Bullying at NCS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in the area and NCS and Visi were always very well known for bullying. My teammate on various sports teams attended those schools and validated that. A lot may have changed in the interim but those schools are know among Washingtonians for have a long standing culture of some pretty unkind behavior.

OMG. More third-hand information from the 1980s. You haters need to look at yourselves. No, I don't have anything to do with NCS, but I'm looking for information on it, and this sort of thing is very unhelpful.

[Anonymous]

I am a disgruntled NCS parent who has posted on this thread but I am also an NCS alum and I while I hate what the school has become, I loved it when I was there. Thats why I sent DD there. Biggest parenting mistake I've made.

Honestly I think the only posts that are truly relevant are the ones from those of us who have recently sent daughters there. Old rumors, new rumors, third hand gossip is just off the mark.

[Anonymous]

This thread has devolved into flat-out crazy, to say "not a single girl" is glad she went there. DD does not go there (she was strictly looking co-ed) but has several friends from her previous school who do. They are all in upper school now, and spend a lot of time at our house. They actually are quite happy to be there, and no, they are not what I'd consider "mean girls" (which I feel like I'm a pretty good judge of, having been tormented by a certain degree of mean girl behavior as an nerdy teenager myself). I'd say they are certainly mostly extraverts and are very smart kids and hard-working students, but not major athletes, as some have hinted is necessary to "survive" the school. I certainly don't think it is the right school for every girl, but for some girls it's a great place, from everything I see and hear from the girls and their parents. I hope anyone considering it actually visits to see for themselves instead of taking guidance from a bunch of seemingly bitter and scarred for life parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a disgruntled NCS parent who has posted on this thread but I am also an NCS alum and I while I hate what the school has become, I loved it when I was there. Thats why I sent DD there. Biggest parenting mistake I've made.

Honestly I think the only posts that are truly relevant are the ones from those of us who have recently sent daughters there. Old rumors, new rumors, third hand gossip is just off the mark.

So tell us, why do keep her there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a disgruntled NCS parent who has posted on this thread but I am also an NCS alum and I while I hate what the school has become, I loved it when I was there. Thats why I sent DD there. Biggest parenting mistake I've made.

Honestly I think the only posts that are truly relevant are the ones from those of us who have recently sent daughters there. Old rumors, new rumors, third hand gossip is just off the mark.

So tell us, why do keep her there?

I didnt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has devolved into flat-out crazy, to say "not a single girl" is glad she went there. DD does not go there (she was strictly looking co-ed) but has several friends from her previous school who do. They are all in upper school now, and spend a lot of time at our house. They actually are quite happy to be there, and no, they are not what I'd consider "mean girls" (which I feel like I'm a pretty good judge of, having been tormented by a certain degree of mean girl behavior as an nerdy teenager myself). I'd say they are certainly mostly extraverts and are very smart kids and hard-working students, but not major athletes, as some have hinted is necessary to "survive" the school. I certainly don't think it is the right school for every girl, but for some girls it's a great place, from everything I see and hear from the girls and their parents. I hope anyone considering it actually visits to see for themselves instead of taking guidance from a bunch of seemingly bitter and scarred for life parents.

I agree. I don't have a DD there, but this thread has gone over the edge. I'm sure this school has problems, like every school, but some of the haters seem unhinged.

There are mean girls everywhere. DD's friend at Holton has complained about mean girls there, for example.

On a side note, anyone want to start a betting pool? What's the longest time this thread can go away before the haters/teenagers from rival schools/paid social media manipulators revive it?

[Anonymous]

Bottom line is that if you decide to go single sex, then you will have a heightened degree of "girl drama." Take it from a Mom with first-hand knowledge. Pulled our daughter out for HS and are glad we did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has devolved into flat-out crazy, to say "not a single girl" is glad she went there. DD does not go there (she was strictly looking co-ed) but has several friends from her previous school who do. They are all in upper school now, and spend a lot of time at our house. They actually are quite happy to be there, and no, they are not what I'd consider "mean girls" (which I feel like I'm a pretty good judge of, having been tormented by a certain degree of mean girl behavior as an nerdy teenager myself). I'd say they are certainly mostly extraverts and are very smart kids and hard-working students, but not major athletes, as some have hinted is necessary to "survive" the school. I certainly don't think it is the right school for every girl, but for some girls it's a great place, from everything I see and hear from the girls and their parents. I hope anyone considering it actually visits to see for themselves instead of taking guidance from a bunch of seemingly bitter and scarred for life parents.

I agree. I don't have a DD there, but this thread has gone over the edge. I'm sure this school has problems, like every school, but some of the haters seem unhinged.

There are mean girls everywhere. DD's friend at Holton has complained about mean girls there, for example.

On a side note, anyone want to start a betting pool? What's the longest time this thread can go away before the haters/teenagers from rival schools/paid social media manipulators revive it?

I don't know how many times I need to point this out but as a former NCS parent I am not a teen, not from a rival school and not paid by anyone. And the other disgruntled parents are clearly NCS parents to me, I recognize the inside information. If you haven't been directly involved you really have no basis to say its just like other schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread has devolved into flat-out crazy, to say "not a single girl" is glad she went there. DD does not go there (she was strictly looking co-ed) but has several friends from her previous school who do. They are all in upper school now, and spend a lot of time at our house. They actually are quite happy to be there, and no, they are not what I'd consider "mean girls" (which I feel like I'm a pretty good judge of, having been tormented by a certain degree of mean girl behavior as an nerdy teenager myself). I'd say they are certainly mostly extraverts and are very smart kids and hard-working students, but not major athletes, as some have hinted is necessary to "survive" the school. I certainly don't think it is the right school for every girl, but for some girls it's a great place, from everything I see and hear from the girls and their parents. I hope anyone considering it actually visits to see for themselves instead of taking guidance from a bunch of seemingly bitter and scarred for life parents.

I agree. I don't have a DD there, but this thread has gone over the edge. I'm sure this school has problems, like every school, but some of the haters seem unhinged.

There are mean girls everywhere. DD's friend at Holton has complained about mean girls there, for example.

On a side note, anyone want to start a betting pool? What's the longest time this thread can go away before the haters/teenagers from rival schools/paid social media manipulators revive it?

I don't know how many times I need to point this out but as a former NCS parent I am not a teen, not from a rival school and not paid by anyone. And the other disgruntled parents are clearly NCS parents to me, I recognize the inside information. If you haven't been directly involved you really have no basis to say its just like other schools.

That's exactly the problem. If there were inside information, the hate would be more credible. Go over these many pages and you will see broadsides and mudslinging, but precious little facts or insider info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I don't know how many times I need to point this out but as a former NCS parent I am not a teen, not from a rival school and not paid by anyone. And the other disgruntled parents are clearly NCS parents to me, I recognize the inside information. If you haven't been directly involved you really have no basis to say its just like other schools.

So did you write the post about how "not a single girl has ever been happy at NCS?" Do you agree with it?

Because it sounds like a looney-tunes hater, or a bored teenager. A PP came on to say that she knows happy girls at NCS. And so do I, although my DD turned it down for another school. This crazed-type hatred takes away from the credible posters with credible points, including inside information, to make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I don't know how many times I need to point this out but as a former NCS parent I am not a teen, not from a rival school and not paid by anyone. And the other disgruntled parents are clearly NCS parents to me, I recognize the inside information. If you haven't been directly involved you really have no basis to say its just like other schools.

So did you write the post about how "not a single girl has ever been happy at NCS?" Do you agree with it?

Because it sounds like a looney-tunes hater, or a bored teenager. A PP came on to say that she knows happy girls at NCS. And so do I, although my DD turned it down for another school. This crazed-type hatred takes away from the credible posters with credible points, including inside information, to make.

I didn't write that post and I don't agree with it, though I do believe more girls are unhappy than happy. After we left I heard from other moms and it really blew me away how many girls were unhappy. I agree that the vast majority of girls are happy to leave. So I wouldn't say not a single girl is happy but I really believe there are no more than ten or twelve happy girls in each class. And it shouldn't be that way.

Its not "crazed-type hatred" and you could only say as much because you have absolutely no direct experience. Its very difficult to watch your daughter go through an experience that grinds her down like that. My DD entered NCS a happy, confident girl and even after being toward the top of her class left a very unhappy girl. Its difficult not to be angry about that, especially when you have conversations about it with the administration and they don;t seem to care, they make it seem like its just your DD's problem, and then you learn that so many other girls are experiencing it as well.

The anger and disappointment you read on this thread is not crazy, its real. I think its one thing for someone with a daughter at NCS to come in here and disagree (though did you notice not a single parent of a 10th, 11th, or 12th grade girl has done so) but its quite another for someone like you who has no connection with the school to not only dismiss us but to call us names. You really have no basis to do that.

[Anonymous]

I didn't write that post and I don't agree with it, though I do believe more girls are unhappy than happy. After we left I heard from other moms and it really blew me away how many girls were unhappy. I agree that the vast majority of girls are happy to leave. So I wouldn't say not a single girl is happy but I really believe there are no more than ten or twelve happy girls in each class. And it shouldn't be that way.

Its not "crazed-type hatred" and you could only say as much because you have absolutely no direct experience. Its very difficult to watch your daughter go through an experience that grinds her down like that. My DD entered NCS a happy, confident girl and even after being toward the top of her class left a very unhappy girl. Its difficult not to be angry about that, especially when you have conversations about it with the administration and they don;t seem to care, they make it seem like its just your DD's problem, and then you learn that so many other girls are experiencing it as well.

The anger and disappointment you read on this thread is not crazy, its real. I think its one thing for someone with a daughter at NCS to come in here and disagree (though did you notice not a single parent of a 10th, 11th, or 12th grade girl has done so) but its quite another for someone like you who has no connection with the school to not only dismiss us but to call us names. You really have no basis to do that.

Completely agree. Different NCS mom.

[Anonymous]

Parent of a happy 10th grade NCS girl here. And lots of DD's friends seem quite happy as well. I don't see it as any more extreme than what her friends are experiencing at other schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated last year and I haven't moved on either. The good news is that I haven't seen my DD this happy in just over four years when she started NCS. She's a new person now that she's no longer at NCS. She's back to her self confident, happy self. I haven't checked this board in ages, but had to comment on my personal experience. Yes, the place is toxic. Wish some of the new parents of this years' freshman class would realize this. They seem to think their daughters will be fine. They won't. There is no girl who is right for this place. I don't know of a single girl who says she's glad she went there once she's graduated. Not one.

Looney tunes poster here, as named by another mom who doesn't have a daughter at NCS but who seems curiously fascinated by this thread and very defensive of a school she has no direct experience with. Please read carefully. I didn't say there was not a single girl glad she went there, I said I don't know of a single girl who's glad she went there. My personal experience. I am sure there are some happy girls there, or at least not unhappy enough to say so. I know a handful of girls from my daughters grade and another handful of grads from various other years and none of them are glad they attended. Is it likely that I happen to have come across the only unhappy grads from NCS? Doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent of a happy 10th grade NCS girl here. And lots of DD's friends seem quite happy as well. I don't see it as any more extreme than what her friends are experiencing at other schools.

Check back in a year.