Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

Whatever happens next is up to the school. Why does everyone think this is decided by me? There's a code of conduct that he chose not to follow. I'm relaying that information. What the school or his parents do with it is beyond my control and my concern.

The do nothing plan is a bad example for my child. She needs to know she has a say over who touches her and how they touch her.

[Anonymous]

Parents of boys: educate them. Seriously. If one of my 3 sons did this to a girl, I'd be pissed (as I would if my daughter did this to a boy).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents of boys: educate them. Seriously. If one of my 3 sons did this to a girl, I'd be pissed (as I would if my daughter did this to a boy).

Can we please dispel the notion that only boys act inappropriately? Many girls do similar things. But like with most things on DCUM, only half the population should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law...

[Anonymous]

NP here.

OP, I remember being smacked on the but by a boy around that age on the way from school--back in the 80s.

It was such a quick non-incident that I immediately chalked up to his immaturity (egad weren't all boys immature and stupid to us girls at that age?).
I'm so glad no one made a huge deal of it. Calling the school? His parents? I would've been mortified!

This many years on I still don't find the situation tragic and had forgotten all about it until I read this thread. He and I both grew up to be successful educated people. No he did not become a rapist, child molestor or any type of sexual offender.

It's so sad we're so quick to blow things out of proportion and criminalize kids instead of realizing they're boneheaded, developmentally immature and still have a long way to grow.

[Anonymous]

OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

I'm very sorry that you were sexually assaulted when you were 12. But I hope you can see that your experience and that of your daughter are very different in intent and severity.

You had a grown man try to rape you. She had a same-age boy slap her ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

You were attacked by an adult! No wonder you have acted this way.. OP this didn't happen to you...

[Anonymous]

it is really unhealthy to make this incident about your past trauma...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

A 12 yo boy is not a grown man. But at least now I can see where your overreaction may come from. You seem to be projecting your experience onto hers. And that's unfair.

The police most definitely should've been called on that grown man. A 12 yo acting an ass with his buddies? Not so much.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry this happened to your daughter and it is clear that you are very upset by the event. You are entitled to those feelings, and your daughter is entitled to whatever she is feeling.

Nonetheless, life really doesn't always have to be this hard or dramatic. It really doesn't. Stupid behavior, inappropriate as it was, doesn't have to have evil intent.

I hope you find peace and your daughter grows into a strong, confident woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

You were attacked by an adult! No wonder you have acted this way.. OP this didn't happen to you...

The smack on the ass didn't happen to me? Of course it didn't. That doesn't mean I shouldn't report this info to the school. The story is not one of fear. I won that fight, but it was still scary. Thanks for missing the point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

You were attacked by an adult! No wonder you have acted this way.. OP this didn't happen to you...

The smack on the ass didn't happen to me? Of course it didn't. That doesn't mean I shouldn't report this info to the school. The story is not one of fear. I won that fight, but it was still scary. Thanks for missing the point.

Many PPs think you have been overreacting to your daughter's incident. The new information that you were sexually assaulted at the same age presents a picture to WHY you are reacting so strongly. Your personal experience is driving you to be far more punitive than most others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it is really unhealthy to make this incident about your past trauma...

And it's really rude to call me and my child a wimp. That was the point, but you crazy bitches will attack anything. Get a soul, and a clue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

You were attacked by an adult! No wonder you have acted this way.. OP this didn't happen to you...

The smack on the ass didn't happen to me? Of course it didn't. That doesn't mean I shouldn't report this info to the school. The story is not one of fear. I won that fight, but it was still scary. Thanks for missing the point.

Many PPs think you have been overreacting to your daughter's incident. The new information that you were sexually assaulted at the same age presents a picture to WHY you are reacting so strongly. Your personal experience is driving you to be far more punitive than most others.

It wasn't sexual assault. Why are you blowing it out of proportion?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again. When I was 12 years old, a grown man jumped on top of me. A fistfight ensued and he ran away. You know what? We still called the police. So, spare me your opinion that I'm a wimp. I can and have gone to blows to protect myself when it was needed. I didn't cry when I was fighting, but I sure as hell did later. My daughter knows how to protect herself, but was afraid of the 10 boys that were cheering the boy on. I'd be afraid of taking on a group of teens. If there was a group of 10 men doing the same thing, I'd call the police and run.

You were attacked by an adult! No wonder you have acted this way.. OP this didn't happen to you...

The smack on the ass didn't happen to me? Of course it didn't. That doesn't mean I shouldn't report this info to the school. The story is not one of fear. I won that fight, but it was still scary. Thanks for missing the point.

Many PPs think you have been overreacting to your daughter's incident. The new information that you were sexually assaulted at the same age presents a picture to WHY you are reacting so strongly. Your personal experience is driving you to be far more punitive than most others.

It wasn't sexual assault. Why are you blowing it out of proportion?

Hold on- a grown man jumping on top of a 12 year old girl who needed a fistfight to get away? Sorry, that paints a picture of an thwarted sexual assault.

I'm done with this thread.

OP is a troll.