Frustrated with husband and mother in law

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Anonymous wrote:Just hire a sitter

Yes but on 3 days notice I am scrambling. This is something I would have liked to know about before booking so so could have taken the kids or interviewed sitters and found a good fit

If you want to abandon your kids for two weeks that’s on you but clearly she does not want to be responsible for them.

I cannot help but feel the same thing. Anybody would think a 12-day vacation away from the kids these days is appropriate is also somebody who steamrolled grandma into saying yes in the first place. I would cancel that trip and get serious family therapy.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people are happy to watch their grandkids for a couple of weeks.

I don't know of any grandparent who want to watch their grandkids on their own for a couple of weeks. I know of grandparents (husband and wife pair), who will look after a grandchild or multiple grandkids, for part of the day, in their own house. No one is doing this when they are single and alone and elderly, in someone else's house, 24/7 for two weeks. No. One. And two kids below 6? No way.

OP seems like one of those people who believe in getting the last drop of blood from the MIL because it seems the MIL is dependent on her son for financial help. OP is basically a disgusting POS.

WOW. what is your problem? Are you projecting?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just hire a sitter

Yes but on 3 days notice I am scrambling. This is something I would have liked to know about before booking so so could have taken the kids or interviewed sitters and found a good fit

If you want to abandon your kids for two weeks that’s on you but clearly she does not want to be responsible for them.

I cannot help but feel the same thing. Anybody would think a 12-day vacation away from the kids these days is appropriate is also somebody who steamrolled grandma into saying yes in the first place. I would cancel that trip and get serious family therapy.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people are happy to watch their grandkids for a couple of weeks.

I don't know of any grandparent who want to watch their grandkids on their own for a couple of weeks. I know of grandparents (husband and wife pair), who will look after a grandchild or multiple grandkids, for part of the day, in their own house. No one is doing this when they are single and alone and elderly, in someone else's house, 24/7 for two weeks. No. One. And two kids below 6? No way.

OP seems like one of those people who believe in getting the last drop of blood from the MIL because it seems the MIL is dependent on her son for financial help. OP is basically a disgusting POS.

Troll. OP is paying for full day camp. OP is paying for meals delivered. OP has arranged weekends when friends will care for her children.

Basically MIL has nothing to do except morning and evening routines 5 days a week for two weeks, and the rest of the time she can nap, watch TV and sit on the couch eating bonbons!

So stop it with the trolling. I am convinced that all of the threads critical of OP are either by people who didn't actually her original post, or trolls who just want to attack her for no good reason.

Hi OP, can yoy stop trolling and stop sock-puppeting. You are really a disgusting mother who thinks that someone else should take care of your kids. You do not have to pay MIL. You do not have to buy childcare on weekends. You do not have to buy food and camps. Take all that money and instead pay for your kids to go on the vacation with you. Problem solved.

you are an idiot. all that money is non-refundable or there are too many penalties for cancellations to be worth much. if only grandma told them sooner that she was not up for the job.
DP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just hire a sitter

Yes but on 3 days notice I am scrambling. This is something I would have liked to know about before booking so so could have taken the kids or interviewed sitters and found a good fit

If you want to abandon your kids for two weeks that’s on you but clearly she does not want to be responsible for them.

I cannot help but feel the same thing. Anybody would think a 12-day vacation away from the kids these days is appropriate is also somebody who steamrolled grandma into saying yes in the first place. I would cancel that trip and get serious family therapy.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people are happy to watch their grandkids for a couple of weeks.

I don't know of any grandparent who want to watch their grandkids on their own for a couple of weeks. I know of grandparents (husband and wife pair), who will look after a grandchild or multiple grandkids, for part of the day, in their own house. No one is doing this when they are single and alone and elderly, in someone else's house, 24/7 for two weeks. No. One. And two kids below 6? No way.

OP seems like one of those people who believe in getting the last drop of blood from the MIL because it seems the MIL is dependent on her son for financial help. OP is basically a disgusting POS.

Troll. OP is paying for full day camp. OP is paying for meals delivered. OP has arranged weekends when friends will care for her children.

Basically MIL has nothing to do except morning and evening routines 5 days a week for two weeks, and the rest of the time she can nap, watch TV and sit on the couch eating bonbons!

So stop it with the trolling. I am convinced that all of the threads critical of OP are either by people who didn't actually her original post, or trolls who just want to attack her for no good reason.

Hi OP, can yoy stop trolling and stop sock-puppeting. You are really a disgusting mother who thinks that someone else should take care of your kids. You do not have to pay MIL. You do not have to buy childcare on weekends. You do not have to buy food and camps. Take all that money and instead pay for your kids to go on the vacation with you. Problem solved.

you are an idiot. all that money is non-refundable or there are too many penalties for cancellations to be worth much. if only grandma told them sooner that she was not up for the job.
DP

Lol ok OP. You’re trying hard but failing to convince anyone you’re right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just hire a sitter

Yes but on 3 days notice I am scrambling. This is something I would have liked to know about before booking so so could have taken the kids or interviewed sitters and found a good fit

If you want to abandon your kids for two weeks that’s on you but clearly she does not want to be responsible for them.

I cannot help but feel the same thing. Anybody would think a 12-day vacation away from the kids these days is appropriate is also somebody who steamrolled grandma into saying yes in the first place. I would cancel that trip and get serious family therapy.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people are happy to watch their grandkids for a couple of weeks.

I don't know of any grandparent who want to watch their grandkids on their own for a couple of weeks. I know of grandparents (husband and wife pair), who will look after a grandchild or multiple grandkids, for part of the day, in their own house. No one is doing this when they are single and alone and elderly, in someone else's house, 24/7 for two weeks. No. One. And two kids below 6? No way.

OP seems like one of those people who believe in getting the last drop of blood from the MIL because it seems the MIL is dependent on her son for financial help. OP is basically a disgusting POS.

Troll. OP is paying for full day camp. OP is paying for meals delivered. OP has arranged weekends when friends will care for her children.

Basically MIL has nothing to do except morning and evening routines 5 days a week for two weeks, and the rest of the time she can nap, watch TV and sit on the couch eating bonbons!

So stop it with the trolling. I am convinced that all of the threads critical of OP are either by people who didn't actually her original post, or trolls who just want to attack her for no good reason.

Hi OP, can yoy stop trolling and stop sock-puppeting. You are really a disgusting mother who thinks that someone else should take care of your kids. You do not have to pay MIL. You do not have to buy childcare on weekends. You do not have to buy food and camps. Take all that money and instead pay for your kids to go on the vacation with you. Problem solved.

you are an idiot. all that money is non-refundable or there are too many penalties for cancellations to be worth much. if only grandma told them sooner that she was not up for the job.
DP

OP said herself the camp is refundable (see pg 7). I find that hard to believe, but whatever. A lot of this is hard to believe. With the refunded camp money she can just buy her kids tickets and save on paying grandma and all the sitters as well. Seems like that's the most economical choice at this point. And she gets to go on the trip, what's the problem? The issue was never is Grandma an evil witch or not, it's that OP was out of line for being mad her husband won't reason with her and force her to do it. If someone doesn't want to watch your kids, game over, you don't guilt or force them to do it. You can be mad that your plans are ruined but not try to fix it and make her do something she's clearly uncomfortable doing.

[Anonymous]

Gran is being inconsiderate and selfish. She absolutely should have cancelled sooner. Hopefully you’ve learned your lesson and won’t rely on her for anything in the future.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:12 days is an awfully long time if you haven’t been away that long before. What are her concerns? Where are you going for so long? It’s a LOT to ask anyone. I can’t imagine.

We are also paying her and kids are in camp all day

I doubt she cares about the money when she knows you’re using her

JFC. She's not using her if she a) agreed to do it and b) is being PAID TO DO IT.

[Anonymous]

How selfish are you going away for 12 days and expecting your MIL to stay that long? You sound selfish and dumb, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How selfish are you going away for 12 days and expecting your MIL to stay that long? You sound selfish and dumb, OP.

Reading comprehension?

OP outlined everything she set up for MiL to watch the kids. FWIW, seems like it was pretty thoughtful set up as well as remunerative for MiL, who really, really, really should not have waited so long to get out of it. The moment she started having doubts she should have told her son and DiL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How selfish are you going away for 12 days and expecting your MIL to stay that long? You sound selfish and dumb, OP.

Reading comprehension?

OP outlined everything she set up for MiL to watch the kids. FWIW, seems like it was pretty thoughtful set up as well as remunerative for MiL, who really, really, really should not have waited so long to get out of it. The moment she started having doubts she should have told her son and DiL.

Nope. I read all of OP’s plans. Its still selfish and stupid to expect ANY family member to stay with your kids for 12 days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are going on a 12 night trip sans kids. This is the longest we have left kids (longest has been 2n) and I worked hard to make this as seamless as possible for my mother in law, to watch my 4 and 6 year old.
I have:
- daily pay for MIL
- camp from 8:30-6:30pm 1 mile away
- credit card to get anything ordered
- play date/ sleepover and paid childcare on weekends with friends so she doesn’t have to drive and gets a break
- meals delivered so she doesn’t cook

With 3 days to go she says she can’t do it and wants us to change our trip to half the number of days.
I’m so frustrated with everything. She says we are taking advantage of her and from my point of view she should have just said no or told us weeks ago. We are scrambling to change everything last min.

They are your responsibility not hers, she isn’t obligated if she feels overwhelmed. If something happens you’ll accuse her for negligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:How selfish are you going away for 12 days and expecting your MIL to stay that long? You sound selfish and dumb, OP.

Reading comprehension?

OP outlined everything she set up for MiL to watch the kids. FWIW, seems like it was pretty thoughtful set up as well as remunerative for MiL, who really, really, really should not have waited so long to get out of it. The moment she started having doubts she should have told her son and DiL.

Nope. I read all of OP’s plans. Its still selfish and stupid to expect ANY family member to stay with your kids for 12 days.

Well, your reading comprehension is poor, because Dear Old MeeMaw still wanted them to go for six days because she wanted the money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids could get their own breakfast by 4 too. I’d make stuff ahead of time for them to heat up. I don’t get why this is so hard to believe - it’s not rocket science to warm up waffles, get a bowl of cereal or make toast. Good for you, OP on raising independent kids. Fwiw I spend plenty of mornings making my kids a good hot breakfast with eggs, but they could also handle doing it solo for a bit in OPs situation.

So they could use a microwave or stove by age 4? They could safely use those appliances and reach them?

Who the hell is putting frozen waffles, a bowl of cereal or toast on the stove? Think.

[Anonymous]

ok but my most important question is (and admittedly, I didn't bother reading 20 of the 22 pages so far)...where are you going on this trip??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids could get their own breakfast by 4 too. I’d make stuff ahead of time for them to heat up. I don’t get why this is so hard to believe - it’s not rocket science to warm up waffles, get a bowl of cereal or make toast. Good for you, OP on raising independent kids. Fwiw I spend plenty of mornings making my kids a good hot breakfast with eggs, but they could also handle doing it solo for a bit in OPs situation.

So they could use a microwave or stove by age 4? They could safely use those appliances and reach them?

Who the hell is putting frozen waffles, a bowl of cereal or toast on the stove? Think.

🙄 Toast or warming up waffles requires…warming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just hire a sitter

Yes but on 3 days notice I am scrambling. This is something I would have liked to know about before booking so so could have taken the kids or interviewed sitters and found a good fit

If you want to abandon your kids for two weeks that’s on you but clearly she does not want to be responsible for them.

I cannot help but feel the same thing. Anybody would think a 12-day vacation away from the kids these days is appropriate is also somebody who steamrolled grandma into saying yes in the first place. I would cancel that trip and get serious family therapy.

This is just ridiculous. Plenty of people are happy to watch their grandkids for a couple of weeks.

I don't know of any grandparent who want to watch their grandkids on their own for a couple of weeks. I know of grandparents (husband and wife pair), who will look after a grandchild or multiple grandkids, for part of the day, in their own house. No one is doing this when they are single and alone and elderly, in someone else's house, 24/7 for two weeks. No. One. And two kids below 6? No way.

OP seems like one of those people who believe in getting the last drop of blood from the MIL because it seems the MIL is dependent on her son for financial help. OP is basically a disgusting POS.

WOW. what is your problem? Are you projecting?

WOW. My problem is selfish humans like OP who unfortunately become parents.

Not projecting anything because my kids are still teens and we are well-off.