It’s shocking how many parents tell us (DINKS) we “did it right”

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess this balances it out for OP!

Nah. I’ll retire 20 years earlier than you while you’ll still be stuck paying for college loans and a wedding, lol.

NP but paying for college so that there is another doctor or teacher or architect out in the world to help better our society, and/or paying for a wedding to allow my child to celebrate their marriage, will be an incredible privilege. Also, what on earth will you do with your time when you retire at age 40 instead of 60? Do you really think that will make you happy? No career, no children…. What will be the purpose, the drive, of your life?? A lot of vacations? That’s how you want to spend your short time on this earth?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for those who never had kids, I think they missed out on the importance stuff. I woukd it do it all over again, maybe even more kids.

People who choose not to have kids are making the best decision for themselves. Feeling sorry is such a strange reaction. I would only feel sad for someone who really wanted kids but for whatever reason it didn’t happen.

Except they don't know what they are missing. They think they do, but they don't, and can't ever know. I wouldn't have known before kids. I know what thet are missing now, and yeah, I feel pretty sorry for them. I really do.

DP
.... you know, someone said to me "you don't know what you are missing" about eating cow tongue. Never have I wanted to know what I was missing. I think I'm ok going my entire life not knowing what "delicious" cow tongue tastes like. So.... if someone doesn't want kids, why should anyone else care or judge them?

I love my kids and cannot imagine my life being fulfilling without them. For other people they might actually view having children the way I view eating cow tongue - a hard pass.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for those who never had kids, I think they missed out on the importance stuff. I woukd it do it all over again, maybe even more kids.

People who choose not to have kids are making the best decision for themselves. Feeling sorry is such a strange reaction. I would only feel sad for someone who really wanted kids but for whatever reason it didn’t happen.

Except they don't know what they are missing. They think they do, but they don't, and can't ever know. I wouldn't have known before kids. I know what thet are missing now, and yeah, I feel pretty sorry for them. I really do.

DP
.... you know, someone said to me "you don't know what you are missing" about eating cow tongue. Never have I wanted to know what I was missing. I think I'm ok going my entire life not knowing what "delicious" cow tongue tastes like. So.... if someone doesn't want kids, why should anyone else care or judge them?

I love my kids and cannot imagine my life being fulfilling without them. For other people they might actually view having children the way I view eating cow tongue - a hard pass.

+1 Except that I can imagine my life being fulfilling without them(if they had never been born).

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Anonymous wrote:I think people say it to fill that awkward space where they say they have no kids.

For whatever reason.

"Oh heh heh! You did it right!" Slaps knee.
"You've got plenty of money and free time!" chuffs chin.

It means nothing.

Why is it more awkward to say you don’t have kids than to say you do?

Unless you walk around the world assuming things about everyone you meet.

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Anonymous wrote:OP must be forgiven for thinking that a stressed family friend and a few envious coworkers are representative of "many" parents.

It helps them feel better as they contemplate how long their body will rot before someone bothers to find it.

The answer is: doesn’t matter, they’re probably just going to stuff it in a garbage bag and throw it a dumpster behind Michael’s, because no one cares to do the paperwork to even get you cremated.

What?

You sound for real psycho, and I hope you had no part in raising kids.

Do you think that when you are elderly, previous Larla and Larlo are going to check on your welfare every day? You are in for a rude awakening .

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is ok to not have a child, but nuts to be a DINk. What is the point?

When I was 32 I had a rent stabilized apartment in Manhattan and went to Hamptons and ski trips. Different girls all the time and fun.

I got married to have kids. Why on earth would I want to be with same women rest of life if no kids?

Like bringing your girlfriend on Spring Break.

You gave the emotional maturity of a freshman frat boy.

I feel very sorry for your wife (and wonder if you will still be with her once she has pushed out your spawn), since you seem to think that is the only return that a life partner offers.

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Anonymous wrote:It helps them feel better as they contemplate how long their body will rot before someone bothers to find it.

The answer is: doesn’t matter, they’re probably just going to stuff it in a garbage bag and throw it a dumpster behind Michael’s, because no one cares to do the paperwork to even get you cremated.

Parents, y’all. Raising children for the world.

Freaking psychotic. 😆😆

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is ok to not have a child, but nuts to be a DINk. What is the point?

When I was 32 I had a rent stabilized apartment in Manhattan and went to Hamptons and ski trips. Different girls all the time and fun.

I got married to have kids. Why on earth would I want to be with same women rest of life if no kids?

Like bringing your girlfriend on Spring Break.

You gave the emotional maturity of a freshman frat boy.

I feel very sorry for your wife (and wonder if you will still be with her once she has pushed out your spawn), since you seem to think that is the only return that a life partner offers.

Still, what's the point? Seems like it's just a commitment if a different kind. If a person doesn't what to be tied down by children, why choose to be tied down by marriage then?

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Anonymous wrote:The reactions of the parents in this spread demonstrate just how desperate they are to maintain the fairy tale that their lives weren't a series of huge mistakes.

You're not doing yourself or anyone else a favor by suppressing your true feelings about having kids. Young adults deserve to know the truth that having kids today is horrible, and it's likely to get worse.

Horrible? Marrying a college classmate and having kids in your 20s is the smartest and most fulfilling thing a young adult can do.

Dating apps, hookup culture, boozing through your 20s, marrying in your 30s with tons of mental baggage, and then needing IVF to have a kid has really screwed Americans up.

The women I know who spent their 20’s doing medical research or advancing human rights found that to be pretty fulfilling. Who is your peer group that the choices are suckling infants or booze and hookup culture? You need to expand your world view of what one can accomplish with your time and talents.

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Anonymous wrote:The reactions of the parents in this spread demonstrate just how desperate they are to maintain the fairy tale that their lives weren't a series of huge mistakes.

You're not doing yourself or anyone else a favor by suppressing your true feelings about having kids. Young adults deserve to know the truth that having kids today is horrible, and it's likely to get worse.

Horrible? Marrying a college classmate and having kids in your 20s is the smartest and most fulfilling thing a young adult can do.

Dating apps, hookup culture, boozing through your 20s, marrying in your 30s with tons of mental baggage, and then needing IVF to have a kid has really screwed Americans up.

The women I know who spent their 20’s doing medical research or advancing human rights found that to be pretty fulfilling. Who is your peer group that the choices are suckling infants or booze and hookup culture? You need to expand your world view of what one can accomplish with your time and talents.

Impressive women can do both. It doesn't have to be either or.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for people without children. I really do. But I will never ever reveal my thoughts in any way. Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, I wish we could just head off to Europe like you" but know that I am just blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good. Inside I feel pity for you.

I feel sorry for working mothers. I really do. But I will never reveal my thoughts in anyway, unlike Harrison Butker, although I wholly agree with him.

Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, congratulations in your promotion! I wish I had a high-powered career like you" but know that I am blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good for choosing to have your children raised by other women. Inside I feel pity for you.

But why is it okay for men to “have their kids raised by other people?”

Do you see how archaic and sexist your thinking is? (I hope you have not passed it on to your children.)

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for people without children. I really do. But I will never ever reveal my thoughts in any way. Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, I wish we could just head off to Europe like you" but know that I am just blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good. Inside I feel pity for you.

I feel sorry for working mothers. I really do. But I will never reveal my thoughts in anyway, unlike Harrison Butker, although I wholly agree with him.

Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, congratulations in your promotion! I wish I had a high-powered career like you" but know that I am blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good for choosing to have your children raised by other women. Inside I feel pity for you.

Don't you ever feel guilty about not contributing to your family or society at-large? How many soap operas and daytime talk shows can you really watch while your kids are at school before the weight of your choices sinks in?

I wonder if SAHM’s ever think about the messages they are sending their children, regarding men and women’s capabilities. (When they allow themselves to be financially dependent upon another adult, long after their kids need a full time caretaker at home)

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Anonymous wrote:Why oh why, would a person with no kids come here to post about how great it is and how all her friends with kids envy her.

Isn't there a Shakespeare line about a lady protesting too much?

Extra lol to the childless PPs who are offended by the responses she received.

Exactly, this is a total troll post. None of the events in the original post have ever happened IRL.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for people without children. I really do. But I will never ever reveal my thoughts in any way. Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, I wish we could just head off to Europe like you" but know that I am just blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good. Inside I feel pity for you.

I feel sorry for working mothers. I really do. But I will never reveal my thoughts in anyway, unlike Harrison Butker, although I wholly agree with him.

Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, congratulations in your promotion! I wish I had a high-powered career like you" but know that I am blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good for choosing to have your children raised by other women. Inside I feel pity for you.

Don't you ever feel guilty about not contributing to your family or society at-large? How many soap operas and daytime talk shows can you really watch while your kids are at school before the weight of your choices sinks in?

No, I don't. Having children is the most meaningful thing you can do in life- really the only thing that makes a life meaningful. And given that my children have my full love and dedication, unlike the children of working mothers, my life is even more meaningful than most people's. I get that you don't understand if you're a working mother- that's okay. I would never say this to people like you in real life. I would just silently pity you, and try to say encouraging things to you when you talk about your work so you don't feel so bad about the choices you've made to have other women raise your life's most precious gifts.

So people who discover cures for diseases or rescue people from burning buildings or advance human rights around the world, those who negotiate ends to wars…but don’t procreate, did not have meaningful lives??!

I pity you and fear the way you raised these kids!

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for people without children. I really do. But I will never ever reveal my thoughts in any way. Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, I wish we could just head off to Europe like you" but know that I am just blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good. Inside I feel pity for you.

I feel sorry for working mothers. I really do. But I will never reveal my thoughts in anyway, unlike Harrison Butker, although I wholly agree with him.

Instead, I will say something like, "oh wow, congratulations in your promotion! I wish I had a high-powered career like you" but know that I am blowing smoke up your a-s trying to make you feel good for choosing to have your children raised by other women. Inside I feel pity for you.

Don't you ever feel guilty about not contributing to your family or society at-large? How many soap operas and daytime talk shows can you really watch while your kids are at school before the weight of your choices sinks in?

We don't have any tvs in the house, so I don't watch soap operas. I exercise, read, plan our travels (we take at least two international trip with kids each year), I cook from scratch (my kids never ate Gerber baby food or any other jarred food). My kids are in high school, college and after college now and I contributed amazing healthy (no mental or physical health issues) human beings to this society. Don't feel guilty at all. Feel very proud of them.

Plan your "travels"?

It's so hard to tell whether or not this poster is a troll...

Look you have your 9-5 but you have no idea how much time it takes to plan two international trips per year.

I have two kids AND I am a perfectionist and meticulous planner of trips... because I love to plan trips. We go to Europe and Asia.

So I can only assume your comment was sarcastic, because frankly planning my international trips is the least laborious thing I do in my life

You bury yourself in distraction, devoting yourself to work and "meticulously" planning vacations, instead of devoting yourself fully to a woman's highest calling- motherhood. Sad. Not as sad as if you'd never had children. But still tragic and pitiable, for both you and your children.

Why is parenting the highest calling for women but not men?

1950 called, they would like their mindset back.