demoralized in MCPS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My therapist said the same thing ---- she was treating several of my colleagues, even! I eventually found that out from them, not the therapist. I can only imagine what she must have been thinking.

I am 22 - the "decades" teacher.

My therapist thinks I should quit, especially if my husband supports me. I absolutely cannot keep up with the work, and when kids don't do their work - receiving failing grades as a result - it's the teacher's fault.

It's a rotten field. I helped a young friend transfer from another county into MCPS, and now I regret it. She's energetic, creative and caring. However, she recently texted me about a change in her schedule, as resources (paras) are being shuffled around to grades that are now using the new online curriculum. She has large classes with no help. unbelievable

A friend at a high-flying school said one of the new teachers (rising star who actually student taught at my former school) is thinking of quitting mid-year. She was FT before moving into a PT position. And now she wants to quit b/c she was offered a job with flexibility and better pay!

to the other PP - I can leave, but again, that affects retirement. I'll get something, but nothing close to what I'd get if I paid my dues. problem is - I've PAID my dues a hundred times over at some of the rougher schools.

I'm exhausted b/c the system takes advantage. Summers are NECESSARY for mental health. I can't reinforce that enough. I'm not sure I can make it through this year.

For a while I split my time between public and private. I took a modest pay cut to go to the private to save my sanity. I was clinically depressed when I left MCPS. I had never been depressed a day in my life before that. I am not depressed now. The toxicity was brutal. Life is short, people. Find a job that doesn’t crush your spirit.

[Anonymous]

MCPS schools are NOT safe. Kids know there are few, if any, consequences for absolutely horrific behavior. This affects the bad kids and the good kids. Why bother reporting any bad behavior if you are he victim? Nothing happens and you are more vulnerable going forward.

Violent attacks are dealt with by giving lunch detention. Kids get to sit in a room and use their phones while they eat their lunch. Do you think that kid learned a lesson?

Teachers, counselors and principals should strike until they are given the resources they need to keep schools functioning. I really don't see any other option. Are they allowed to strike under their contracts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My therapist said the same thing ---- she was treating several of my colleagues, even! I eventually found that out from them, not the therapist. I can only imagine what she must have been thinking.

I am 22 - the "decades" teacher.

My therapist thinks I should quit, especially if my husband supports me. I absolutely cannot keep up with the work, and when kids don't do their work - receiving failing grades as a result - it's the teacher's fault.

It's a rotten field. I helped a young friend transfer from another county into MCPS, and now I regret it. She's energetic, creative and caring. However, she recently texted me about a change in her schedule, as resources (paras) are being shuffled around to grades that are now using the new online curriculum. She has large classes with no help. unbelievable

A friend at a high-flying school said one of the new teachers (rising star who actually student taught at my former school) is thinking of quitting mid-year. She was FT before moving into a PT position. And now she wants to quit b/c she was offered a job with flexibility and better pay!

to the other PP - I can leave, but again, that affects retirement. I'll get something, but nothing close to what I'd get if I paid my dues. problem is - I've PAID my dues a hundred times over at some of the rougher schools.

I'm exhausted b/c the system takes advantage. Summers are NECESSARY for mental health. I can't reinforce that enough. I'm not sure I can make it through this year.

For a while I split my time between public and private. I took a modest pay cut to go to the private to save my sanity. I was clinically depressed when I left MCPS. I had never been depressed a day in my life before that. I am not depressed now. The toxicity was brutal. Life is short, people. Find a job that doesn’t crush your spirit.

true

I am now looking at a career change UNRELATED to teaching! And thinking about it makes me happy. I may see a psychiatrist b/c I'm so anxiety-ridden that I can't function in the morning.

good for you, PP! glad you found your niche

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MCPS schools are NOT safe. Kids know there are few, if any, consequences for absolutely horrific behavior. This affects the bad kids and the good kids. Why bother reporting any bad behavior if you are he victim? Nothing happens and you are more vulnerable going forward.

Violent attacks are dealt with by giving lunch detention. Kids get to sit in a room and use their phones while they eat their lunch. Do you think that kid learned a lesson?

Teachers, counselors and principals should strike until they are given the resources they need to keep schools functioning. I really don't see any other option. Are they allowed to strike under their contracts?

We can't strike. We don't have a contract; we have an agreement.

Areas with good benefits and salaries are usually under an "agreement." Sadly, these are the trade offs. So you suffer b/c you can't find a better financial situation once you're vested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh yeah they don't fire. They nonrenew and try to force and threaten teachers to resign so they can make you shoot yourself in the foot for unemployment benefits because teachers are so rich and powerful.

You can only be nonrenewed if you are a new teacher who doesn’t yet have tenure. That’s years 0-3 and not different from the other public school systems in our region.

As for being “forced” to resign, how exactly does that work? What evidence were they holding over your head?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Hispanic students I work with wear skimpy clothes to attract boys. They refuse clothing that fits them. They tell me they don’t want to wear clothes that are baggy because those clothes are for boys. No, those are girls clothes that fit. They would rather get detention than wear clothes that fit. Their mothers and sisters and aunts dress the same way. It has nothing to do with not having money for clothes that fit them.

Racist
Racist
Racist
Not all Hispanic girls dress alike. I don’t know how people like you even survive with half a brain and no heart.

Also, sexist, sexist, sexist. I am mom to a girl and a boy. My girl has the right to wear whatever she wants at school. Girls are tired of conforming to male expectations about their dress, sexuality and behavior.

I expect my son to control himself, focus on his work and be respectful of all the women he meets. To treat him like his sexuality is some out of control emotion is to have sexist and diminished expectations of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Hispanic students I work with wear skimpy clothes to attract boys. They refuse clothing that fits them. They tell me they don’t want to wear clothes that are baggy because those clothes are for boys. No, those are girls clothes that fit. They would rather get detention than wear clothes that fit. Their mothers and sisters and aunts dress the same way. It has nothing to do with not having money for clothes that fit them.

Racist
Racist
Racist
Not all Hispanic girls dress alike. I don’t know how people like you even survive with half a brain and no heart.

Also, sexist, sexist, sexist. I am mom to a girl and a boy. My girl has the right to wear whatever she wants at school. Girls are tired of conforming to male expectations about their dress, sexuality and behavior.

I expect my son to control himself, focus on his work and be respectful of all the women he meets. To treat him like his sexuality is some out of control emotion is to have sexist and diminished expectations of him.

I am a teacher and the mother of a girl (HS) and boy (ES). While my son is still too young to be thinking about girls, at some point the hormones will kick in. So it's our duty to teach him self-regulation.

Having said that, however, school is a place to learn. Wearing a "clubbing" outfit is distracting and inappropriate. Wearing pants below your rear is also inappropriate and distracting.

I am certainly not arriving to school in a short skirt with thigh-high boots. I use common sense when choosing an outfit.

Use common sense as a parent, too. You are your child's role model. Set appropriate boundaries.

[Anonymous]

I know kids these days are out of control. We need to go back to the good ole days like when I was a kid. When a kid got out of hand, the principal would use his ping paddle with holes drilled into to reduce air friction on the kids. This showed them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Hispanic students I work with wear skimpy clothes to attract boys. They refuse clothing that fits them. They tell me they don’t want to wear clothes that are baggy because those clothes are for boys. No, those are girls clothes that fit. They would rather get detention than wear clothes that fit. Their mothers and sisters and aunts dress the same way. It has nothing to do with not having money for clothes that fit them.

Racist
Racist
Racist
Not all Hispanic girls dress alike. I don’t know how people like you even survive with half a brain and no heart.

Also, sexist, sexist, sexist. I am mom to a girl and a boy. My girl has the right to wear whatever she wants at school. Girls are tired of conforming to male expectations about their dress, sexuality and behavior.

I expect my son to control himself, focus on his work and be respectful of all the women he meets. To treat him like his sexuality is some out of control emotion is to have sexist and diminished expectations of him.

You can let your daughter wear bikini in your house or on street, you can let your son wear his pants halfway down, and even you and your children’s dad can dress same as your children. Please do not display private body parts in school, PTA meeting, and public library.

[Anonymous]

They want teachers to resign so they can snuff out the morale issues and get you to relinquish your state benefits to UI insurance. Then if you don't resign they will lie to mdui in order to try to jam you up. But in the end the lies are empty threats bc, just keep the paper work to prove their lies when they try to fraud your case. I was told in a threatening manner,. "if you don't resign you will never be a teacher again". I thought to myself - is this union prick threatening me because after the abuse of teachers at my school I may never want to teach again. This fraudulent laced blackballing is everywhere in public Ed and unions. I was always under the impression that unions were suppose to help but you pay for the trouble and the lies when you pay union dues.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry.... private schools are on the increase.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Hispanic students I work with wear skimpy clothes to attract boys. They refuse clothing that fits them. They tell me they don’t want to wear clothes that are baggy because those clothes are for boys. No, those are girls clothes that fit. They would rather get detention than wear clothes that fit. Their mothers and sisters and aunts dress the same way. It has nothing to do with not having money for clothes that fit them.

Racist
Racist
Racist
Not all Hispanic girls dress alike. I don’t know how people like you even survive with half a brain and no heart.

Also, sexist, sexist, sexist. I am mom to a girl and a boy. My girl has the right to wear whatever she wants at school. Girls are tired of conforming to male expectations about their dress, sexuality and behavior.

I expect my son to control himself, focus on his work and be respectful of all the women he meets. To treat him like his sexuality is some out of control emotion is to have sexist and diminished expectations of him.

I am a teacher and the mother of a girl (HS) and boy (ES). While my son is still too young to be thinking about girls, at some point the hormones will kick in. So it's our duty to teach him self-regulation.

Having said that, however, school is a place to learn. Wearing a "clubbing" outfit is distracting and inappropriate. Wearing pants below your rear is also inappropriate and distracting.

I am certainly not arriving to school in a short skirt with thigh-high boots. I use common sense when choosing an outfit.

Use common sense as a parent, too. You are your child's role model. Set appropriate boundaries.

Well, you’re an adult. Short skirts and thigh high boots are not typical attire for women your age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They want teachers to resign so they can snuff out the morale issues and get you to relinquish your state benefits to UI insurance. Then if you don't resign they will lie to mdui in order to try to jam you up. But in the end the lies are empty threats bc, just keep the paper work to prove their lies when they try to fraud your case. I was told in a threatening manner,. "if you don't resign you will never be a teacher again". I thought to myself - is this union prick threatening me because after the abuse of teachers at my school I may never want to teach again. This fraudulent laced blackballing is everywhere in public Ed and unions. I was always under the impression that unions were suppose to help but you pay for the trouble and the lies when you pay union dues.

I hear that healing starts when you are heard. You’ve posted on this dozens of times. Has it helped you heal? Maybe you don’t want to get to a place where you can accept that this is not the majority experience in MCPS, but maybe you’ll be able to personally move ahead?

[Anonymous]

When teachers feel empowered and not stuck big changes in education can happen for the better. If we can point out problems and work together to solve them then this is true progress. Teachers should not feel threatened, intimidated, or scared to be creative in their profession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The Hispanic students I work with wear skimpy clothes to attract boys. They refuse clothing that fits them. They tell me they don’t want to wear clothes that are baggy because those clothes are for boys. No, those are girls clothes that fit. They would rather get detention than wear clothes that fit. Their mothers and sisters and aunts dress the same way. It has nothing to do with not having money for clothes that fit them.

Racist
Racist
Racist
Not all Hispanic girls dress alike. I don’t know how people like you even survive with half a brain and no heart.

Also, sexist, sexist, sexist. I am mom to a girl and a boy. My girl has the right to wear whatever she wants at school. Girls are tired of conforming to male expectations about their dress, sexuality and behavior.

I expect my son to control himself, focus on his work and be respectful of all the women he meets. To treat him like his sexuality is some out of control emotion is to have sexist and diminished expectations of him.

I am a teacher and the mother of a girl (HS) and boy (ES). While my son is still too young to be thinking about girls, at some point the hormones will kick in. So it's our duty to teach him self-regulation.

Having said that, however, school is a place to learn. Wearing a "clubbing" outfit is distracting and inappropriate. Wearing pants below your rear is also inappropriate and distracting.

I am certainly not arriving to school in a short skirt with thigh-high boots. I use common sense when choosing an outfit.

Use common sense as a parent, too. You are your child's role model. Set appropriate boundaries.

Well, you’re an adult. Short skirts and thigh high boots are not typical attire for women your age.

That's your answer?

Why am I not surprised????