husband meeting former female coworker for drinks

[Anonymous]

Do DHs get worked up about these things?

I feel like mine would literally have to see someone insert a penis in me before he would even think anything was up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do DHs get worked up about these things?

I feel like mine would literally have to see someone insert a penis in me before he would even think anything was up.

Mine too. lol, on second thought, he may actually think that was hot.

[Anonymous]

Single female here - I have married male friends and coworkers and sometimes we get together one-on-one for drinks or lunch or whatever. It doesn't mean anything. I would never do anything inappropriate with a "taken" guy and hopefully the guy wouldn't try anything either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ask to go along and see his reaction. That will tell you alot.

Personally, it would not bother me. One, he was open about meeting her and told you the logistics (not a group). I believe that if something were up, he would would have fudged the story. Two, my DH has female friends and I have male friends.

Disagree. If it were me, I'd react oddly not because something was up, but because why on Earth would my spouse want to hang out with me and a co-worker? It comes off as needy and weird.
But I agree, wouldn't bother me. DH and I both have lunch with opposite sex co-workers. Why should this be any different?

Now if the starts acting strangely or secretive after it happens, then I would confront him.

I agree 100%

Yep, agree. It would strike me as bizarre if my DH asked to come along on something like this.

I meet former colleagues, of both sexes, for drinks or dinner or lunch occasionally, as does DH. Doesn't bother either of us in the least.

[Anonymous]

OP is an insecure basket case

[Anonymous]

Would depend entirely on surrounding circumstances. If you've got some particular reason to suspect that this situation isn't as innocent as it sounds like it probably is, then that's what's important. On its face, though, sounds totally fine.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what kind of background you come from, too. Platonic male/female friendships are relatively new in most circles. I think if my own father (in his 60s) told my mom he was getting lunch with a female friend without her she'd tell him to get lost, just because that's the world they were raised in.

[Anonymous]

Haven't you watched "When Harry Met Sally"

[Anonymous]

Women get held back if they can't meet with men to network because the wives don't let them. How women in society keep ourselves from breaking through the glass ceiling.

[Anonymous]

My DH is having a drink after work today with a former employee who happens to be female. I am not at all threatened or worried. He has several former female coworkers that he sees a few times a year for coffee, lunch or drinks. And even more male coworkers that he also meets for coffee, lunch or drinks.

When should you worry? When he doesn't tell you about it. When the quick drink after work turns into him blowing off the dinner he was supposed to be home for. When he doesn't naturally talk about what she is doing at her new job (or what is going on in his old office, if he is the one who left).

[Anonymous]

"When should you worry? When he doesn't tell you about it. When the quick drink after work turns into him blowing off the dinner he was supposed to be home for. "

++ I would meet a male friend for a drink or lunch once in awhile, it's nothing. Networking/meeting with a coworker or former coworker isn't a bad thing for a normal person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask to go along and see his reaction. That will tell you alot.

Personally, it would not bother me. One, he was open about meeting her and told you the logistics (not a group). I believe that if something were up, he would would have fudged the story. Two, my DH has female friends and I have male friends.

Or offer a condom. Whether he takes it or not will tell you alot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women get held back if they can't meet with men to network because the wives don't let them. How women in society keep ourselves from breaking through the glass ceiling.

Good point. I've also seen very bright, competent young women lacking mentorship and even shunned in the workplace, because they also happened to be hot - too much risk for the mentor/boss that others will "talk." You'd expect those women to have an advantage. It's ironic, really.

[Anonymous]

Please don't listen to the women in here. No it's not okay. My husband wouldn't dare ask if he could go out drinking alone with another woman. When I got married, our pastor actually told DH that it's inappropriate to go out along with another woman especially if it involves alcohol.
If they want to hang out and drink, you should tag along.

We've stuck with that rule and several others and it's served us well.

[Anonymous]

And don't forget DC was named as one of the top cities for marriage affairs, so likely a lot of women in here have been bamboozled but are still in la la land about it.