noga Dahi, Chakki Atta, Basmati rice, sukhi's premade meals. madras lentils. nanak paneer, rasmalai, rotis and samosas.

yeah but most white americans can’t make any of it from scratch and they don’t have the spices to even start. they maybe some cumin or ‘curry’ in their spice cabinet.

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The person who uses the phrase "Heres the rub" regularly sticks out to me. Probably because she has torn me apart more than once and that phrase is always in her responses.

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The one sentence late night lurker that pops up in relationship forums when everyone else is asleep with a random creeper post. He never uses a period in his sentence.

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The poster who always starts with"You are clearly unhinged."

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The poster who posts about her toddler carrying a raw egg around (I enjoy that story)

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of Five is really annoying.

There is also this sad sack dad of one high school age (13?14?) yo dd who loathes his wife and complains about her all the time.

LOL

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I haven't seen them in a while, but the middle aged couple in an open marriage that has been going great for years.

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Anonymous wrote:The one sentence late night lurker that pops up in relationship forums when everyone else is asleep with a random creeper post. He never uses a period in his sentence.

Lol to random creeper post!

How about the guy who took a 5 yr post in Europe and wants his wife to pay for her own ticket to come on the family vacation?

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Anonymous wrote:Flip Driscoll

Sheer poetry. Please post more.

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Anonymous wrote:The poster who never wanted children but had them in order to “keep her husband” because he wanted them. Her husband agreed to do most of the childcare.

The worst!

Omg yeah I wa going to say this lady too! Can alllllways count on her to show up (too) promptly. We get it, you never wanted your kids. Really cool.

Really? I am the worst? I'm worse than the parents who helicopter or neglect their kids? I'm worse than the mothers who pass on their disordered eating to their kids? I'm worse than the parents who are so anxious that their kids absorb that and become anxious themselves? Please. My kids are loved, nurtured, and happy.

Yes

If you think I'm worse than all that, then your opinion holds no weight in my eyes. We obviously have different value systems.

I agree with you PP. Outside of neglect, I think an anxious mom raising anxious kids is way worse than a lot of things. It's teaching children a way of being that will
Cause them trouble for life unless they seek help.

NP here. I disagree that simply being anxious is worse than having never wanted your kids. Not “I didn’t want them at first but I love them so much now”, but “I didn’t want kids and still feel that way and I mention it at every possible opportunity on DCUM”.

+1 million. Super weird. That lady makes me really uncomfortable, it's like she takes weird glee in (REPEATEDLY.) telling us how much she didn't want her kids and only had them to keep her husband.

NP here - is this the same poster who agreed to one kid to keep her DH, then was forced to adopt the second child from a family member? Every time I see that poster I feel such pity for the two kids with the mom that never wanted them and spends her days watching DCUM threads for the opportunity to post about it.

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Anonymous wrote:“Declare an open marriage” on relationships forum. There was a woman in expectant moms who was super concerned about pelvic floor damage and seemed to think that there was a conspiracy to conceal it from pregnant women and that a medical person “letting” a woman push for more than a couple pushes was in on that conspiracy.

I remember her! She had a lot of rage.

I suggested that to her one time and she completely lost it and was like I AM JUST TRYING TO WARN WOMEN ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES BECAUSE NO ONE WILL TELL YOU AND EVERYONE WILL LIE TO YOU WHY DON'T YOU WANT WOMEN TO HAVE THE FACTS.

< insert image of me slowly backing away... >

It's probably because she has serious pelvic damage after her prolonged labor ...

My favorite poster is the one who thinks there is just one person posting about the downsides to "natural" childbirth or breastfeeding. There's really not! There are many of us.

My favorite poster on the expectant forum is the one who always puts "natural" in quotes when referring to birth, and thinks there is one poster extolling the virtues of unmedicated birth. Don't know if this is the same person who is constantly posting on VBAC threads that the "natural birth community" is trying to brainwash women with their "ideology" but I enjoy her/their lengthy, patronizing diatribes on the topic.

The POP poster you reference, if it's the same one who always goes into terrifying detail on her condition...I sincerely hope she is getting medical treatment and really good therapy.