husband meeting former female coworker for drinks

[Anonymous]

Is this okay? It makes me uncomfortable. He says it's just to catch up and that they are just friends. It's not a group get-together, it will just be the two of them. We've been married less than one year.

[Anonymous]

My DH has dinner and drinks with female friends occasionally, it doesn't bother me. I know they are just friends.

He actually told you about it, so it's less likely that he's hiding something, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Ask to go along and see his reaction. That will tell you alot.

Personally, it would not bother me. One, he was open about meeting her and told you the logistics (not a group). I believe that if something were up, he would would have fudged the story. Two, my DH has female friends and I have male friends.

[Anonymous]

totally fine. i do this all the time as does my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask to go along and see his reaction. That will tell you alot.

Personally, it would not bother me. One, he was open about meeting her and told you the logistics (not a group). I believe that if something were up, he would would have fudged the story. Two, my DH has female friends and I have male friends.

Disagree. If it were me, I'd react oddly not because something was up, but because why on Earth would my spouse want to hang out with me and a co-worker? It comes off as needy and weird.

But I agree, wouldn't bother me. DH and I both have lunch with opposite sex co-workers. Why should this be any different?

Now if the starts acting strangely or secretive after it happens, then I would confront him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to go along and see his reaction. That will tell you alot.

Personally, it would not bother me. One, he was open about meeting her and told you the logistics (not a group). I believe that if something were up, he would would have fudged the story. Two, my DH has female friends and I have male friends.

Disagree. If it were me, I'd react oddly not because something was up, but because why on Earth would my spouse want to hang out with me and a co-worker? It comes off as needy and weird.
But I agree, wouldn't bother me. DH and I both have lunch with opposite sex co-workers. Why should this be any different?

Now if the starts acting strangely or secretive after it happens, then I would confront him.

I agree 100%

[Anonymous]

my DH does this all the time but I trust him completely so it doesn't bother me at all.

Is there a gut reason you don't trust him?

[Anonymous]

it would bother me if they started having sex.

[Anonymous]

Why would it not be ok OP? Is there a sinister history between you and your husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would it not be ok OP? Is there a sinister history between you and your husband?[/quote

Sinister? No. It just made me feel uncomfortable and wanted to know if this was normal.

[Anonymous]

And so it begins...
Married less than a year and already wifey is turning into some psychic sage who can detect potential problems based purely on intuition.
Actually that's kind of far-fetched.
How about - Married less than a year and already wifey is losing her damn mind and creating problems by blowing things completely out of proportion and using intuition as the basis for her suspicions like she's some psychic sage or something.

Yeah...more like it.

[Anonymous]

dumb idea

[Anonymous]

You now your own DH best, but with mine, I would be fine with it.

[Anonymous]

"know", not "now", sorry!

[Anonymous]

Generally, no it wouldn't bother me at all. Networking is a good thing. If it became more regular and I knew he was meeting up with Jane multiple times a month after hours, I would probably start to be bothered.

Lunch "dates" or a one-off meeting to catch up and maybe do some mentoring or networking sounds totally normal.