What do you say?

[Anonymous]

How are birth control pills not hormonal contraception? They’re literally the OG hormonal contraception, before the shot, the implant, or the coil.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know this is the least important thing in this whole dumpster fire of a situation, but Kevin is such a terrible name. This girlfriend is the worst.

OP here. She named him after her father who passed when she was a teenager. Probably of an overdose, I am just guessing.

He was 42 and her parents weren't married. She didn't have any siblings.

I was able to look up the obituary based on her unusual first name.

I can see why she felt a very strong connection to her dad and yes, the baby's name is Kevin.

At least it's not Kevyeighn

It's not a terrible name at all.

I keep thinking of Kevin Tighe the actor and Joan from MadMen who named her only son Kevin. It's just out of fashion for being so ordinary, maybe. Wouldn't be my choice, but it's not my choice, and I get how she's emotionally attached to the name.

Its ok

My son's older brother is flying in this weekend from 5k miles away because he says "y'all need me right now"

I hope older brother will be a calming influence on the situation

There is nothing wrong with Kevin. My first thought was Kevin the character in Home Alone. Maybe someday you'll be watching it with your grandson. One foot in front of the other, OP.

We Need to Talk About Kevin.

[Anonymous]

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(I love that name, BTW, and seriously who is making a big deal about that anyway? We have enough Braydens and Liams.)

One caution, OP: please don’t assume gf’s dad died of an OD. Has she told you anything that suggests that? That feels really classist of you. It could have been a cardiac event, suicide, or an illness. I know you’re dying of curiosity but maybe get invited over and get to know her more rather than Googling.)

I wish you joy in grandmotherhood! Thank you for stepping up for this unexpected new fella!

OP here

I asked.

One embarrassing answer she (mom of Kevin) said was "I think I told you before but it's OK if you don't remember"

I did not remember. It's not her fault, somehow I really didn't remember.

She says her dad died of cirrhosis/live/organ failure in the hospital (ten years ago)

So alcoholism, not an overdose but close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are birth control pills not hormonal contraception? They’re literally the OG hormonal contraception, before the shot, the implant, or the coil.

My bipolar college roommate was born to a married mom who was on the pill. I was shocked that she knew this. Just one of the many sad facets of her troubled existence and issues with her mom.

[Anonymous]

In some states if he puts his name on birth certificate or signs acknowledgement of paternity then even a paternity test showing he is NOT the father doesn't override that. In some states it can't even be used to undo the acknowledgement. VA is one.

Glad he has an MD father and a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

OP here

My son had his therapy session about his being thrust into parenthood or not

He said I feel like I have more choices now

And I said my dear sweet summer child this is all.that women have ever asked for over forever

No one should be forced into parenthood

And I think I felt a record.acratxh

[Anonymous]

I can't believe people are thinking this is a real thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are thinking this is a real thread.

Maybe it's based on a true story, but condensed into a short story for our reading pleasure?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know this is the least important thing in this whole dumpster fire of a situation, but Kevin is such a terrible name. This girlfriend is the worst.

OP here. She named him after her father who passed when she was a teenager. Probably of an overdose, I am just guessing.

He was 42 and her parents weren't married. She didn't have any siblings.

I was able to look up the obituary based on her unusual first name.

I can see why she felt a very strong connection to her dad and yes, the baby's name is Kevin.

At least it's not Kevyeighn

It's not a terrible name at all.

I keep thinking of Kevin Tighe the actor and Joan from MadMen who named her only son Kevin. It's just out of fashion for being so ordinary, maybe. Wouldn't be my choice, but it's not my choice, and I get how she's emotionally attached to the name.

Its ok

My son's older brother is flying in this weekend from 5k miles away because he says "y'all need me right now"

I hope older brother will be a calming influence on the situation

There is nothing wrong with Kevin. My first thought was Kevin the character in Home Alone. Maybe someday you'll be watching it with your grandson. One foot in front of the other, OP.

We Need to Talk About Kevin.

I see what you did there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are thinking this is a real thread.

+1 This is an abortion thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are thinking this is a real thread.

+1 This is an abortion thread.

Maybe initially. Not with the full term pregnancy thing.

[Anonymous]

Record scratch or cassette tape break?

I hope this is a trilling troll.

Otherwise it's like one on those third tier made for streaming movies where most everyone has bad judgement, audience is screaming "nooo!" and the one who figures it out is reviled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me know if you need help with anything.

You have 2 choices: have the baby/don't have the baby.
If you have the baby: You have 2 choices: Keep it/don't keep it

Have you thought about those choices?

Whatever happens we will support you in your decision and still plan to help you get through college. If your girlfriend needs support let us know.

I know this feels really big, but in the end everything will work out. Let me know how we can support you.

No. Are you serious? They are mid 20s not 16. Many of us were married in our mid twenties. How rude to ask if they have thought about it. Do you seriously think they just flipped a coin? Good lord.

They do have choices. Nobody needs to have a baby they're not prepared to raise.

+1 and having this baby will tie these two people together for the rest of their lives. They are NOT married. This pregnancy is going to force them to think about whether they are both committed enough to this relationship to be co-parents to a child who will have had no choice in the matter. If they were on the path to marriage and this just moves up their timeline, that's one thing. If they had no intention of marrying each other and especially if one or the other was unhappy in the relationship and looking for a way out, they should really consider terminating the pregnancy and releasing each other from that lifelong connection.

These are the kind of things that people should think about BEFORE having sex.

[Anonymous]

Side note, I know a lot of young women who use continuous hormonal contraceptives to avoid having a cycle. For these women, I wonder if a cryptic pregnancy is more likely?

I used the ring continuously and occasionally would take a pregnancy test just out of paranoia. Turns out my body hates being pregnant and once I got pregnant (on purpose, off birth control) it was obvious before I’d even missed my first period.

[Anonymous]

OP, we are gonna need an update. Have you gotten to meet Kevin yet?