Confessions

[Anonymous]

I can't stand MIL's voice on the speaker phone, DH likes to put her on the speaker phone ALL the time. I have to go to my bedroom and turn on the bathroom fan! If I am in the kitchen cooking, the fan will be on high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wrote a mean response on DCUM out of frustration and now I feel horrible and worry the OP will take the response to heart rather than ignore it. I suck.

If you "report" your own post and ask Jeff to take it down, he will. I posted something true but unnecessarily dark to a poster once and ask Jeff to remove it and it happened really quickly.

My confession is that I am a horrible speller. I used the word "dark" above b/c I couldn't think of how to spell disturbing. Hey, I just spelled it right! amazing.

How does taking the post down help? That just makes you feel better, not the person you were mean to. Why don't you post an apology?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I HATE HATE HATE my child's nursery school director but I kiss up to her so she's nice to my child.

And I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one.

I bet I know which preschool this is....and if it's the one I'm thinking of the woman is dowright psycho and totally unqualified for her job. She doesn't even like children!

This makes me concerned, since my DD is heading off to preschool in Sept. at a school wiht a female director. What school is it??

[Anonymous]

I come to DCUM because I have no friends. How does one get to one's late 40's and have no friends. I am pathetic. (I have lots of acquaintances and certainly feel that many people respect me. But I don't think anybody really likes me. Even my own family, except for my husband and son, who for some odd reason do like me.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand MIL's voice on the speaker phone, DH likes to put her on the speaker phone ALL the time. I have to go to my bedroom and turn on the bathroom fan! If I am in the kitchen cooking, the fan will be on high.

I hate my mom's voice, period. She hoots. And because she sings in her small-town choir, she's always breaking out in snatches of song, badly. Remember Grace's singing in Will & Grace? Like that... dramatic and stagey and unpleasant.

[Anonymous]

I can't stand my sister in law and wish we didn't live in the same town. She's so self centered and focused on material things. I can't stand being around her.

[Anonymous]

I can't stand my mom. I want to get back at her so bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come to DCUM because I have no friends. How does one get to one's late 40's and have no friends. I am pathetic. (I have lots of acquaintances and certainly feel that many people respect me. But I don't think anybody really likes me. Even my own family, except for my husband and son, who for some odd reason do like me.)

You do have friends, just don't feel it at this moment. At different times we all have the same feelings you are experiencing today. Washingtonians are a little different than people in other parts of the country. Some places in the U.S. people are just down-right friendly. They talk to everyone whether they know y'all or not. In other parts of the country people are kind of stand-offish and to engage strangers in random conversations is not really the norm. If you live in those places you don't necessarily feel loved or unloved based on those daily experiences . . . you just accept it all as part of the local culture.

Washington, D.C. falls somewhere in the middle of those two extremes. Maybe it's because we live in the nation's Capital and we have so many people from so many other places living here that people seem to be neither warm nor cold. My experience is that people here kind of react to social situations rather than intiate social exchanges themselves. When I'm grumpy it seems like people are grumpy right back, but when I'm cheerful, positive and out-going people always seem willing to return the kindness.

So, in short you are liked and you have many friends, it's just that around here sometimes people are hesitant to be the first ones to show it.

This is totally off point but one of my favorite things about living in Washington is that every now and then after having a conversation with one of the sisters, they will say when we are departing "Have a blessed day." It always makes me smile and it always makes me feel good for the rest of the day.

At any rate, have a blessed day (it always works for me) and know that you have many friends who really do like you and care deeply about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I come to DCUM because I have no friends. How does one get to one's late 40's and have no friends. I am pathetic. (I have lots of acquaintances and certainly feel that many people respect me. But I don't think anybody really likes me. Even my own family, except for my husband and son, who for some odd reason do like me.)

You do have friends, just don't feel it at this moment. At different times we all have the same feelings you are experiencing today. Washingtonians are a little different than people in other parts of the country. Some places in the U.S. people are just down-right friendly. They talk to everyone whether they know y'all or not. In other parts of the country people are kind of stand-offish and to engage strangers in random conversations is not really the norm. If you live in those places you don't necessarily feel loved or unloved based on those daily experiences . . . you just accept it all as part of the local culture.

Washington, D.C. falls somewhere in the middle of those two extremes. Maybe it's because we live in the nation's Capital and we have so many people from so many other places living here that people seem to be neither warm nor cold. My experience is that people here kind of react to social situations rather than intiate social exchanges themselves. When I'm grumpy it seems like people are grumpy right back, but when I'm cheerful, positive and out-going people always seem willing to return the kindness.

So, in short you are liked and you have many friends, it's just that around here sometimes people are hesitant to be the first ones to show it.

This is totally off point but one of my favorite things about living in Washington is that every now and then after having a conversation with one of the sisters, they will say when we are departing "Have a blessed day." It always makes me smile and it always makes me feel good for the rest of the day.

At any rate, have a blessed day (it always works for me) and know that you have many friends who really do like you and care deeply about you.

Thanks you for these very wise observations!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I took sick days from work, stayed home and had sex while the kids were at school.

Now that's what I'm talkin' about! Thanks for a fun idea!

We've done this for 10 years. It's fabulous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I come to DCUM because I have no friends. How does one get to one's late 40's and have no friends. I am pathetic. (I have lots of acquaintances and certainly feel that many people respect me. But I don't think anybody really likes me. Even my own family, except for my husband and son, who for some odd reason do like me.)

Hey, you are not alone. I am in my mid 40s and I have one friend besides my husband. It does suck. I did use to have friends. I guess I let work and family take too much of a priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand my sister in law and wish we didn't live in the same town. She's so self centered and focused on material things. I can't stand being around her.

Yikes. I hope you're not my SIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I earn 160K per year and we are about 2 weeks away from foreclosure on our house.

Stumbled upon this 2-years after the fact. How did it turn out?

[Anonymous]

I confess I try to keep up with the the Joneses.

[Anonymous]

I confess that I don't care at all if I'm 10 to 15 pounds overweight. I enjoy eating and drinking good wine.