Did a 180 and decided to redshirt my child- question for parents who decided to do the same

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be 18 his jr year of high school, the age of majority. Have fun with that!

And if your 18 year old Junior in High School has sex with a 16 year old junior he might be prosecuted for statutory rape, or if he has sex with a 15 year old sophomore it is even more likely.

Okay, let's do the math. The kids who get redshirted have fall birthdays. Most kids with fall birthdays start Kindergarten right before they turn 5, which means they'll start they're junior year right before they turn 16. Therefore, a redshirted kid will start their junior year right before they turn 17. But at no point during their junior year will they turn 18. They'll start at 16, and turn 17 during the year, just like the kids with Winter and Spring birthdays. The only difference is that they'll turn 17 a few months earlier. Talk to any redshirting parent, and they'll tell you that they wouldn't have redshirted their child had they been born in the Summer, Spring, or Winter. And keep in mind that some states have a September cut-off, which means that some parents are forced to redshirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be 18 his jr year of high school, the age of majority. Have fun with that!

And if your 18 year old Junior in High School has sex with a 16 year old junior he might be prosecuted for statutory rape, or if he has sex with a 15 year old sophomore it is even more likely.

Okay, let's do the math. The kids who get redshirted have fall birthdays. Most kids with fall birthdays start Kindergarten right before they turn 5, which means they'll start they're junior year right before they turn 16. Therefore, a redshirted kid will start their junior year right before they turn 17. But at no point during their junior year will they turn 18. They'll start at 16, and turn 17 during the year, just like the kids with Winter and Spring birthdays. The only difference is that they'll turn 17 a few months earlier. Talk to any redshirting parent, and they'll tell you that they wouldn't have redshirted their child had they been born in the Summer, Spring, or Winter. And keep in mind that some states have a September cut-off, which means that some parents are forced to redshirt.

You're leaving out the summer and spring redshirted kids. I know of a few kids with February, March, and April birthdays who were redshirted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be 18 his jr year of high school, the age of majority. Have fun with that!

And if your 18 year old Junior in High School has sex with a 16 year old junior he might be prosecuted for statutory rape, or if he has sex with a 15 year old sophomore it is even more likely.

Okay, let's do the math. The kids who get redshirted have fall birthdays. Most kids with fall birthdays start Kindergarten right before they turn 5, which means they'll start they're junior year right before they turn 16. Therefore, a redshirted kid will start their junior year right before they turn 17. But at no point during their junior year will they turn 18. They'll start at 16, and turn 17 during the year, just like the kids with Winter and Spring birthdays. The only difference is that they'll turn 17 a few months earlier. Talk to any redshirting parent, and they'll tell you that they wouldn't have redshirted their child had they been born in the Summer, Spring, or Winter. And keep in mind that some states have a September cut-off, which means that some parents are forced to redshirt.

You're leaving out the summer and spring redshirted kids. I know of a few kids with February, March, and April birthdays who were redshirted.

Those kids probably have special needs. Typical kids should start on time, especially if they don't fall birthdays. Most fall kids should start on time as well. The kids I'm talking about are the exception.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"My kindergartener is already reading on a third grade level. He is so bored in school. It must be because he is gifted." No. He is the same age as a second grader but he is doing his second grade work in a kindergarten class. So mot gifted. Just 'big for his age' or old for his age. You pick.

I find this very insulting. The cut-off in our area is September 1st, and DD was born September 5th. Therefore, we were forced to redshirt and she has always been the oldest in her class. She's now 10 and in 4th grade. She's always been one of the top students in her class, usually gets perfect scores on tests, and reads well above her grade level. But by your logic, it's due to her age, not because of her own personal intellect. Thanks.

That was not redshirting. That was sending her on time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be 18 his jr year of high school, the age of majority. Have fun with that!

And if your 18 year old Junior in High School has sex with a 16 year old junior he might be prosecuted for statutory rape, or if he has sex with a 15 year old sophomore it is even more likely.

Okay, let's do the math. The kids who get redshirted have fall birthdays. Most kids with fall birthdays start Kindergarten right before they turn 5, which means they'll start they're junior year right before they turn 16. Therefore, a redshirted kid will start their junior year right before they turn 17. But at no point during their junior year will they turn 18. They'll start at 16, and turn 17 during the year, just like the kids with Winter and Spring birthdays. The only difference is that they'll turn 17 a few months earlier. Talk to any redshirting parent, and they'll tell you that they wouldn't have redshirted their child had they been born in the Summer, Spring, or Winter. And keep in mind that some states have a September cut-off, which means that some parents are forced to redshirt.

You're leaving out the summer and spring redshirted kids. I know of a few kids with February, March, and April birthdays who were redshirted.

Those kids probably have special needs. Typical kids should start on time, especially if they don't fall birthdays. Most fall kids should start on time as well. The kids I'm talking about are the exception.

Do you live anywhere around here? Sept cut offs are typical in this region (either sept 1 or sept 30). Most of the redshirted kids have summer birthdays. And multiple people asked me if I was going to redshirt my April birthday son (never crossed my mind to do so)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be 18 his jr year of high school, the age of majority. Have fun with that!

And if your 18 year old Junior in High School has sex with a 16 year old junior he might be prosecuted for statutory rape, or if he has sex with a 15 year old sophomore it is even more likely.

Okay, let's do the math. The kids who get redshirted have fall birthdays. Most kids with fall birthdays start Kindergarten right before they turn 5, which means they'll start they're junior year right before they turn 16. Therefore, a redshirted kid will start their junior year right before they turn 17. But at no point during their junior year will they turn 18. They'll start at 16, and turn 17 during the year, just like the kids with Winter and Spring birthdays. The only difference is that they'll turn 17 a few months earlier. Talk to any redshirting parent, and they'll tell you that they wouldn't have redshirted their child had they been born in the Summer, Spring, or Winter. And keep in mind that some states have a September cut-off, which means that some parents are forced to redshirt.

You're leaving out the summer and spring redshirted kids. I know of a few kids with February, March, and April birthdays who were redshirted.

Those kids probably have special needs. Typical kids should start on time, especially if they don't fall birthdays. Most fall kids should start on time as well. The kids I'm talking about are the exception.

Do you live anywhere around here? Sept cut offs are typical in this region (either sept 1 or sept 30). Most of the redshirted kids have summer birthdays. And multiple people asked me if I was going to redshirt my April birthday son (never crossed my mind to do so)

Those probably probably come from areas with Spring cut-offs. In that case, I think redshirting an April birthday would be okay. But otherwise, it would be ridiculous for them not to go on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, whenever I see a redshirted child, I assume s/he has learning or social issues. Of course, I would never say that to you but that's what I would think.

You do realize that it's not up to a child as to whether or not they're redshirted. It's not fair, therefore, to judge them, as they didn't chose to start school a year later. For all you know, they wish that their parents had sent them on time. How would you have like it if people judged you based on a decision that someone else made?

[Anonymous]

All the preschools recommend holding back as many kids as possible to pick up an extra year of tuition.

Since being with older peers tends to be academically and socially beneficial, please do keep holding back with the Joneses for the benefit of the rest of us!

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Anonymous wrote:In my opinion, whenever I see a redshirted child, I assume s/he has learning or social issues. Of course, I would never say that to you but that's what I would think.

You do realize that it's not up to a child as to whether or not they're redshirted. It's not fair, therefore, to judge them, as they didn't chose to start school a year later. For all you know, they wish that their parents had sent them on time. How would you have like it if people judged you based on a decision that someone else made?

Why the hell are you resurrecting a 1 year old sh*t-stirring thread? Bored today??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I decided to redshirt my child who was born in May. I was originally staunchly opposed but our last year of prek changed my mind. We had 4 redshirts in the class and my observations and experiences showed me it would be better for my child to be older than younger.

This is not going to be a debate on redshirting, but rather I want to know if you are asked questions or if you are ever asked about your child's age. If you are, how do you handle it? I was hoping it would be a nonissue. I know my son has friends that are 3, 4, 5, 6, and even 8 and 9! I didn't think it would matter to other families if I let my child go to preschool twice. I don't feel like explaining my reasoning for our family decision to every parent who may press the issue on me.

I am not ashamed of my child and want to feel natural and good about his school experience. My child is bright and excels in math and sports. He can compete athletically with children 10 months older and in math he is doing 1st grade work. I am not giving him another year of prek because he is slow or isn't athletically inclined.

I am only doing bc my child did not like being younger and hated hearing all year long how he was still 4 while others were 5 most of the year. Also, the director at his current school is strongly pro redshirting and suggests it for boys, even April. Actually, she doesn't use any month as a cutoff. Lastly my son never did a full-day and he isn't ready for a full-day yet. He's also very innocent and kind/gentle- he doesn't hit or name-call and he's very compassionate.. so I didn't think I needed to worry about him turning into a bully. He usually helps younger children or new children and his teacher said she thought his citizenship skills were his strongest attribute. She said another year would improve his fine motor skills and give him another year to play and mature (he is a class clown and doesn't sit still). As a mom, it makes me feel good to know that if there is a bully in the class, he/she likely won't be older than m child and won't be able to hurt him/her.

Although most of the children significantly older were kind to my child- two were cruel. My child had rocks thrown at him and had his hair cut during craft-time. He was called names and so on. My child tried to fight them and did well with the one but the age advantage was just too much. I realized I don't like aggressive kids with power over my kid. I'd rather my child be older. I don't have to worry about my child being mean and if he ever is- I will discipline him bc I will not tolerate a bad boy! Trying to raise a good church-boy here. His morality and character are even more important to me than his intelligence or athletic ability. I noticed the older aggressive children influenced my child to be slightly less nice/kind and I didn't like the effect it had on him. We prayed about it and I got him to forgive the children but I could see it was hard for him to hold back.

My concern is with our new school community - a mother commented my child was fast and good at soccer- she then said her son was born in November and how she wished she could have sent him earlier and she lamented he had to wait a while year to go to school. Her son was not very physical and had trouble even using the playground equipment. She then asked me what month my son was born in and I said May. She then said, "Oh so he must have turned 4 in May then? She was just pressing the issue even though it was apparent I wanted to end the conversation.

I don't want to share everything I just shared on this post with new parents or even new friends. I'd rather other parents just not ask or def not grill me about it. How can I do this? How do I do birthdays? I like having big birthdays and I still want to proud when my child turns 6, 7, 8, etc thoughout his school career. Should I try to hide his age or just have a short quick answer ready? I was thinking of saying we might move back to a state I grew up in- which now has a 31 July cutoff. I thought about mentioning my son was bon early by csection (true).

I just really don't want to go into this long explanation about our personal experiences. At the same time I don't want other parents to think ill of my child or me. Some people are very opposed to redshirting.

There you go-- best reason EVER. "Your child did not like".

[Anonymous]

Dammit! Just saw it was a zombie thread. UGH. Is there a way to flag these bad boys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dammit! Just saw it was a zombie thread. UGH. Is there a way to flag these bad boys?

Maybe ask Jeff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dammit! Just saw it was a zombie thread. UGH. Is there a way to flag these bad boys?

Its all relevant and given it went on for so many pages, its not as old as the opening post suggests.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be 18 his jr year of high school, the age of majority. Have fun with that!

And if your 18 year old Junior in High School has sex with a 16 year old junior he might be prosecuted for statutory rape, or if he has sex with a 15 year old sophomore it is even more likely.

Okay, let's do the math. The kids who get redshirted have fall birthdays. Most kids with fall birthdays start Kindergarten right before they turn 5, which means they'll start they're junior year right before they turn 16. Therefore, a redshirted kid will start their junior year right before they turn 17. But at no point during their junior year will they turn 18. They'll start at 16, and turn 17 during the year, just like the kids with Winter and Spring birthdays. The only difference is that they'll turn 17 a few months earlier. Talk to any redshirting parent, and they'll tell you that they wouldn't have redshirted their child had they been born in the Summer, Spring, or Winter. And keep in mind that some states have a September cut-off, which means that some parents are forced to redshirt.

You're leaving out the summer and spring redshirted kids. I know of a few kids with February, March, and April birthdays who were redshirted.

Those kids probably have special needs. Typical kids should start on time, especially if they don't fall birthdays. Most fall kids should start on time as well. The kids I'm talking about are the exception.

Do you live anywhere around here? Sept cut offs are typical in this region (either sept 1 or sept 30). Most of the redshirted kids have summer birthdays. And multiple people asked me if I was going to redshirt my April birthday son (never crossed my mind to do so)

Those probably probably come from areas with Spring cut-offs. In that case, I think redshirting an April birthday would be okay. But otherwise, it would be ridiculous for them not to go on time.

lots and lots of spring birthdays (April, March) red shirted in the private schools, even with Sept. 1 cut offs and were there is no developmental delay. Ridiculous, it absolutely is.

[Anonymous]

Usually if someone is academically talented and physically gifted, you want to challenge them; playing "up" in sports, giving them more advanced school work, etc.

By holding your otherwise normal kid back, they are going to wonder what the fuck their parents held them back for, and why all of their grade peers are a year younger.

But hey, what a great decision, I hope it works out for you and your kid.