Chastised for not tipping on a to go order

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

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Anonymous wrote:I look at it as making someone’s day just a little bit better.

We were on a road trip once and other than a hole in the wall deli, the only place to eat was Pizza Hut. Our server was unbelievably kind and great at her job. DH went to the bathroom and overheard her talking to someone in the kitchen about some bad life stuff with kid. DH left her $500 tip and thank you for the great service note. We left before she came back to the table. As w were pulling out, we could see her burst into tears through the window. Never know how much $5, $50 or $500 can change someone’s life. If I can get $50 in carry out on Friday night $55-60 isn’t a stretch.

Great story and I agree. It amazes me how self absorbed a lot of these anti-tippers are, as if a few bucks they keep in their wallet or bank account is so much more important than contributing to the barely living wage many servers and counter workers get. Thankfully I know for a fact that aside from these DCUM anti threads most people tip appropriately and are not so selfish and cheap.

It is not my responsibility to personally subsidize wages. I am not a charity.

If you go to tipping places then it is your responsibility. Just stay home.

If all the "normal" tippers stayed home, most places will shut down and you whackos won't have a place to eat! You'll have to move your lazy asses and cook for your family or maybe even learn to cook. Howdya like that?

And yet, we’ve always had societal customs about tipping waitstaff and not cashiers and had functioning restaurants and coffee places for decades.

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

This.

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

Okay, Scrooge.

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

This.

Can we inform people of how these people get paid tho? Without being accused of "guilt tripping"? So that maybe the uninformed that have posted in this thread can understand?

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

This.

Can we inform people of how these people get paid tho? Without being accused of "guilt tripping"? So that maybe the uninformed that have posted in this thread can understand?

DP. What exactly do you mean by “these people”? And, go ahead, inform me of how they get paid.

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Anonymous wrote:I look at it as making someone’s day just a little bit better.

We were on a road trip once and other than a hole in the wall deli, the only place to eat was Pizza Hut. Our server was unbelievably kind and great at her job. DH went to the bathroom and overheard her talking to someone in the kitchen about some bad life stuff with kid. DH left her $500 tip and thank you for the great service note. We left before she came back to the table. As w were pulling out, we could see her burst into tears through the window. Never know how much $5, $50 or $500 can change someone’s life. If I can get $50 in carry out on Friday night $55-60 isn’t a stretch.

Great story and I agree. It amazes me how self absorbed a lot of these anti-tippers are, as if a few bucks they keep in their wallet or bank account is so much more important than contributing to the barely living wage many servers and counter workers get. Thankfully I know for a fact that aside from these DCUM anti threads most people tip appropriately and are not so selfish and cheap.

It is not my responsibility to personally subsidize wages. I am not a charity.

If you go to tipping places then it is your responsibility. Just stay home.

tipping. is. not. required.
it. is. not. the. law.

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

Okay, Scrooge.

Go tip the dishwasher then.

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

And you are just virtue signalling.

Somehow I think you drag that tired phrase out anytime someone does anything remotely decent, because you can't fathom people doing something out of decency. No one knows except the restaurant worker if pp tips on takeout, so who would she even be signaling to?

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

It’s not cheap nor is it an excuse. Feel free to toss money around for fun but don’t try to guilt trip people for not playing along.

This.

Can we inform people of how these people get paid tho? Without being accused of "guilt tripping"? So that maybe the uninformed that have posted in this thread can understand?

DP. What exactly do you mean by “these people”? And, go ahead, inform me of how they get paid.

Well you could read the posts in this very thread about how they are paid well less than minimum wage and depend on tips to get to it. I posted a link with the law and the rates for NY. Unfair or not, that is the system, legally.

And I tried to reply without being an a-hole and I politely request you do the same and leave the "go ahead" stuff out of the discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:I look at it as making someone’s day just a little bit better.

We were on a road trip once and other than a hole in the wall deli, the only place to eat was Pizza Hut. Our server was unbelievably kind and great at her job. DH went to the bathroom and overheard her talking to someone in the kitchen about some bad life stuff with kid. DH left her $500 tip and thank you for the great service note. We left before she came back to the table. As w were pulling out, we could see her burst into tears through the window. Never know how much $5, $50 or $500 can change someone’s life. If I can get $50 in carry out on Friday night $55-60 isn’t a stretch.

Great story and I agree. It amazes me how self absorbed a lot of these anti-tippers are, as if a few bucks they keep in their wallet or bank account is so much more important than contributing to the barely living wage many servers and counter workers get. Thankfully I know for a fact that aside from these DCUM anti threads most people tip appropriately and are not so selfish and cheap.

It is not my responsibility to personally subsidize wages. I am not a charity.

If you go to tipping places then it is your responsibility. Just stay home.

tipping. is. not. required.
it. is. not. the. law.

True. It. is. an. opportunity. to. show. how. miserly. you. are.

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Either an entitled waitress or one that's on the spectrum with rigid rules.

I would have responded in the same way, OP.

OP initiated the sequence of events with her cheapness and entitled attitude.

Scroll up a bit. The restaurant owner disagrees with you. A tip on takeout is appreciated, but not expected, and certainly not demanded.

I don't have to scroll up to know how to treat workers with kindness.

Well the staff at this restaurant didn’t treat OP with kindness, so maybe you still have some life lessons to learn.

No, the worker didn't respond with kindness. Most of us don't get that kind of response from restaurant employees because we treat them with kindness and respect and show our appreciation by tipping them for their service. You have an opportunity to do better in the coming new year!😊👍

Uhhh, no. No one is entitled to tips. And if you demand a tip, you are rude and should be fired. People like you are encouraging this ridiculous, entitled behavior. Congrats.

No one is entitled to a tip. And you can continue to act like a cheap jerk.

Tipping has nothing to do with being kind or being a jerk. You are paying for the quality of service. In this instance there was no service.

Oh, I thought someone prepared a to go order for the OP. Maybe she got her order from a vending machine?

Guess the OP should tip the cook, the dishwasher, the rest of the kitchen staff too since they all contributed to the making the food?

Not to worry. I doubt the OP wouldn't even consider giving a dime to any of them.

Nor would the majority of people.

Nor should they, because they’re getting paid the amount they agreed to work for. This overtipping nonsense feels creepily paternalistic. Some of you feel so pleased with yourselves for tossing a few bucks at people you deem lesser than you. It’s more about you than them, and that’s exactly what these stupid iPad point-of-sale systems are capitalizing on.

We've all noted your tiresome efforts to rationalize your cheapness.

I don’t care. I worked in restaurants for years, both back of the house and front, tipped and untipped. I feel pretty good about my thoughts on this matter.

I agree with you 100%.
The “we tip everyone everywhere” crowd are literal virtue signalers. It’s tiresome.
And no, I’m not cheap.

Yes, you are. But you seem fine with it. No worries.

It’s not cheap to not tip when you aren’t getting a service. Tipping is not for food preparation. It’s for service at a table.

We have heard your excuses ad nauseum. Do what you want. But you ARE cheap.

And you are just virtue signalling.

Somehow I think you drag that tired phrase out anytime someone does anything remotely decent, because you can't fathom people doing something out of decency. No one knows except the restaurant worker if pp tips on takeout, so who would she even be signaling to?

+1 Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a restaurant what positions are minimum wage hourly vs server pay?

Busboys, cooks, hostess, dishwashers?

Does anyone know or does it depend on the state?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#endtipping

It's a movement for 2023

Great. That must mean you support a living wage.

Not the PP. I dont tip for take out orders either. And despise tipping culture in general. I would much prefer that restaurants upped their prices and paid servers a fair (living) wage. I would then be free to leave a tip for exceptional service rather than someone merely doing their job.

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Very strange that we are now supposed to tip on every damn thing. I could understand trying to keep certain restaurants afloat during the pandemic, but it's not the case anymore. When I had worked in the service sector and was fine being paid my employee. Now we are all the sudden expected to tip for everything, including poor service.