Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?
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Anonymous
| We are moving to private 3rd this year and are on the Hill. Our public school friends are jealous we have certainty and a plan. They are going to try to lottery for some of the charters or failing that, move. The private we are starting is k-12. They aren’t jealous of us but they are jealous of that certainty (as much as anyone is certain when you have kids). Doing the lottery year after year, trying to figure out a MS and HS feed, it’s exhausting. It hasn’t impacted our friendship (yet, school starts in a few weeks) and I would hope we can continue to be honest about what’s working and not working in our lives. |
Anonymous
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My son switched to Sidwell in 5th grade to 6th and he did lose his friends. He tried to stay in touch with his friends from public but they got snotty and told him” go hang out with you rich friends”.
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Anonymous
| It's in to hate the rich these days. |
Anonymous
Exactly. |
Anonymous
| They're not jealous, OP. Quite the opposite, they think you now think you are better than them and are judging their choices because you have been talking about it NONSTOP. We all know mommies like you and you are insufferable. |
Anonymous
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Woman are very jealous creatures by nature. Especially when it comes to there kids.
I am feeling the same vibe from other parents. Ever since I mentioned that my kids are attending private school I'm not getting a lot of positive feedback or support from the public school moms. These schools typically attract upper income people and people that want to expose their kids to more religious teachings. The fact that these schools can be costly and not everyone can afford to send there children to these schools is what bothers mothers from the public schools. We are not well to do we are making financial sacrifices to send out kids to catholic schools. Our income fluctuates it's great sometimes and other times its not so great. I As am excited to meet more of these moms through the private Catholic school I feel like they are friendlier and more supportive. I think its their religious upbringing that contributes to them being nicer people. I feel like I experienced alot of mom's with bigger egoo problems at public schools. |
Anonymous
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I don’t know if they’re jealous, but I keep hearing comments about how they “can’t pay 50k for or year of school!!!”
Ok. Neither can we, really. But we can apply for and receive significant aid for our kid, which we did. And now he has better options than our public. But I say nothing because it’s just weird and awkward, and people can think what they want. |
Anonymous
| Definitely awkward. Even with friends in other parts of the country who wouldn’t be sending their kids to my DS’ school anyhow. We just don’t talk about school. |
Anonymous
Oh definitely? |
Anonymous
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People are very competitive about their kids in this area—-sports, getting your kids into the best colleges, etc. So of course they will go bananas when your kids go to a private school—which many regard as being superior, more elite, and full of the affluent compared to a public school.
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Anonymous
| If you think it is awkward with parents and kids now, just wait until junior and senior year when the college admissions season is picking up steam. |
Anonymous
And the private school parents start to complain about grade deflation and hooked kids and the unFAIRness of some other kid taking their child’s rightful place at a T20. So tiresome. - private school parent |
Anonymous
Right. When the rich start to realize that their money can't buy them everything. |
Anonymous
This. It's getting so much worse. |
Anonymous
“Worse”? Yes, the whining is getting worse. |