Party requesting guests to take shoes off

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone think this is a socioeconomic difference as well? I know demanding other people remove their shoes is normal in some foreign cultures. In the US, I have found it more common the lower down the economic ladder you go. I've only ever seen this at MC and LC homes. I would be so embarrassed to ask an adult to remove their shoes. I truly can't imagine in what social setting that would be appropriate in the US.

No, but nice try calling shoes-off households poor

Because calling someone poor is an insult?

That person definitely meant it as such, especially including the "I would be so embarrassed...but I'd never do it because I'm not poor" comment.

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

How?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

Do people need to be told to do this? I am not a shoe-free house and I vacuum my rugs every night and mop/ swimmer wet jet a few times a week. I definitely mop and vacuum after every party. Do people who are this strict about not having shoes use that an an excuse to not clean their homes?!

I spot clean during the week and the cleaners clean all the floors once a week. I was a shoeless household before I had kids, but now that I have them, it also makes my life easier. I don't have to worry about vacuuming up sand or mulch from the playground other than in the mudroom. Maybe it does mean I have to clean less, but isn't that a good thing? I don't want to vacuum my rugs every night. Why not make my life easier?

What does that have to do with an adult party though?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

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Anonymous wrote:If I know I’m going to be at someone’s house for a while, I bring my indoor-only slippers. I get to be comfy and also respectful of their home!

I would never presume that it’s okay to leave my shoes on. I like things clean myself and it’s hard to imagine how often you’d have to clean floors if you were tracking in all the yuck from outside every day.

But it's not every day. It's one party.

No one is saying not to be shoes free most days. They are just saying that if you're hosting a large party, then loosen up the rules and clean up after.

No. Many people are saying they have rare foot problems and have medical grade shoes prescribed by a doctor that never come off their feet. That’s what’s uncommon. Not shoes off.

Plantar fasciitis, arthritis of the foot, and peripheral neuropathy are three common disorders that can make it hard or painful for people to walk without shoes.

Shoes off at an adult dinner party is uncommon enough that people don't plan for it, so you need to warn people in advance.

I will. I also know foot issues are as uncommon in the people I know as general shoes off is for others. So this isn’t an issue.

OP is hosting a school party. You know the foot health of all the parents in your child's class? I assure you, you do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

Do people need to be told to do this? I am not a shoe-free house and I vacuum my rugs every night and mop/ swimmer wet jet a few times a week. I definitely mop and vacuum after every party. Do people who are this strict about not having shoes use that an an excuse to not clean their homes?!

I spot clean during the week and the cleaners clean all the floors once a week. I was a shoeless household before I had kids, but now that I have them, it also makes my life easier. I don't have to worry about vacuuming up sand or mulch from the playground other than in the mudroom. Maybe it does mean I have to clean less, but isn't that a good thing? I don't want to vacuum my rugs every night. Why not make my life easier?

What does that have to do with an adult party though?

Read the post it's replying to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

When do people see bare feet other than at a swimming pool?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

When do people see bare feet other than at a swimming pool?

Literally all summer whenever someone wears sandals? Do you think a flip flop covers so much of a foot that it's wildly different?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are a shoe free home. When I throw adult parities, I never request attendees to take shoes off (unless if it’s raining or snowing outside). After adult parties just vacuum t mop the floors. I enjoy taking my shoes off at friends homes when on regular visits.

I went to a fancy catered Christmas party last year. I wore tights and heels. Big mistake! I had to take off my shoes. I was slipping all night in tights and there were drink spills I stepped in on the floor.

Kid parties? Oh man every kid is taking their nasty shoes off at my door.

Do people need to be told to do this? I am not a shoe-free house and I vacuum my rugs every night and mop/ swimmer wet jet a few times a week. I definitely mop and vacuum after every party. Do people who are this strict about not having shoes use that an an excuse to not clean their homes?!

I spot clean during the week and the cleaners clean all the floors once a week. I was a shoeless household before I had kids, but now that I have them, it also makes my life easier. I don't have to worry about vacuuming up sand or mulch from the playground other than in the mudroom. Maybe it does mean I have to clean less, but isn't that a good thing? I don't want to vacuum my rugs every night. Why not make my life easier?

What does that have to do with an adult party though?

Absolutely nothing. These people are all nuts. Most people I know don’t wear their shoes in the house, but they ALSO don’t require their adult party guests to remove their shoes the one time a year they come over.

[Anonymous]

The Cleveland Clinic tells me that at any given point 3 - 15% of people have athlete's foot.

It is very likely that someone will have it in a large party!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Cleveland Clinic tells me that at any given point 3 - 15% of people have athlete's foot.

It is very likely that someone will have it in a large party!

+1. Or plantar warts.

[Anonymous]

Gross

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Anonymous wrote:If I know I’m going to be at someone’s house for a while, I bring my indoor-only slippers. I get to be comfy and also respectful of their home!

I would never presume that it’s okay to leave my shoes on. I like things clean myself and it’s hard to imagine how often you’d have to clean floors if you were tracking in all the yuck from outside every day.

But it's not every day. It's one party.

No one is saying not to be shoes free most days. They are just saying that if you're hosting a large party, then loosen up the rules and clean up after.

No. Many people are saying they have rare foot problems and have medical grade shoes prescribed by a doctor that never come off their feet. That’s what’s uncommon. Not shoes off.

Plantar fasciitis, arthritis of the foot, and peripheral neuropathy are three common disorders that can make it hard or painful for people to walk without shoes.

Shoes off at an adult dinner party is uncommon enough that people don't plan for it, so you need to warn people in advance.

I will. I also know foot issues are as uncommon in the people I know as general shoes off is for others. So this isn’t an issue.

OP is hosting a school party. You know the foot health of all the parents in your child's class? I assure you, you do not.

I wouldn’t worry about it. If i make the request then they can request an exemption. See how that works? Im also not going to poll everyone on every allergy or food aversion they have. Or individually ask everyone what their preferred beverage iid ti have it on hand. Im the host and if you can’t roll with the punches and be gracious, stay home. We won’t be friends anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The Cleveland Clinic tells me that at any given point 3 - 15% of people have athlete's foot.

It is very likely that someone will have it in a large party!

+1. Or plantar warts.

Still less gross than what is on the bottom of your shoe.

[Anonymous]

DS picked up Athletes foot after the ‘no shoe’ party.