2023: where will you move when your kids leave home?

[Anonymous]

Delaware.

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Anonymous wrote:To the person moving to Belize….be extremely cautious about healthcare in Mexico!!!

Why? Do you have to go to Mexico for healthcare? Does Belize not have any?

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Anonymous wrote:To the person moving to Belize….be extremely cautious about healthcare in Mexico!!!

Why? Do you have to go to Mexico for healthcare? Does Belize not have any?

Ignorance of geography maybe? Also, I’m not saying Mexican health care is the best in the world but it’s way cheaper than care in the USA and it’s much easier to get holistic care for a reasonable price especially if you can pay in dollars.

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Anonymous wrote:
My husband and I have lived in the city (DC) for the past 25+ years in 3 different homes and we are finally done with this city. Not bagging on it, but we are ready to stop taking care of a home and start living our semi-retired lives in a new place. We both have remote jobs and can live anywhere. We hate the frigid cold but also don’t want to burn up in the desert SW. We think out West is best because of the natural beauty, national parks, and lower density of humans. But we don’t want to live super remote. Anyone else either moved already or making plans to go someplace that fits this bill or plans to go? Help us decide!!!


Moving to the Villages in Florida where we can live free and not be judged by neighbors

You forgot the /s

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I lived all over as a kid and swore I would put down roots for my kids. I think DMV has a lot to offer but I’m not going to downsize until my kids are out of college and beyond. Many bounce back and I want to live near a city with plenty of jobs. Plus once they have kids I want to have plenty of space in my home for visits. I don’t know if we’ll move out of the area. It’s appealing for sure. But I try to be happy with what I have and not always think the grass is greener.

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Those of you moving to coastal cities are not worried at all about climate change?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have lived in the city (DC) for the past 25+ years in 3 different homes and we are finally done with this city. Not bagging on it, but we are ready to stop taking care of a home and start living our semi-retired lives in a new place. We both have remote jobs and can live anywhere. We hate the frigid cold but also don’t want to burn up in the desert SW. We think out West is best because of the natural beauty, national parks, and lower density of humans. But we don’t want to live super remote. Anyone else either moved already or making plans to go someplace that fits this bill or plans to go? Help us decide!!!

Moving to the Villages in Florida where we can live free and not be judged by neighbors

One of the many things the 2016 election taught us is that some of the folks who live in the Villages are fascists white nationalists, and the majority were Trump backers.

https://www.wesh.com/article/the-villages-white-power-video-trump-tweet/33004251

So, yea, I guess if you are a white nationalist Trump supporter, you " can live free and not be judged by neighbors".

It's a very white community, and I bet mostly Protestant - about 98% white

https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/thevillagescdpflorida/PST045222

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My kids almost have zero relationships with my 83 year old MIL. Her place is too small for the five of us and dog to visit. She also refuses to visit or travel.

Why can't you board your dog? You should visit you MIL anyway. Expecting an 83 yo to travel alone is silly. You can pack in a small house for a brief visit. It sounds like you just don't like MIL.

+1 we make the trek across the country to visit my parents and stay in a hotel or airbnb condo. They are in their 80s and have a hard time flying that far, and they live in a tiny condo.

I'm not even all that close to my parents, but they are still my parents, and I want my kids to see their grandparents at least once a year or so.

IMO, you are cheating your kids of seeing your grandparents.

As kids in a family of 6, we used to visit my grandparents and stay at their tiny two-room cabin. We slept on the floor and had a blast. My grandma was a good cook and I have a lot of nice memories. My parents probably hated it lol, but I'm glad they put up with the inconvenience.

When we have an empty nest, I plan on staying in our paid off home. If we have grandkids in a different state, I'd probably move there.

I'm not sure I'd follow my kids around. Adults move, typically due to jobs. Our families are spread out all over the globe. So, my parents just stay put, and we all just visit.

[Anonymous]

Most people married later in life by times kids leave will be too old to downsize.

My youngest graduates college when I am 67.

My neighbor who did marry younger has a 21 and 25 year old but on second marriage has a 15 and 13 year old. Technically hard to downsize when you start a second family.

I do think snow birds and second homes is more common among richer people married later in life or second marriages with kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Most people married later in life by times kids leave will be too old to downsize.

My youngest graduates college when I am 67.

My neighbor who did marry younger has a 21 and 25 year old but on second marriage has a 15 and 13 year old. Technically hard to downsize when you start a second family.

I do think snow birds and second homes is more common among richer people married later in life or second marriages with kids.

Jesus that’s old. When my fourth / youngest graduated college I was barely 50. Why’d you wait so long?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have lived in the city (DC) for the past 25+ years in 3 different homes and we are finally done with this city. Not bagging on it, but we are ready to stop taking care of a home and start living our semi-retired lives in a new place. We both have remote jobs and can live anywhere. We hate the frigid cold but also don’t want to burn up in the desert SW. We think out West is best because of the natural beauty, national parks, and lower density of humans. But we don’t want to live super remote. Anyone else either moved already or making plans to go someplace that fits this bill or plans to go? Help us decide!!!

Moving to the Villages in Florida where we can live free and not be judged by neighbors

One of the many things the 2016 election taught us is that some of the folks who live in the Villages are fascists white nationalists, and the majority were Trump backers.

https://www.wesh.com/article/the-villages-white-power-video-trump-tweet/33004251

So, yea, I guess if you are a white nationalist Trump supporter, you " can live free and not be judged by neighbors".

It's a very white community, and I bet mostly Protestant - about 98% white

https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/thevillagescdpflorida/PST045222

These types of communities across the country, blue state or red state are majority caucasian. Your statistic means nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:The real trick is to have a couple of residences that you can bounce between during your retirement years. If you keep residency days below the statutory threshold, you can conceivably also eliminate any state taxes. When not staying in a home, you rent it out as a furnished unit.

Lets say you had a 1BR in NYC, house in Chevy Chase MD, and a home in San Diego CA. With enough documentation and staying below the 183 day/six month rule, you could conceivably pay no state income tax other than that related to rental income of the home in the jurisdiction.

You have to be domiciled somewhere for tax purposes.

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Anonymous wrote:I lived all over as a kid and swore I would put down roots for my kids. I think DMV has a lot to offer but I’m not going to downsize until my kids are out of college and beyond. Many bounce back and I want to live near a city with plenty of jobs. Plus once they have kids I want to have plenty of space in my home for visits. I don’t know if we’ll move out of the area. It’s appealing for sure. But I try to be happy with what I have and not always think the grass is greener.

You seem balanced and reasonable, PP!
When do you think is a good time to decide on where to put roots? We have an infant but are thinking about moving to another state, not sure when we should decide that by (preschool?).

[Anonymous]

the house is paid for, so why will we move out?

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Anonymous wrote:Most people married later in life by times kids leave will be too old to downsize.

My youngest graduates college when I am 67.

My neighbor who did marry younger has a 21 and 25 year old but on second marriage has a 15 and 13 year old. Technically hard to downsize when you start a second family.

I do think snow birds and second homes is more common among richer people married later in life or second marriages with kids.

Jesus that’s old. When my fourth / youngest graduated college I was barely 50. Why’d you wait so long?

Not old at all. Was my last one. Both my grandmothers and great grandmothers had kids up to their mid 40s. They had between 5-11 kids. Did you think people in 1890 with 13 kids had them all young?

Now Robert Deniro and Al Pacino that’s old. Having only two kids and stopping early in childbearing years is a new thing.