husband meeting former female coworker for drinks

[Anonymous]

If (1) the husband's been meeting other coworkers for drinks and (2) this coworker doesn't seem to be getting met *all the freaking time* for drinks, then I don't see the problem.

10:57 raises a good point. One's background lends a lot to whether these things are seen as "one more thing you do" or "ZOMG end of world."

[Anonymous]

Married man here - I would never go out to for drinks or dinner with a woman who is not very well-known by my wife. My wife really would not care, but it does not feel right to me. Likewise, my wife may go out to meet male college friends, but I know these people (went to their weddings, etc.), and I would not be too happy if my wife was meeting someone I did not know.

I have plenty of female friends/co-workers, and we meet for lunch or coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Haven't you watched "When Harry Met Sally"

But he ended banging her, didn't he?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask to go along and see his reaction. That will tell you alot.

Personally, it would not bother me. One, he was open about meeting her and told you the logistics (not a group). I believe that if something were up, he would would have fudged the story. Two, my DH has female friends and I have male friends.

Or offer a condom. Whether he takes it or not will tell you alot.

Maybe blow DH beforehand?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is okay.

It is weird that some posters would never have their spouse out for drinks with a coworker.

You should not have friends that you don't want your spouse around and vise versa.

Of course, my spouse has no interest in hanging with my friends but if he stopped by when I was having a drink it would totally be fine and if it is not then there is an issue with your relationship.

It is not normal for it to happen all the time or for you to be not welcome.

[Anonymous]

The fact that he was honest makes this OK in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't listen to the women in here. No it's not okay. My husband wouldn't dare ask if he could go out drinking alone with another woman. When I got married, our pastor actually told DH that it's inappropriate to go out along with another woman especially if it involves alcohol.
If they want to hang out and drink, you should tag along.

We've stuck with that rule and several others and it's served us well.

LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't listen to the women in here. No it's not okay. My husband wouldn't dare ask if he could go out drinking alone with another woman. When I got married, our pastor actually told DH that it's inappropriate to go out along with another woman especially if it involves alcohol.
If they want to hang out and drink, you should tag along.

We've stuck with that rule and several others and it's served us well.

So would it be okay if they went out for a root beer float?

[Anonymous]

The "tag along" idea would make sense if it were an old college friend or something, but if he's going out with a work friend they'll probably spend a significant amount of time talking shop, and I personally would rather stay home and watch TV than listen to people talk about work.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

"Meeting for drinks" is pretty normal in DC between young professionals who are networking. More common than coffee during the day or a lunch meeting, in my experience.

I also found that as we got older and had been married longer, we weren't having post-work drinks as much anymore (kids needing to be picked up, dinner with other couples, etc.) and that sort of thing gradually stopped happening.

Couples who do not allow each other to have any sort of friendship with people of the opposite sex make me sad. I get that it works well for some of y'all and that some have really good reasons to do it, but I think it's possible to have platonic friendships with members of the opposite sex.

[Anonymous]

Someone got married too young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't listen to the women in here. No it's not okay. My husband wouldn't dare ask if he could go out drinking alone with another woman. When I got married, our pastor actually told DH that it's inappropriate to go out along with another woman especially if it involves alcohol.
If they want to hang out and drink, you should tag along.

We've stuck with that rule and several others and it's served us well.

I am not a religious person, but I want to thank God that I don't have your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't listen to the women in here. No it's not okay. My husband wouldn't dare ask if he could go out drinking alone with another woman. When I got married, our pastor actually told DH that it's inappropriate to go out along with another woman especially if it involves alcohol.
If they want to hang out and drink, you should tag along.

We've stuck with that rule and several others and it's served us well.

Other rules include:

Husband to wear gray polyester slacks during the week and light brown chinos on weekends.
Sex in the missionary position every Saturday and Tuesday.
No racy thoughts about other men/women when your mind drifts off in church.
Husband allowed to masturbate once a week, but only if he cries with shame at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't listen to the women in here. No it's not okay. My husband wouldn't dare ask if he could go out drinking alone with another woman. When I got married, our pastor actually told DH that it's inappropriate to go out along with another woman especially if it involves alcohol.
If they want to hang out and drink, you should tag along.

We've stuck with that rule and several others and it's served us well.

Other rules include:

Husband to wear gray polyester slacks during the week and light brown chinos on weekends.
Sex in the missionary position every Saturday and Tuesday.
No racy thoughts about other men/women when your mind drifts off in church.
Husband allowed to masturbate once a week, but only if he cries with shame at the same time.

And two (light) beers allowed on Saturdays only. Maybe Super Bowl Sunday...maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women get held back if they can't meet with men to network because the wives don't let them. How women in society keep ourselves from breaking through the glass ceiling.

Coffee during the day would be more appropriate

Why are they meeting up? What sort of job was this? Something related to his current career so that this could be good networking, or something random like waiting tables or life guarding or something minor not related to career?