Did a 180 and decided to redshirt my child- question for parents who decided to do the same
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Anonymous
| Yeah, you wrote a book and I still don't understand your reasoning. Redshirt your kid or don't, I really don't care. I do agree with the PP who said that she would assume your child had some kind of issue, though. |
Anonymous
| If you were confident and happy about this decision, you wouldn't have written two novellas about it on an anonymous forum. |
Anonymous
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It's my understanding that in the state of VA one must turn 5 by Sept 30? So children start turning 6 in Oct, Nov, etc... And some children start at 6 if they redshirted. How can your child be turning 5 during the school year?
My child will start at age 6, along with any late spring, summer, August September birthdays- who will also start at 6. And immediately children will start turning 6. During our last school year the majority of the children in our class turned 5 by January and my child was the second to the youngest in the class. In any case, my child will still be in the same peer group (other redshirts and kids born sept-april). The only children that could potentially be much younger than him are summer and fall birthdays who didn't redshirt. In that case, its still ok for us. My son plays with a redshirt in the class above and he also plays with a child a year younger. My child is fine with it and the other kids seem fine with it. I was only curious about what to say if asked directly by other parents and if its ok to be open about it or if it should be hush-hush/private, not because I am embarrassed, but because I didn't wanna get dragged into this redshirt drama irl. |
Anonymous
You sound very very defensive maybe not the right decision those kids who are much older are seen as having some kind of problem |
Anonymous
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I'm wordy. You should see me on coffee.. people-pleaser too.
Really, I am satisfied with my decision, for me. I still think redshirting is unfair bc it favors those who can afford an extra year of prek. I think public schools should allow children to repeat at the K level if they want. But if everyone has equal access, then its just a personal decision. Each family can decide what to do, just like I did. It seems the children are nicer than the adults sometimes... Will check on this in a few days to see if there were any more helpful responses. If not, this is my last post. Night! |
Anonymous
Kids with September birthdays wil be 4 (yes four!) when kinder starts and will turn five the first monthly school. Oct. through June birthdays will start school at 5 and turn 6 during the school year. July and Aug kids will start kinder having just turned 5 and won't ever turn 6 in kinder. |
Anonymous
| Umm. So basically, you have a child whom you consider to be advanced academically and athletically, and who has strong social skills, so you decided to hold him back? That makes no sense. I don't know anybody who has redshirted a kid with a spring birthday unless thatI see a long explanation, but no substance. Because your child doesn't want to start K on time? Because There are bullies in his preschool? (And what kind of preschool lets kids throw rocks at each other?). I'm assuming there is something else going on with your child or in your family |
Anonymous
| It sounds like the issue was at the preschool and you should have changed preschools vs. keeping him back a year so he can basically become one of those kids. We held our kid back as he missed the cut off. It sucks - I basically homeschool on top of preschool as he academically can do everything in K. |
Anonymous
| ^^^ iPhone!! Anyway, when my DC (both of whom have spring birthdays) have kids a full year older in their class, it has been because of social or emotional delay. I would never directly ask another parent or say something about it to them, but I would assume the child has or had issues. Most parents (and kids would). But most people would also consider it to be a MYOB situation and I hope that no one would directly ask about it. |
Anonymous
No, people won't directly ask. They'll just assume that OP's child has some delay. |
Anonymous
If you are satisfied, why are you trying to convince yourself of it on here. The preschool issue makes no sense - I think teachers suggest holding back for the extra money for the school. And, those who can't afford the extra year, keep them out. |
Anonymous
+100. Nobody who feels good about a decision defends it at great length to a bunch of people she doesn't know. Either (1) you know red shirting isn't right but feel pressured to do it anyway, or (2) you have an SN child, with emotional delays, even if you don't yet have a formal diagnosis. If the later is true, the SN forum could be helpful on this issue. Getting a good diagnosis and early intervention are important. If it's the former, stand up to your husband/child/ preschool director and do right by your child. Kids who are bullied need more in their toolbox than just being physically larger. |
Anonymous
Ha, I was also a July 27 baby who went to K at 5! I didn't realize there was anything weird about that. My sister was born in late October and they sent her at 4, as the cutoff then was later (maybe even December??). She wasn't ready and was later held back a year. |
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Anonymous
If you are in MD you are going early. My kid is going per guidelines and will turn 6 a month and a half after school starts. |