Confessions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confess that when I go to the playground with my toddler I dread the forced conversation that takes place between myself and other parents.

what a nice example you are to your child. Forced conversation or small talk?

Whatever you want to call it, forced conversation or small talk. Still dread it. I'm not denying that sometimes I'll actually really enjoy the conversation that is struck up with another parent. But just confessing to the fact that every time I walk into a playground and see other parents nearby, I do have that sinking feeling of: "OK, here we go with the inane small talk."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh trust me, I know that feeling. But with PP's confession I wonder even more if I should even try to be friendly to people on the playground when they perceive it as "forced conversation" . You are right though, being ignored is even worse.

I'm the one who dreads the forced conversation. Having said that, I always smile and say hello to the others (and this comes naturally, it's not forced). Note too, there IS a difference between genuine conversation and forced conversation. I love it if a genuine, relaxed conversation with another parent takes place. After all, it can be a little lonely spending time at the playground everyday by yourself while your toddler runs up and down the slide. So I do always appreciate it when I meet someone with whom I can actually engage with in an interesting way. I am open to conversation taking place - so do say hi if you see me! It's just that I cannot deny the feeling of dread that creeps up when I first enter the playground.

[Anonymous]

I don't like having sex with my husband. He's too big, and it usually hurts. Then I get a UTI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh trust me, I know that feeling. But with PP's confession I wonder even more if I should even try to be friendly to people on the playground when they perceive it as "forced conversation" . You are right though, being ignored is even worse.

I'm the one who dreads the forced conversation. Having said that, I always smile and say hello to the others (and this comes naturally, it's not forced). Note too, there IS a difference between genuine conversation and forced conversation. I love it if a genuine, relaxed conversation with another parent takes place. After all, it can be a little lonely spending time at the playground everyday by yourself while your toddler runs up and down the slide. So I do always appreciate it when I meet someone with whom I can actually engage with in an interesting way. I am open to conversation taking place - so do say hi if you see me! It's just that I cannot deny the feeling of dread that creeps up when I first enter the playground.

I can definitely respect that.

[Anonymous]

I prefer to sleep in our bed alone. I hate cuddlng in bed - I hate tucked in sheets - I just want to be FREE to sprawl out! My husband is the opposite and doesn't get that it isn't him...it's me!

[Anonymous]

Confess that I am totally addicted to this thread. I read every new page of postings compulsively. I love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
PP you quoted here. So it's only a difficult decision for those who make decent money to be a SAHM?

You clearly don't have it right. The reason I am not making this salary is the fact that I left my career at a crucial point. It was a big sacrifice and in these times right now it is definitely hurting me. I will have to pursue a completely new path now.

You stayed at home for 3 years so I don't think you and the OP are in the same boat.

And obviously OP hasn't walked in my shoes either so we probably just don't get each other.

I do see what the other poster says though, it would be nice if we could comfortably affort things that are of better quality. We too are not struggling severely, but if I had stayed in my job, we would certainly be able to afford more things.

The part I just don't get is the guilt.

I think you know what I mean.

[Anonymous]

I believe my elementary-aged son is gay. My confession is, I am disappointed about this because as of 2009, I am SURE life is more difficult for gay people.

I think this will change, it is already changing, but probably not soon enough to spare my son a lot of heartache.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like having sex with my husband. He's too big, and it usually hurts. Then I get a UTI.

uti has nothing to do with size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe my elementary-aged son is gay. My confession is, I am disappointed about this because as of 2009, I am SURE life is more difficult for gay people.

I think this will change, it is already changing, but probably not soon enough to spare my son a lot of heartache.

Why are you convinced he is gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I want to be a SAHM and I feel like I am wasting away my baby's childhood by going to work each day. I grew up in poverty though and can't fathom walking away from my 6 figure salary, or denying my child our current lifestyle- it isn't opulent by any stretch, but we are very comfortable. I want him to have all the experiences I missed.

Wow. I'd love to get together with you, even if on email -- I am a new mom going through the exact same thing!

PP here. I'd love to chat too. I feel like I am the only one struggling with this guilt trip. Email me at [e-mail].

as a SAHM I honestly don't get this. You clearly choose to work and have the money over your true desire to be around your child. Can you go for more balance? Less work, less money a little more time with your child?

I confess I find it disturbing how many moms will get super defensive when talking about their choices. There are women who HAVE to work to support their families and then there are those who could probably make both work with some sacrifices. I don't get the guilt trip thing at all.

PP, I don't think you realize how your first statement comes across (choosing money over a child). Of course, moms get "superdefensive." What you said sounds like an attack, even if you didn't mean it that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like having sex with my husband. He's too big, and it usually hurts. Then I get a UTI.

uti has nothing to do with size.

Bullshit. Don't type if you don't know what you're talking about. Idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe my elementary-aged son is gay. My confession is, I am disappointed about this because as of 2009, I am SURE life is more difficult for gay people.

I think this will change, it is already changing, but probably not soon enough to spare my son a lot of heartache.

Why are you convinced he is gay?

children don't have sexuality defined completely until they're around 18-20 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like having sex with my husband. He's too big, and it usually hurts. Then I get a UTI.

uti has nothing to do with size.

Bullshit. Don't type if you don't know what you're talking about. Idiot.

oh so what's the co-relation??????????????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like having sex with my husband. He's too big, and it usually hurts. Then I get a UTI.

uti has nothing to do with size.

Bullshit. Don't type if you don't know what you're talking about. Idiot.

wife to a big man here. Actually size can have something to do with getting UTIs, I would recommend you empty your bladder right before and right after having sex that helps prevent it. Also you might want to get some lube, because the friction between his penis and your labia is likely what causes bacteria to be moved up in your urinary tract.

I used to get UTIs when we had sex a ton. Haven't had one in years now though.