Do you think having sex on the same bed while 13mo child is sleeping consider child abused?

[Anonymous]

This is requested by a posted from the post "If you got pregnant while cosleepting/nursing..." , see the link here http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/30/403217.page

This is the link to wiki page of "Child abuse" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_abuse, also from this page, there is link to different type of abuses if you are not sure about the definition.

If you think Yes, please quote from definition where is say that this act belong to child abuse. If you think No, please explain as well.

Thank you for participation.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

"Forms of CSA include asking or pressuring a child to engage in sexual activities (regardless of the outcome), [b]indecent exposure of the genitals to a child, [\b] displaying pornography to a child, actual sexual contact with a child, physical contact with the child's genitals, viewing of the child's genitalia without physical contact, or using a child to produce child pornography."

I think having sex in front of a child qualifies as indecent exposure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Forms of CSA include asking or pressuring a child to engage in sexual activities (regardless of the outcome), indecent exposure of the genitals to a child, displaying pornography to a child, actual sexual contact with a child, physical contact with the child's genitals, viewing of the child's genitalia without physical contact, or using a child to produce child pornography."

I think having sex in front of a child qualifies as indecent exposure.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

It's....odd. not sure if it's abuse, at that young of an age.

I couldn't get in the mood if my kid was in the room.

[Anonymous]

Stupid. Of course it's not!

[Anonymous]

It's abuse only if your 13mo wakes up and says "Oh damm, mommy and dada a fucking again!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid. Of course it's not!

This.

[Anonymous]

I had a job where I was a mandated reporter. I had a parent tell me that she had sex with her uncle (!) in a hotel bed, while her children sat in the floor at the end of the bed and watched television.

I called CPS. They laughed and told me to MYOB. It was perfectly fine as far as they were concerned.

[Anonymous]

Child abuse? I guess not.

Lacking in judgment and potentially pretty disturbing for even a 13mo who might wake up and see? Probably.

[Anonymous]

I would not consider it child abuse unless the child was in danger. I never had sex while my sleeping baby was in the same bed, but when she was in her cosleeper attached to the bed, sound asleep, sure. We were not exactly going to leave bed and go have sex on the couch.

Please keep in mind that for child sex abuse, intent is pretty important. My child is 4 and has seen my naked body going into and out of the shower, which technically would count as "exposing myself to my child" but I am not a predator.

A parent INVOLVING their 13mo child in their sex acts (in ways other than the child being in the same room) is another story. But please stop acting like cosleeping = sexual abuse. It's not.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Forms of CSA include asking or pressuring a child to engage in sexual activities (regardless of the outcome), indecent exposure of the genitals to a child, [\b] displaying pornography to a child, actual sexual contact with a child, physical contact with the child's genitals, viewing of the child's genitalia without physical contact, or using a child to produce child pornography."

I think having sex in front of a child qualifies as [b]indecent exposure.

This. NO matter what age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child abuse? I guess not.

Lacking in judgment and potentially pretty disturbing for even a 13mo who might wake up and see? Probably.

You over-estimate a 13mo's ability to comprehend what he/she is seeing.