Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

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Nails?

[Anonymous]

Woman's "is he attractive" formula: 30% wealth + 25% height + 25% social status + 10% face/body/hair + 10% random number
(extreme wealth or social status can compensate for low scores in other categories)


I don't think it is the same for everyone. Wealth isn't that high for me, but "social status" (is he good at his job regardless of the money it makes, does he have friends and do people like him), intelligence, sense of humor, ability to make conversation, interests and hobbies can make up for a lot in terms of a guy's physical appearance.
IOW extreme social status offsets other weak areas, and appearance is negotiable. Despite your opening sentence to the contrary, did you not just totally agree with the PP?

No, I disagree because for me personally wealth is minimally important and "extreme wealth" cannot compensate for any other failings. I have my own money and don't need anyone else's. But I am widowed and not really that interested in getting back into serious (vs. casual) dating, so maybe it doesn't matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes men change. Omg, the vast majority of men over 50 are not attractive due to not taking care of themselves over the years. The ones that are (I do know some from sports we play together ) freely admit that they have slowed down. Nature hits everyone.

Eh. Not me. I'm 53 and I'm lifting heavier now than I did in my late 20s. If there's a slow-down point, I haven't hit it yet.

Same. 52 yo dude with abs

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Anonymous wrote:Yes men change. Omg, the vast majority of men over 50 are not attractive due to not taking care of themselves over the years. The ones that are (I do know some from sports we play together ) freely admit that they have slowed down. Nature hits everyone.

Eh. Not me. I'm 53 and I'm lifting heavier now than I did in my late 20s. If there's a slow-down point, I haven't hit it yet.

Same. 52 yo dude with abs

Yeah but can you have sex five times a day like you did in your twenties? Most men in their fifties can’t.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s female, so I read with curiosity. I must say though that whenever I go to the forum for 50 and over, all I read about is menopause and farts. Yes, these subjects are important, but I'm completely under the impression that too many women over 50 are not interested in anything but their (mostly) failing bodies. It makes me sad, because I know some awesome single men in their 50s and 60s who have a tough time being attracted to women their age. (Not that it's a hard rule or anything.)

You have no idea how offensive this post is. You will, one day.

+1. In a few yrs if she lives that long

It’s not offensive so much as it’s dumb in that she’s not understanding that menopause and farts is her future.

The dumb part we excuse, because we rarely understand the challenges of certain phases of life and how much we can't control until we experience them.

Extremely stupid and mildly offensive was writing off women over 50 as having nothing going on except for obsessing over their failing bodies, based on reading a few posts in a forum that self-selects for rather specialized complaints.

The truly offensive bit was her feeling "sad" for all the "awesome" men over 50 who have to deal with the horror of women over 50. If there's a term where women turn on each other and idolize the man that's like "Uncle Tom," this is an example of a woman who it would fit.

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The question is: will a 50yo man ever find a 50yo woman attractive? If she's in great physical shape, the answer is YES. Otherwise, NO

A lie. If she's not fat and doesn't look like Aunt Bee, sure.

I don't think it's realistic to expect someone over 50 to be in great physical shape. But I do believe its realistic to expect someone to stay reasonably fit and put some time into looking attractive - women and men. An attractive woman who is reasonably fit with a good sense of humor and who is intelligent is a turn on. If she's the least bit flirtatious then I'm very interested.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes men change. Omg, the vast majority of men over 50 are not attractive due to not taking care of themselves over the years. The ones that are (I do know some from sports we play together ) freely admit that they have slowed down. Nature hits everyone.

Eh. Not me. I'm 53 and I'm lifting heavier now than I did in my late 20s. If there's a slow-down point, I haven't hit it yet.

Same. 52 yo dude with abs

Yeah but can you have sex five times a day like you did in your twenties? Most men in their fifties can’t.

Twice per day, Yes. And if that's not enough for you, I would happily keep going with toys.

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This thread goes to show that age =/= maturity.

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I'm a man in his 50s and yes, I can definitely find women in their 50s physically and romantically attractive. And they don't have to be "ripped" or not have any extra weight, curves can be nice. (In fact, I don't like the super skinny/super made up look that some women in their '50s use to try to look hot -- when old people are skinny they just look stringy, and that overly manicured look can make someone look like a weird doll). Confidence and positive energy are also attractive too even apart from strict looks.

But a big difference from being young is that I was in my 20s almost *all* women in that 18-25 category were pretty hot physically unless they were obese or disfigured or something. That's the age when nature is screaming at you to reproduce and has made women maximally attractive for reproduction. I was willing to do ONS with a huge range of women at that age because they all seemed cute. Now it's much more woman-specific who I find attractive and how and whether I really want to be with them. I sometimes wonder if I've gotten closer to how women always looked at it.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread goes to show that age =/= maturity.

How so?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread goes to show that age =/= maturity.

How so?

Ugh, if you have to ask...let me guess, you’re one of those deluded old 50 year olds with a gut who thinks he’s in great shape and has his pick of mid 20’s and 30’s women.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread goes to show that age =/= maturity.

How so?

Ugh, if you have to ask...let me guess, you’re one of those deluded old 50 year olds with a gut who thinks he’s in great shape and has his pick of mid 20’s and 30’s women.

Nope, but a lot of 50-year-old women are fat, or try to be old, or have taken an apparent vow of chastity, or just plain want to be left alone unless you can convince them otherwise. You know, by being a rich doctor. That's them choosing to be single.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes men change. Omg, the vast majority of men over 50 are not attractive due to not taking care of themselves over the years. The ones that are (I do know some from sports we play together ) freely admit that they have slowed down. Nature hits everyone.

Eh. Not me. I'm 53 and I'm lifting heavier now than I did in my late 20s. If there's a slow-down point, I haven't hit it yet.

Same. 52 yo dude with abs

Yeah but can you have sex five times a day like you did in your twenties? Most men in their fifties can’t.

Twice per day, Yes. And if that's not enough for you, I would happily keep going with toys.

I’m a 50yo man who can easily go five times per day with my girlfriend. No problem at all. A full day? Come on, that’s not difficult. That’s a lot of time.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s female, so I read with curiosity. I must say though that whenever I go to the forum for 50 and over, all I read about is menopause and farts. Yes, these subjects are important, but I'm completely under the impression that too many women over 50 are not interested in anything but their (mostly) failing bodies. It makes me sad, because I know some awesome single men in their 50s and 60s who have a tough time being attracted to women their age. (Not that it's a hard rule or anything.)

You have no idea how offensive this post is. You will, one day.

+1. In a few yrs if she lives that long

It’s not offensive so much as it’s dumb in that she’s not understanding that menopause and farts is her future.

The dumb part we excuse, because we rarely understand the challenges of certain phases of life and how much we can't control until we experience them.

Extremely stupid and mildly offensive was writing off women over 50 as having nothing going on except for obsessing over their failing bodies, based on reading a few posts in a forum that self-selects for rather specialized complaints.

The truly offensive bit was her feeling "sad" for all the "awesome" men over 50 who have to deal with the horror of women over 50. If there's a term where women turn on each other and idolize the man that's like "Uncle Tom," this is an example of a woman who it would fit.

NP here. I've read what the OP above said several times and I just don't see what she said as being that big of a deal. I've seen far worse out here and what she said doesn't come close. I just think she was stating her opinion (shrugs shoulders)

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Anonymous wrote:NP — I was just going to say, that wasn’t why that post by a woman was offensive. It was, and I am rarely offended.

Why was it offensive?

NP here I didn't find it offensive either. She stated what she actually reads in the over 50 forum. The truth is a lot of women and men let themselves go. Society is still more forgiving of men for this especially if they have money (eg, Donald Trump and Melania). its also an excuse that you have to be rich to look good. by 50 you should know how to dress in a way that flatters you and is age appropriate and stylish without costing a fortune. You can still exercise. I am mid 40s and do crossfit and OTF and yoga regularly and wok full time with a young child. I do spend money on skin care such as botox and laser treatments a couple times a year. This is not a herculean task ladies. Men don't change, whether they are 21 on tinder or 55 on Match, the first and probably only thing they pay attention to on online dating sights is the photo. and yes I met my husband online and he as progressive as they come and he admits that all he cared about were the photos.

Yes men change. Omg, the vast majority of men over 50 are not attractive due to not taking care of themselves over the years. The ones that are (I do know some from sports we play together ) freely admit that they have slowed down. Nature hits everyone.

I meant men don't change in what they are looking for. A guy could look like Donald Trump and still always wants the melania if he thinks he can get her.