Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s right, OP. Everyone with kids in public is soooo jealous of you. And sooo upset that they’re not doing the same. Because only your belief is valid.

No, many people are just haters. Hating the wealthy is the in thing these days.

Taking private out of the equation, I think it’s pretty easy to see why so many hate “the wealthy” with the state of the world today. And it’s not getting any better. If you are confused as to why this is, I’m not sure what to tell you.

[Anonymous]

Before you put your kids in private and they were in public, how did you feel when friends left your public for private? Were you jealous? Is that why you think other people are jealous of you now? Or, after about two minutes, did you just not really think much about it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hating the wealthy is the in thing these days.

Oh really?
https://www.history.com/news/before-the-one-percent-americans-resented-the-upper-ten

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hating the wealthy is the in thing these days.

Oh really?
https://www.history.com/news/before-the-one-percent-americans-resented-the-upper-ten

It's the in thing now.

[Anonymous]

So you didn't read the link then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s right, OP. Everyone with kids in public is soooo jealous of you. And sooo upset that they’re not doing the same. Because only your belief is valid.

No, many people are just haters. Hating the wealthy is the in thing these days.

Taking private out of the equation, I think it’s pretty easy to see why so many hate “the wealthy” with the state of the world today. And it’s not getting any better. If you are confused as to why this is, I’m not sure what to tell you.

Private school doesn't equal wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s right, OP. Everyone with kids in public is soooo jealous of you. And sooo upset that they’re not doing the same. Because only your belief is valid.

No, many people are just haters. Hating the wealthy is the in thing these days.

Taking private out of the equation, I think it’s pretty easy to see why so many hate “the wealthy” with the state of the world today. And it’s not getting any better. If you are confused as to why this is, I’m not sure what to tell you.

Private school doesn't equal wealthy.

By and large it does. I know this forum thinks $500k is middle class, but when you’re spending more for 1 year of school than most people make in a year? Yeah.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

Give me a break. Your friends see right through this and are no doubt being polite and refraining from calling BS. And stop with that “I wish I could go public” nonsense, it’s offensive.

[Anonymous]

People have weird reactions to this kind of stuff because they are always comparing themselves to others and who knows the situation.

Even in the SN circle. Next year my daughter is going to the most expensive SN private schools in my area. It’s a really nice school with lots of social supports.

A few months ago another SN mom told me which public her daughter was attending for K. Then she asked where my daughter was going to school. I told her it was X school. I mentioned I would like to send my daughter to public but because of her anxiety, she needed a different kind of school.

The mom got a weird, mad look on her face. The conversation was over. Later I found out her daughter had gone to X schools nursery and preschool but I guess wasn’t admitted to the elementary program. She’s also weirdly stuck up in general.

With other people around town we don’t like to mention where our kid is going because it means we can afford it. Even my brother pointed that that out when I told him where his neice was going to school.

The sweet, genius little boy across the street is going to a dreamlike elite private that is on 60 acres of beautiful land. And my husband is jealous as hell and wants to go back in time and go there. Lol.

[Anonymous]

We are pulling kids from private to MCPS and our private friends are all now questioning their need to stay private. It goes both ways. Grass greener thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

Give me a break. Your friends see right through this and are no doubt being polite and refraining from calling BS. And stop with that “I wish I could go public” nonsense, it’s offensive.

No, they don't actually. We've always talked about this issue even when my kid was in public so they are aware. And they love us! That is why my child continues to get bday party, hang out, pool invites and vacation invitations from these friends and they come and support my child at sporting and other extracurricular activities. See - we can all be happy!

[Anonymous]

We did not bother to tell anyone. We felt our choice of best fit school for DC wasn't anyone else's business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've encountered the opposite -- families that are jealous that we aren't paying for private for 2 kids. Public is an amazing deal. Some of our friends have to spring for private due to special needs, like dyslexia.

I don't mean to be condescending but they are feigning jealousy. Also, I embellish my child's "issues" when talking to public school parents so they don't feel bad about not being able to afford private school. I'll say things like, "Wow, you are SO lucky that Little Larlo is so focused and can concentrate; my little Larly could NEVER do that!" I don't really mean any of it. Or I'll say, "I WISH I could put little Early in public but she just can't focus. It would save us so much money!" I don't mean any of it but I know it makes my public school friends feel better.

Give me a break. Your friends see right through this and are no doubt being polite and refraining from calling BS. And stop with that “I wish I could go public” nonsense, it’s offensive.

No, they don't actually. We've always talked about this issue even when my kid was in public so they are aware. And they love us! That is why my child continues to get bday party, hang out, pool invites and vacation invitations from these friends and they come and support my child at sporting and other extracurricular activities. See - we can all be happy!

Honestly what kind of friendship is this even? Your fauxness is just pretty gross. You can justify it all you’d like, but I’d rather have friends I don’t have to pretend in front of or straight up lie to — how exhausting. Plus, this first class/economy analogy is quite off. Some of us heavily weighed whether public magnets would be more intellectually stimulating and challenging, whether sending our child to a relatively non diverse (especially socioeconomically) would have negative effects, etc. It’s just a far more complicated question than luxury vs non-luxury.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are pulling kids from private to MCPS and our private friends are all now questioning their need to stay private. It goes both ways. Grass greener thing.

No, they aren't. They are just saying it to make you feel better.