Teen is all over his sister

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So we spent the weekend with them in the same house. I observed them. Didn't see anything sexual. But he was using her for his entertainment as a toy. He would grab her and drag her when she said "no".

So I intervened when he did that. I told him to stop. "Larlo, if your sister said no, you must stop. No means no. Stop dragging your sister." Or "You have to respect your sister when she says no." I said that in a loud, harsh voice and he would stop immediately. He didn't like it, but surprisingly neither did his mother. She objected and I told her the girl will grow up knowing her "no" doesn't matter and that he overpowers her. Mom denied it.

Also, told his mother that the girl needs a separate bedroom at this age, it's not appropriate. She said the girl was getting a separate room.

Also, told the girl that when she says no her brother has to respect it and if he doesn't she needs to tell adults.

Overall, the boy was obnoxious and I don't want to spend any more weekends with him around.

If he "grabs her" and "drags her" right in front of you, one can only imagine what he does to her behind closed doors. Op is completely useless for doing nothing to stop the continued abuse of a defenseless girl.

So many other women did nothing to stop Nassar and Epstein. Shame on them. And on OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So we spent the weekend with them in the same house. I observed them. Didn't see anything sexual. But he was using her for his entertainment as a toy. He would grab her and drag her when she said "no".

So I intervened when he did that. I told him to stop. "Larlo, if your sister said no, you must stop. No means no. Stop dragging your sister." Or "You have to respect your sister when she says no." I said that in a loud, harsh voice and he would stop immediately. He didn't like it, but surprisingly neither did his mother. She objected and I told her the girl will grow up knowing her "no" doesn't matter and that he overpowers her. Mom denied it.

Also, told his mother that the girl needs a separate bedroom at this age, it's not appropriate. She said the girl was getting a separate room.

Also, told the girl that when she says no her brother has to respect it and if he doesn't she needs to tell adults.

Overall, the boy was obnoxious and I don't want to spend any more weekends with him around.

Thank you for updating. What a sad situation. You did a good job, OP.

+1

Tough all around. You sound like you really did the right thing for this girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The reason I've had trouble believing OP from the beginning is not that abuse does not happen. However, it usually happens behind closed doors. I find it unlikely that abusers are as blatant and obvious as OP made this seem. To hear her tell it, brother is practically fondling the sister at the local swimming pool. Abusers tend to isolate their victims and try to maintain normalcy for the sake of public appearances, but apparently this family goes on vacation with OP's family and, according to OP, there were other friends of the family who witnessed all this inappropriate behavior. This is where the story does not seem true.

Actually, my cousin divorced his wife, and his live in GF's 12 yo son was behaving like that with my cousin's 10 yo daughter at a family gathering. I could not believe that my cousin noticed NOTHING about it, and these kids live together so who knows what's going on in private if they were that touchy feely in front of everyone else? Hormones, poor boundaries, and lack of good judgment all making a super gross and unfortunate situation.

I pointed it out to him and he said he was going to punish his daughter, ugh, then I had a talk with him and tried to get him to hear that guidance, boundaries, and information were needed, and that counseling would probably be a good idea. He was skeptical and I'm pretty sure she probably ended up getting yelled at later. The girl doesn't really know me as I live out of town, so I didn't think I could effectively speak directly to her.

[Anonymous]

My brother did this to me during puberty. In private he molested me.

[Anonymous]

Well...
I’m sure the stern talking to from OP solved it all.
Nothing to see here folks.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand OP. You seem to strongly believe that something is going on. And the mother doesn't seem to care. Why would you not call CPS?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My brother did this to me during puberty. In private he molested me.

I’m so sorry this happened to you.