Frustrated with husband and mother in law

[Anonymous]

We are going on a 12 night trip sans kids. This is the longest we have left kids (longest has been 2n) and I worked hard to make this as seamless as possible for my mother in law, to watch my 4 and 6 year old.
I have:
- daily pay for MIL
- camp from 8:30-6:30pm 1 mile away
- credit card to get anything ordered
- play date/ sleepover and paid childcare on weekends with friends so she doesn’t have to drive and gets a break
- meals delivered so she doesn’t cook

With 3 days to go she says she can’t do it and wants us to change our trip to half the number of days.
I’m so frustrated with everything. She says we are taking advantage of her and from my point of view she should have just said no or told us weeks ago. We are scrambling to change everything last min.

[Anonymous]

Why are you frustrated with your husband?

[Anonymous]

12 days is an awfully long time if you haven’t been away that long before. What are her concerns? Where are you going for so long? It’s a LOT to ask anyone. I can’t imagine.

[Anonymous]

Because he doesn’t even try to reason with her

[Anonymous]

Just hire a sitter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:12 days is an awfully long time if you haven’t been away that long before. What are her concerns? Where are you going for so long? It’s a LOT to ask anyone. I can’t imagine.

We are also paying her and kids are in camp all day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because he doesn’t even try to reason with her

Ok? She doesn’t want to do it. Yes, it sucks, but you shouldn’t expect him to try to talk her into changing her mind.

[Anonymous]

Nobody should be expected to do this. Take your kids with you next time, your trips alone are limited once you have kids. Now is the time to accept that and not ask for others to parent your kids for 2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

It sucks she gave you so little notice about changing her mind but I definitely would not try to force her to take care of your 4 and 6 year old if she doesn’t want to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:12 days is an awfully long time if you haven’t been away that long before. What are her concerns? Where are you going for so long? It’s a LOT to ask anyone. I can’t imagine.

We are also paying her and kids are in camp all day

I doubt she cares about the money when she knows you’re using her

[Anonymous]

Just take your kids on the trip op, this isn’t difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just hire a sitter

Yes but on 3 days notice I am scrambling. This is something I would have liked to know about before booking so so could have taken the kids or interviewed sitters and found a good fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because he doesn’t even try to reason with her

Smart husband

[Anonymous]

Dang. My kids are 14 and 17 and we haven’t left them for more than three nights.

[Anonymous]

She should have backed out a long time ago or said no.