Frustrated with husband and mother in law

[Anonymous]

Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Your family sounds trashy and disorganized. Normal adults don’t “clamor” to do things without checking if they can and working out logistics. OP most likely browbeat her MIL into this arrangement, especially taking advantage of the lady’s financial situation. She sounds deranged and controlling in all her posts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Your family sounds trashy and disorganized. Normal adults don’t “clamor” to do things without checking if they can and working out logistics. OP most likely browbeat her MIL into this arrangement, especially taking advantage of the lady’s financial situation. She sounds deranged and controlling in all her posts.

You sound sound bitter and jealous no one wants to see you or your brats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Whether they can handle it or not? And you think that sounds like the ideal situation for a week or so? Any warm body will do for your kids, I guess. Most people prefer to leave kids with responsible and able people up to the task. Not like OP's MIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Your family sounds trashy and disorganized. Normal adults don’t “clamor” to do things without checking if they can and working out logistics. OP most likely browbeat her MIL into this arrangement, especially taking advantage of the lady’s financial situation. She sounds deranged and controlling in all her posts.

You sound sound bitter and jealous no one wants to see you or your brats.

Lol so defensive, guess I was right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Whether they can handle it or not? And you think that sounds like the ideal situation for a week or so? Any warm body will do for your kids, I guess. Most people prefer to leave kids with responsible and able people up to the task. Not like OP's MIL.

Geez internet is insane today. What I am saying is we do work through logistics and come up with a solution that makes everyone happy and does not over exert anyone, while being tactful. But I respect that sometimes grandparents do want to have 1:1 time to build a special relationship with their grandkids. That is very far from any warm body.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Whether they can handle it or not? And you think that sounds like the ideal situation for a week or so? Any warm body will do for your kids, I guess. Most people prefer to leave kids with responsible and able people up to the task. Not like OP's MIL.

Geez internet is insane today. What I am saying is we do work through logistics and come up with a solution that makes everyone happy and does not over exert anyone, while being tactful. But I respect that sometimes grandparents do want to have 1:1 time to build a special relationship with their grandkids. That is very far from any warm body.

OPs MIL offered to do it for half the time, that's not nothing. Even if OP thinks it was all easy and was going to go swimmingly, MIL was probably being realistic about what she thought she could handle. Not to mention this required her leaving her home for almost 2 weeks to sleep at OPs. That's a big inconvenience to a lot of people. Who knows what she has going on at her house that would need taking care of like watering plants, getting mail, feeding fish, keeping an eye on things. Packing and going somewhere else for such a long time is a burden.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Your family sounds trashy and disorganized. Normal adults don’t “clamor” to do things without checking if they can and working out logistics. OP most likely browbeat her MIL into this arrangement, especially taking advantage of the lady’s financial situation. She sounds deranged and controlling in all her posts.

You sound sound bitter and jealous no one wants to see you or your brats.

DP. You sound poor and low class. UC/UMC think rationally and make plans before committing to a big ask like watching others’ kids for a week, even if it’s grandkids. Lower class are ready at a moment’s notice to take in grandkids/whoever else’s kids because life is so chaotic and unpredictable for them. Ex, kids’ parents incarcerated or are drug addicts, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Your family sounds trashy and disorganized. Normal adults don’t “clamor” to do things without checking if they can and working out logistics. OP most likely browbeat her MIL into this arrangement, especially taking advantage of the lady’s financial situation. She sounds deranged and controlling in all her posts.

You sound sound bitter and jealous no one wants to see you or your brats.

DP. You sound poor and low class. UC/UMC think rationally and make plans before committing to a big ask like watching others’ kids for a week, even if it’s grandkids. Lower class are ready at a moment’s notice to take in grandkids/whoever else’s kids because life is so chaotic and unpredictable for them. Ex, kids’ parents incarcerated or are drug addicts, etc.

I’m the Op and I didn’t write that. You get ther this is a forum and a lot of people are responding?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Both side of our family have grandparents who clamor to take the kids for a week or so. Whether they can handle it or not, whether kids want to go, whether we want to be away from the kids, are all different questions and we work it out as it arises. But I didn’t think OP’s plan was bad or rude to MIL. Some grandparents really want 1:1 time, in addition to everyone all together. Hope the scramble works out.

Your family sounds trashy and disorganized. Normal adults don’t “clamor” to do things without checking if they can and working out logistics. OP most likely browbeat her MIL into this arrangement, especially taking advantage of the lady’s financial situation. She sounds deranged and controlling in all her posts.

You sound sound bitter and jealous no one wants to see you or your brats.

DP. You sound poor and low class. UC/UMC think rationally and make plans before committing to a big ask like watching others’ kids for a week, even if it’s grandkids. Lower class are ready at a moment’s notice to take in grandkids/whoever else’s kids because life is so chaotic and unpredictable for them. Ex, kids’ parents incarcerated or are drug addicts, etc.

Good insight. This is very true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How selfish are you going away for 12 days and expecting your MIL to stay that long? You sound selfish and dumb, OP.

Reading comprehension?

OP outlined everything she set up for MiL to watch the kids. FWIW, seems like it was pretty thoughtful set up as well as remunerative for MiL, who really, really, really should not have waited so long to get out of it. The moment she started having doubts she should have told her son and DiL.

Nope. I read all of OP’s plans. Its still selfish and stupid to expect ANY family member to stay with your kids for 12 days.

Well, your reading comprehension is poor, because Dear Old MeeMaw still wanted them to go for six days because she wanted the money.

Nope. My reading comprehension is fine. Regardless of what MeeMaw wants, expecting any family member to watch your kids ( regardless of all the bs plans OP organized to make MeeMaw’s life easier) is selfish and stupid. If OP wants to act like a high roller vacationing in Europe for 2 weeks, she can do what the rest of us do and hire a nanny.