What is the earliest age you would buy condoms for your son?

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Anonymous wrote:To the OP: Don't buy condoms for your 14yo, have a conversation with him about the whole thing, possibly with his GF also present, give them your opinion on the pitfalls of having sex at their ages. Be sure to also listen to what they have to say about it.

Don't give permission to have sex but do tell them that whenever they each decide to become sexually active they should get themselves some birth control, make sure they know condoms don't always prevent pregnancy nor every STD. Tell them they can buy condoms and/or get Rx for BC pills or whatever. Tell them that's what sexually active mature people do.

OR, if you know your child is sexually active, you can quietly stash the condoms in the bathroom and ALSO have these conversations including your expectations. It doesn’t have to be either/or.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

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I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

+1 I also never tried a cigarette.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

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I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

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Great! But also extraordinarily out of touch with teens and early 20-something people today. They are ditching alcohol in favor of weed.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

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I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

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Same. But not that marijuana is legal in many states, it can be purchased through dispensaries which undergo testing and are regulated. Unlikely you will buy something laced with fentanyl in a legitimate dispensary.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

And kudos to you as well. When you walk in on your teens banging in your kitchen, you can at least reassure yourself with the fact that a condom is present. And given how involved you are, I'm sure you wouldn't be shy about interrupting them momentarily to do a condom check before you delightfully tell them to resume thrusting in your house.

Or, after you revive your teen from their overdose with your Narcan (because you're a REAL-WORLD PREPARED MOM), smiling at your dazed and confused teen as you beam at them and say, "Good thing I keep the Narcan around in the house, huh, honey? Aren't I a good mom?"

Oh sweetie the time to stop trolling or drinking is now, because this retort just confirmed everything the PP stated and you look like a fool. Kinda like Marjorie Taylor Greene always thinking she is right. LOL

+100

I wish I knew that PP in real life. Her presumed superiority must be hilarious in person.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

+1

I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

+2

Great! But also extraordinarily out of touch with teens and early 20-something people today. They are ditching alcohol in favor of weed.

You’re extraordinarily out of touch if you think that all teens and 20’s do weed.

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Please point out where PP said “all.” TIA

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

+1

I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

+2

Great! But also extraordinarily out of touch with teens and early 20-something people today. They are ditching alcohol in favor of weed.

I understand and can agree that marijuana use can and is more common with teens and young adults today compared to those in the past. Still doesn't mean EVERYONE does it.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

THANK YOU! I really don't know why this thought process is so radical to some people.

I repeat: If you have to buy protection for people who want to engage in sex, maybe they're not old or mature enough to do so??? And somehow I'm the crazy person for finding it to be absurd that I as a parent should supply my minor children with condoms so they can have sex and I can deal with the consequences if even despite my giving them condoms, a pregnancy or STD happens anyway???

Do you think that not buying condoms is going to prevent them from having sex? Like a kid who wants to have sex is going to say “well I guess I won’t do it now because I couldn’t find any condoms in the house.”

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

THANK YOU! I really don't know why this thought process is so radical to some people.

I repeat: If you have to buy protection for people who want to engage in sex, maybe they're not old or mature enough to do so??? And somehow I'm the crazy person for finding it to be absurd that I as a parent should supply my minor children with condoms so they can have sex and I can deal with the consequences if even despite my giving them condoms, a pregnancy or STD happens anyway???

Do you think that not buying condoms is going to prevent them from having sex? Like a kid who wants to have sex is going to say “well I guess I won’t do it now because I couldn’t find any condoms in the house.”

No. I didn't say that. But someone who can't procure birth control independently without their parents providing it for them probably isn't mature enough to be engaging in sexual activity that could end up in pregnancy or STDs.

Teens will try all sorts of things that they SHOULDN'T do. But just because they will try it doesn't mean you should permit it.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

+1

I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

+2

Great! But also extraordinarily out of touch with teens and early 20-something people today. They are ditching alcohol in favor of weed.

I understand and can agree that marijuana use can and is more common with teens and young adults today compared to those in the past. Still doesn't mean EVERYONE does it.

Wow, you guys are really on the strawmen today. I get it though- you are all so convinced that your child will be the exception.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

+1

I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

+2

Great! But also extraordinarily out of touch with teens and early 20-something people today. They are ditching alcohol in favor of weed.

I understand and can agree that marijuana use can and is more common with teens and young adults today compared to those in the past. Still doesn't mean EVERYONE does it.

Wow, you guys are really on the strawmen today. I get it though- you are all so convinced that your child will be the exception.

You are contradicting yourself. Either you think *all* teens smoke weed, which would lead to some of is thinking our kids will be “the exception” (you know, the one kid that doesn’t because as a rule they all do)…

OR

You know perfectly well that not ALL or even MOST teens smoke weed (but a not-insignificant percentage of them do) in which case people arguing with you that not all teens smoke weed is a strawman. But of course, in this case it’s totally reasonable for a parent to think their teen won’t, rather than that expectation being “exceptional”.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

THANK YOU! I really don't know why this thought process is so radical to some people.

I repeat: If you have to buy protection for people who want to engage in sex, maybe they're not old or mature enough to do so??? And somehow I'm the crazy person for finding it to be absurd that I as a parent should supply my minor children with condoms so they can have sex and I can deal with the consequences if even despite my giving them condoms, a pregnancy or STD happens anyway???

Do you think that not buying condoms is going to prevent them from having sex? Like a kid who wants to have sex is going to say “well I guess I won’t do it now because I couldn’t find any condoms in the house.”

Honestly… in many cases, yes. In many cases teens really want to have sex BUT they also have internalized that they absolutely shouldn’t unless they use protection. With two people involved, you have double the chances of one of them calling it off unless a condom is available.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

And kudos to you as well. When you walk in on your teens banging in your kitchen, you can at least reassure yourself with the fact that a condom is present. And given how involved you are, I'm sure you wouldn't be shy about interrupting them momentarily to do a condom check before you delightfully tell them to resume thrusting in your house.

Or, after you revive your teen from their overdose with your Narcan (because you're a REAL-WORLD PREPARED MOM), smiling at your dazed and confused teen as you beam at them and say, "Good thing I keep the Narcan around in the house, huh, honey? Aren't I a good mom?"

If this isn’t a troll and actually a mom who thinks and talks like this?!?! LOL

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Anonymous wrote:Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex. And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel. And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct. So be it. Kudos to you all.

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs. If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan. I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.

Weed is legal in many states and weed is also sometimes laced with fentanyl unknowingly. If you think your kids will never smoke weed in their entire high school or college life or you failed as a parent, you are just gonna have kids that never communicate anything with you since you will forever be disappointed in them

I never smoked weed in high school or college. And I’m not special. Lots of people, believe it or not, make it to adulthood without doing drugs.

+1

I also never did drugs (including smoking weed) and I was and am a happy, well-adjusted person with a satisfying social life and a great relationship with my parents. The majority of my friends also never dod drugs.

+2

Great! But also extraordinarily out of touch with teens and early 20-something people today. They are ditching alcohol in favor of weed.

I understand and can agree that marijuana use can and is more common with teens and young adults today compared to those in the past. Still doesn't mean EVERYONE does it.

But most do. 66% of all teens 12-19 have done it just within their last 3 months. Not even just ever which would be even higher.