If adults kids don’t have kids what’s the point?

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Anonymous wrote:Matthew Perry no kids or wife. They are actually looking for someone to take his dog. His $120 million and mansion all meaningless now as no one to hand it down to. No grieving widow, no grieving kids. I hope his parents are already dead so they don’t have to see this.

His parents are not dead. So there are people grieving him.
Millions of people, in fact.
And we don't know who he left his money to. Perhaps to resources for addicts, which would be a wonderful legacy.
A mansion is meaningless, period. It doesn't matter if the owner is alive or dead. It's just a house.

Finally, if he had a wife and kids, they probably would have been grieving --and suffering terribly-- during his life. Addiction is a terrible thing. He probably had the self-awareness to not propose to someone or get anyone pregnant, and should be commended for that.

Your goal in life should not be to have people grieve you.

There's actually something very romantic about being grieved.

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So then what’s up with gay and trans people and people who genetically cannot reproduce?

They are like mosquitos they exist but no real purpose

You're horrible.
This thread is one of the saddest ones I've seen on DCUM in awhile. Life is for living, and how we define that journey isn't always linked to having children. What's amazing to me is some of you don't care one iota if your grown children are happy.
All I asked of my daughter was to be a kind and compassionate adult. She may or may not have children, but if she doesn't, I'm more than fine. She's perfect in her existence and choices as her own person. It's not my business.

And being gay is not a human with no purpose. We all have a divine purpose. To love and live.

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Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

I got news for you, no one wants your stuff. Most of it will end up at Goodwill

The junk in the house they will hold estate sale and put the rest in dumpsters. I know that. Kids today are not sentimental or want stuff that is not digital.

But at least my house, my beach house, my cars, my cash, stocks, bonds will be passed on. Not given to the Govt to be squandered on crack heads and welfare mamas

Honestly, what are you going on about? I have no children but will leave my money to my nieces and nephew, not “crack heads and welfare mamas.”

I have 13 Nieces and Nephews why would I give them squat? Unless they are wiping my ass and feeding me on my death bed they are not deserving. I have not seen some of them in several years.

My MIL her 9 grandkids are 14-38. She is 82 and in perfect health. By time she dies her great grandkids will be best choice for estate. even her grandkids won’t need the money.

I can see why your 13 nieces and nephews haven't seen you. Did you wipe your Aunt/ uncles asses? Is that what makes someone worthy?

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My life is awesome, fun, and rewarding without kids. Last time I asked my brother and sister-in-law how they were doing now that they have three kids, they said “surviving.” Almost all of my family and friends with kids seem miserable. Meanwhile, my husband and I travel the world helping others and leaving a different legacy. I can’t imagine why anyone desires to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My life is awesome, fun, and rewarding without kids. Last time I asked my brother and sister-in-law how they were doing now that they have three kids, they said “surviving.” Almost all of my family and friends with kids seem miserable. Meanwhile, my husband and I travel the world helping others and leaving a different legacy. I can’t imagine why anyone desires to have kids.

Wait till you are old and not of sane mind. Who will manage your care?
Not saying caring for you - managing the caregivers?
I see so many old people taken advantage of in various ways, it’s sad.

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Anonymous wrote:My life is awesome, fun, and rewarding without kids. Last time I asked my brother and sister-in-law how they were doing now that they have three kids, they said “surviving.” Almost all of my family and friends with kids seem miserable. Meanwhile, my husband and I travel the world helping others and leaving a different legacy. I can’t imagine why anyone desires to have kids.

Wait till you are old and not of sane mind. Who will manage your care?
Not saying caring for you - managing the caregivers?
I see so many old people taken advantage of in various ways, it’s sad.

I've worked in both long-term care and assisted living facilities. If you think only those with children have good oversight of their care, you are sadly mistaken. As for being taken advantage of, guess what? Adult children are often the biggest exploiters there are. I've seen first-hand how many have no interest in parent's care only their inheritance (don't visit, don't call, don't engage with medical team).

Having kids is no guarantee that your final phase of life is going to be secure or comfortable. PP has it right - live your life to the fullest, contribute where you can and leave this world with no regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

I got news for you, no one wants your stuff. Most of it will end up at Goodwill

The junk in the house they will hold estate sale and put the rest in dumpsters. I know that. Kids today are not sentimental or want stuff that is not digital.

But at least my house, my beach house, my cars, my cash, stocks, bonds will be passed on. Not given to the Govt to be squandered on crack heads and welfare mamas

Honestly, what are you going on about? I have no children but will leave my money to my nieces and nephew, not “crack heads and welfare mamas.”

I have 13 Nieces and Nephews why would I give them squat? Unless they are wiping my ass and feeding me on my death bed they are not deserving. I have not seen some of them in several years.

My MIL her 9 grandkids are 14-38. She is 82 and in perfect health. By time she dies her great grandkids will be best choice for estate. even her grandkids won’t need the money.

I can see why your 13 nieces and nephews haven't seen you. Did you wipe your Aunt/ uncles asses? Is that what makes someone worthy?

My first cousin wiped my uncles ass and lived with him last two years and inherited a few million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I literally gave up 22 years of my life between pregnancy and up college.

From kids soccer, back to school nights, SAT tutors, 21 birthday parties, play dates, paying for everything including college.

What was point of any of it without grandkids?

Lonely sad life for me at an empty Thanksgiving table with no one to even leave my stuff too.

What was point of having kids, what was even point of career or big house?

I have two adult children, no plans for children . Have a married stepson, no plans for children there either. As an adult adoptee I’ve tracked down a maternal half sibling. If my new found nephew has children, they will receive an inheritance from me. I expect my life’s work and worth to be carried on to future generations. If there won’t be any directly from me, I need to look elsewhere. There will be plenty to go around.

[Anonymous]

You all so concerned about legacy need to recall Ozymandias

“I met a traveller from an antique land,
Who said—“Two vast and trunkless legs of stone
Stand in the desert. . . . Near them, on the sand,
Half sunk a shattered visage lies, whose frown,
And wrinkled lip, and sneer of cold command,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these lifeless things,
The hand that mocked them, and the heart that fed;
And on the pedestal, these words appear:
My name is Ozymandias, King of Kings;
Look on my Works, ye Mighty, and despair!
Nothing beside remains. Round the decay
Of that colossal Wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My life is awesome, fun, and rewarding without kids. Last time I asked my brother and sister-in-law how they were doing now that they have three kids, they said “surviving.” Almost all of my family and friends with kids seem miserable. Meanwhile, my husband and I travel the world helping others and leaving a different legacy. I can’t imagine why anyone desires to have kids.

If alive ask your parents why they had you. Point is you can't imagine people wanting different things in life. Maybe you lack imagination...I'm glad you don't. Not everyone is up the challenge.

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Anonymous wrote:My life is awesome, fun, and rewarding without kids. Last time I asked my brother and sister-in-law how they were doing now that they have three kids, they said “surviving.” Almost all of my family and friends with kids seem miserable. Meanwhile, my husband and I travel the world helping others and leaving a different legacy. I can’t imagine why anyone desires to have kids.

Because you think these are comparable. You help out to benefit you. Narcissistic traits. Helping out whomever pleases you at the moment is leaving a Narcissistic legacy. You and your husband have no idea how to do anything hard.

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Anonymous wrote:My life is awesome, fun, and rewarding without kids. Last time I asked my brother and sister-in-law how they were doing now that they have three kids, they said “surviving.” Almost all of my family and friends with kids seem miserable. Meanwhile, my husband and I travel the world helping others and leaving a different legacy. I can’t imagine why anyone desires to have kids.

Because you think these are comparable. You help out to benefit you. Narcissistic traits. Helping out whomever pleases you at the moment is leaving a Narcissistic legacy. You and your husband have no idea how to do anything hard.

While you are 100% right, it's a good thing these people don't have kids.

[Anonymous]

World is pretty shaky now, I wouldn’t bring a child in this world..

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Anonymous wrote:World is pretty shaky now, I wouldn’t bring a child in this world..

I don't get these narrow views. It's been a lot worse over the decades.

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Anonymous wrote:World is pretty shaky now, I wouldn’t bring a child in this world..

I don't get these narrow views. It's been a lot worse over the decades.

Well, yes, except for the start of massive climate change.

I wanted kids and sadly was not able to have any. Only since Covid have I actually been ok with that.