2023: where will you move when your kids leave home?

[Anonymous]

I’ll probably stay in my paid-off Silver Spring sh*t-shack and do A LOT of traveling.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have lived in the city (DC) for the past 25+ years in 3 different homes and we are finally done with this city. Not bagging on it, but we are ready to stop taking care of a home and start living our semi-retired lives in a new place. We both have remote jobs and can live anywhere. We hate the frigid cold but also don’t want to burn up in the desert SW. We think out West is best because of the natural beauty, national parks, and lower density of humans. But we don’t want to live super remote. Anyone else either moved already or making plans to go someplace that fits this bill or plans to go? Help us decide!!!

Moving to the Villages in Florida where we can live free and not be judged by neighbors

One of the many things the 2016 election taught us is that some of the folks who live in the Villages are fascists white nationalists, and the majority were Trump backers.

https://www.wesh.com/article/the-villages-white-power-video-trump-tweet/33004251

So, yea, I guess if you are a white nationalist Trump supporter, you " can live free and not be judged by neighbors".

It's a very white community, and I bet mostly Protestant - about 98% white

https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/thevillagescdpflorida/PST045222

These types of communities across the country, blue state or red state are majority caucasian. Your statistic means nothing.

It means something for us nonwhite people looking for a place to retire. Glad you have no concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the house is paid for, so why will we move out?

for us, it's because we don't want to take care of a 12k lot and 3200 sqft sfh in our retirement. The space is great when you have kids. It's unused space once they leave the nest.

I'd still get a 3br/2ba, but I don't want a huge lot to take care of when I'm retired. I want to travel a lot, and not deal with maintaining the yard.

[Anonymous]

Virginia somewhere south of NOVA, or NC maybe. We like it here but want more access to nature and lower COL.

But our son keeps saying he wants to move out west someday, and if he does we will likely do the same.

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Anonymous wrote:4 years for us! Requirements (we haven't yet figured it out, but am watching this thread for ideas):
Blue state
Good medical care
Within 50 minutes of an International Airport
College town a plus, but not tiny college and not big state U
Would like to be on a natural lake, but not a deal breaker
4 seasons, ok if winters are miserable, we will head to Costa Rica or Puerto Rico for 2 months
Ok if summers are humid and miserable, we will head to Maine or Oregon for 2 months

Evanston, IL

I love Evanston, but it's not lower density or particularly naturally beautiful like OP wants.

Madison or Milwaukee Wisconsin are probably a better fit, but the winters are frigid and long.

Doesn’t Madison qualify as “big state U,” as PP so lovingly puts it?

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Anonymous wrote:Most people married later in life by times kids leave will be too old to downsize.

My youngest graduates college when I am 67.

My neighbor who did marry younger has a 21 and 25 year old but on second marriage has a 15 and 13 year old. Technically hard to downsize when you start a second family.

I do think snow birds and second homes is more common among richer people married later in life or second marriages with kids.

Jesus that’s old. When my fourth / youngest graduated college I was barely 50. Why’d you wait so long?

Not old at all. Was my last one. Both my grandmothers and great grandmothers had kids up to their mid 40s. They had between 5-11 kids. Did you think people in 1890 with 13 kids had them all young?

Now Robert Deniro and Al Pacino that’s old. Having only two kids and stopping early in childbearing years is a new thing.

People in 1890 with 13 kids were (1) uncommon and (2) typically weren’t having their youngest kid at 45. So no, you’re wrong.

It’s very uncommon today to have a 21 or 22 year old when you’re 67. Yes, people have kids in their mid—40s, but it’s not “common” - not even in the DMV, and despite the number of women who will now jump all over me and said they did it.

[Anonymous]

PP here. Specifically, according to the March of Dimes,

“Of all live births in the United States during 2018-2020 (average), 4.6% were to women under the age of 20, 47.5% were to women ages 20-29, 44.4% were to women ages 30-39, and 3.5% were to women ages 40 and older.”

If only 3.5 percent of babies are born to mothers 40 and older, the percentage born to 45 year olds is practically nil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the house is paid for, so why will we move out?

To cash out -- you sell you place and buy a new, lower cost place for cash and invest the rest.

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Anonymous wrote: Probably one of the Carolinas or somewhere west like California.

North Carolina is closed, there are already too many Yankees from the DMV here telling everyone “that’s not how we did it in Virginia”, or “oh the food here in North Carolina isn’t anything like the food we had in Maryland” or “why doesn’t South Carolina have diners?”

No, it is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those of you moving to coastal cities are not worried at all about climate change?

Sure we are. I'm hedging my bets in terms of real estate.

[Anonymous]

Buenos Aires

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll probably stay in my paid-off Silver Spring sh*t-shack and do A LOT of traveling.

I’ll probably stay in my paid-off affordable, beautiful, spacious Germantown SFH in an amazing UMC, white collar, diverse neighborhood with a low, low, low rated school pyramid and do A LOT of traveling.

[Anonymous]

Barcelona

[Anonymous]

Alejandro Selkirk Island.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. Specifically, according to the March of Dimes,

“Of all live births in the United States during 2018-2020 (average), 4.6% were to women under the age of 20, 47.5% were to women ages 20-29, 44.4% were to women ages 30-39, and 3.5% were to women ages 40 and older.”

If only 3.5 percent of babies are born to mothers 40 and older, the percentage born to 45 year olds is practically nil.

I am talking men not women. My male friend who was 50 when his kid started kindergarten was youngest Dad in class. Most were second marriages with younger wife or career guys married later in life. The women were younger.