Teen is all over his sister

[Anonymous]

Are they European by any chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they European by any chance?

Give it up, you pervert. Pinning down your sister to kiss her is assault. Are you the op troll?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was raped and sexually molested by my older brother starting at age 4( that I remember). This went on untill I was 13 and he started dating. My parents did nothing. Absolutely nothing. They walked in and choose to see playing/rough housing.

It started by making me his pet. He baby-sat me, had a hand in naming me, and ALWAYS called the shots. He would convince me to give him my dinner ( there was plenty if he was actually hungry for seconds). He would punish me if I didn't "play" in his room every night after dinner.... It escalated from holding and touching to grinding and piv.

This set the foundation of being raped by another rapist for 10 years.

I am 32 and still trying to get my life together. It's a miracle I haven't off'd myself.

Get this kid help. Please OP. I'll make the call for you, if you prefer to stay out of it or anonymous.

I'm so, so sorry. I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Keep your eyes open. Abuse is everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why haven’t you called CPS today? Why wait to confront the mother in the future. That’s too long.

My sister was molested and abused by our cousin, I didn’t know because I was much older and wasn’t home much. Our cousin was only 3 years old than my sister and my parents helped raise him because my aunt was a single mother and needed help. But looking back the signs were there. She suddenly started gaining weight and wetting the bed when she was in 1st grade. She was obese by 4th grade. My cousin became super clingy to her. My parents brushed it off saying my cousin had such a sad home life.

When my cousin was 15 and my sister 12 another family came forward to accuse my cousin of molesting their daughter and the sh!t hit the fan. He was arrested. My sister came told my parents. My cousin was sentenced to 75 years in jail. He’s currently in a super max.

My sister is 350 pounds with horrible self esteem and mental health issues. She is heavily medicated. She went from bad relationship to bad relationships until she married a huge loser who is horrible to her and I wish she would just divorce. She thinks that what she deserves. It’s awful to see her this way. She’s now 40.

I wish everyday someone had noticed the signs and helped her because the damage is now done and she will never be what she could have been. Help this girl OP! Pleas.

What are the signs? I want to watch her for a few days before I make that call.
Also, I feel like her mother needs to be altered first to give her a chance.

FFS, OP. I posted yesterday or the day before about my brother abusing me (I think it was on page 16...maybe someone flagged it to have it removed?). YOU ALREADY SEE THE SIGNS. You see her lack of consent. You see him all Over her and you know they share a bedroom !!!

It doesn’t matter whether he is actually putting his penis inside her yet. This is already predatory Awful for this child. You already see that her body is never free from his hands all over her. This was my life and it was relentless and my brother never touched me in public like this sicko does. I never had a decent sleep because I was al age terrified he would come in and touch me, which he did.

You are not going to “catch” them at something this week. You already know what you need to know, for God’s sake. You see him take what he wants from her and you see she can’t fight back.
Unlike others, I see no hope in talking to the mom and little hope in calling CPS, but you can’t do nothing. What I would do is talk directly to the girl:

“Mary, I don’t like how your brother treats you. It’s is wrong. He has no right to touch you. You get to say no and I will back you up if you don’t want him to touch you. I believe you deserve privacy at night and it makes me worried that your brother shares a heroin with you. I’ve tried to talk to your mom about this but she doesn’t see what is wrong with it. I do. You are welcome at my house any time you need a safe place to be. If I can help you in any way, you can call me day or night.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why haven’t you called CPS today? Why wait to confront the mother in the future. That’s too long.

My sister was molested and abused by our cousin, I didn’t know because I was much older and wasn’t home much. Our cousin was only 3 years old than my sister and my parents helped raise him because my aunt was a single mother and needed help. But looking back the signs were there. She suddenly started gaining weight and wetting the bed when she was in 1st grade. She was obese by 4th grade. My cousin became super clingy to her. My parents brushed it off saying my cousin had such a sad home life.

When my cousin was 15 and my sister 12 another family came forward to accuse my cousin of molesting their daughter and the sh!t hit the fan. He was arrested. My sister came told my parents. My cousin was sentenced to 75 years in jail. He’s currently in a super max.

My sister is 350 pounds with horrible self esteem and mental health issues. She is heavily medicated. She went from bad relationship to bad relationships until she married a huge loser who is horrible to her and I wish she would just divorce. She thinks that what she deserves. It’s awful to see her this way. She’s now 40.

I wish everyday someone had noticed the signs and helped her because the damage is now done and she will never be what she could have been. Help this girl OP! Pleas.

What are the signs? I want to watch her for a few days before I make that call.
Also, I feel like her mother needs to be altered first to give her a chance.

FFS, OP. I posted yesterday or the day before about my brother abusing me (I think it was on page 16...maybe someone flagged it to have it removed?). YOU ALREADY SEE THE SIGNS. You see her lack of consent. You see him all Over her and you know they share a bedroom !!!

It doesn’t matter whether he is actually putting his penis inside her yet. This is already predatory Awful for this child. You already see that her body is never free from his hands all over her. This was my life and it was relentless and my brother never touched me in public like this sicko does. I never had a decent sleep because I was al age terrified he would come in and touch me, which he did.

You are not going to “catch” them at something this week. You already know what you need to know, for God’s sake. You see him take what he wants from her and you see she can’t fight back.
Unlike others, I see no hope in talking to the mom and little hope in calling CPS, but you can’t do nothing. What I would do is talk directly to the girl:

“Mary, I don’t like how your brother treats you. It’s is wrong. He has no right to touch you. You get to say no and I will back you up if you don’t want him to touch you. I believe you deserve privacy at night and it makes me worried that your brother shares a heroin with you. I’ve tried to talk to your mom about this but she doesn’t see what is wrong with it. I do. You are welcome at my house any time you need a safe place to be. If I can help you in any way, you can call me day or night.”

Sorry for the typos. Typing on a small phone screen in a hurry and I am really angry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why haven’t you called CPS today? Why wait to confront the mother in the future. That’s too long.

My sister was molested and abused by our cousin, I didn’t know because I was much older and wasn’t home much. Our cousin was only 3 years old than my sister and my parents helped raise him because my aunt was a single mother and needed help. But looking back the signs were there. She suddenly started gaining weight and wetting the bed when she was in 1st grade. She was obese by 4th grade. My cousin became super clingy to her. My parents brushed it off saying my cousin had such a sad home life.

When my cousin was 15 and my sister 12 another family came forward to accuse my cousin of molesting their daughter and the sh!t hit the fan. He was arrested. My sister came told my parents. My cousin was sentenced to 75 years in jail. He’s currently in a super max.

My sister is 350 pounds with horrible self esteem and mental health issues. She is heavily medicated. She went from bad relationship to bad relationships until she married a huge loser who is horrible to her and I wish she would just divorce. She thinks that what she deserves. It’s awful to see her this way. She’s now 40.

I wish everyday someone had noticed the signs and helped her because the damage is now done and she will never be what she could have been. Help this girl OP! Pleas.

What are the signs? I want to watch her for a few days before I make that call.
Also, I feel like her mother needs to be altered first to give her a chance.

FFS, OP. I posted yesterday or the day before about my brother abusing me (I think it was on page 16...maybe someone flagged it to have it removed?). YOU ALREADY SEE THE SIGNS. You see her lack of consent. You see him all Over her and you know they share a bedroom !!!

It doesn’t matter whether he is actually putting his penis inside her yet. This is already predatory Awful for this child. You already see that her body is never free from his hands all over her. This was my life and it was relentless and my brother never touched me in public like this sicko does. I never had a decent sleep because I was al age terrified he would come in and touch me, which he did.

You are not going to “catch” them at something this week. You already know what you need to know, for God’s sake. You see him take what he wants from her and you see she can’t fight back.
Unlike others, I see no hope in talking to the mom and little hope in calling CPS, but you can’t do nothing. What I would do is talk directly to the girl:

“Mary, I don’t like how your brother treats you. It’s is wrong. He has no right to touch you. You get to say no and I will back you up if you don’t want him to touch you. I believe you deserve privacy at night and it makes me worried that your brother shares a heroin with you. I’ve tried to talk to your mom about this but she doesn’t see what is wrong with it. I do. You are welcome at my house any time you need a safe place to be. If I can help you in any way, you can call me day or night.”

I agree with everything you wrote. Except I have seen CPS intervene and help in situations of incest, so I am hopeful that CPS will help.

OP is so afraid to rock the boat. She is an adult and is scared. Imagine how that girl feels. OP, you need to be an adult and do what needs to be done. All you are going to accomplish by talking to the mom is making this family hide what is going on.

[Anonymous]

This picture is sadly relevant to this thread. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, stop being a coward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop being a coward.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

+1 to talking directly to daughter. Also, much as it is patriarchal and not fair, what should really be happening in the pool etc scenarios is that op’s DH or another man should say “Larlo, leave her alone NOW. We don’t treat ladies that way ever.” Rinse and repeat. In fact, that’s why I call troll. Seriously-dads with similar-aged daughters would see this stuff and say nothing? Also this kind of “play” is very dangerous at a pool.

[Anonymous]

If op can’t step up to do the right thing here, I’d be concerned if she would protect her own child in an abusive situation. She’d be more concerned about her adult friendships and staying in her comfort zone. Some people don’t deserve to be parents. OP seems to be one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Well, I'm hoping her mom will investigate and ask her questions. Because I don't think it's my place to ask her intimate questions and CPS is going to be very drastic.

Yes, CPS is drastic. And honestly, I think the boy deserves to have adults tell him this is inappropriate and teach him about good consent practices. But the problem OP, is that this family has already proved they’re not going to do that. They are going to ignore and excuse and not listen to their daughter or teach her how to clearly state her boundaries, or back her up when she does so. There is just a huge risk that anything you say to mom is going to cause this family to 1) cut you off from the child completely and/or 2) solve the “public” display problem without solving the “treating his sister like a toy” problem. I think you have to talk to the girl or call CPS. You just can’t trust a family that’s ignored so much already to solve this problem. Be exceedingly honest with CPS. You don’t know if it’s sexual abuse, but it could be, and all the others reasons it’s concerning to you.

[Anonymous]

I totally think this is a troll. Early on she said she'd call CPS, then she got wishy washy, in order to generate more pages of responses. I haven't read everything, but first got a whiff of troll when she said that others haven't noticed anything unusual, and then said well actually other people have noticed. Something feels off about OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I totally think this is a troll. Early on she said she'd call CPS, then she got wishy washy, in order to generate more pages of responses. I haven't read everything, but first got a whiff of troll when she said that others haven't noticed anything unusual, and then said well actually other people have noticed. Something feels off about OP.

You are totally correct. Someone needed to drum up business.