Did a 180 and decided to redshirt my child- question for parents who decided to do the same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP,

Just make the best decision for your kid. There is absolutely no need to be defensive, nor to care what judgmental people will assume or not assume about your kid. We redshirted our August child. There are children with the exact same birthday one year younger in the same class. Who cares?!

Because the birthday is August, the travel soccer team is even composed of classmates! (And I guess that is supposed to ratify our decision.)

I think very, very few people have an issue with an August child delaying kindergarten if the parents feel it's for the best. OP's child's birthday is in May, and contends that he is already advanced for his Pre-K class.

[Anonymous]

Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

We are redshirting our late september twins (cut off is Oct 1). My husband was born the same time of year. He hated starting at four and he hated graduating at 17 and being the youngest. It was tough on him. Personally sending a 17 year old off to college really did not appeal to me.

We talked to their preschool and a few other educators and figure the three days is not a huge deal. I still struggled with it. I thought that they would be the oldest in the class. Guess I am wrong. They will graduate at 18 and be slighly older.

We also redshirted our late September twins (cut off is also Oct 1). I didn't want my son to start K at 4. He could barely sit still and the consensus among every educator we talked to was to hold them.
They're going into 4th grade and at least 10-20% of of kids in their grade are older than they are! (i.e. redshirts from June, July and Aug).
This is in DCPS where in theory no-one redshirts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

I don't think anyone on this thread is starting their child in K at 7 years old. OP is starting her kid at 6 and he will turn 7 in May at the end of K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

Our DD turned 6 right before K. She will turn 18 right before senior year of HS and won't turn 19 until right before freshman year of college. Doesn't seem like a big deal to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

I don't think anyone on this thread is starting their child in K at 7 years old. OP is starting her kid at 6 and he will turn 7 in May at the end of K.

Math is hard. If you're a dummy redshirt hater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

Our DD turned 6 right before K. She will turn 18 right before senior year of HS and won't turn 19 until right before freshman year of college. Doesn't seem like a big deal to me.

Or will be 20 when she starts college if she takes a gap year.

Not that I care -- I went to a college where plenty of students were on the five-year plan or were nontraditional students, and the older you get, the less it matters. If your kid isn't ready for school, s/he isn't ready. The only question is whether a child should be in school receiving appropriate interventions to address the unreadiness. But if you have a pediatrician and preschool teachers and the school-to-be's principal all telling you to wait, those are some powerful indicators that it isn't time yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
We also redshirted our late September twins (cut off is also Oct 1). I didn't want my son to start K at 4. He could barely sit still and the consensus among every educator we talked to was to hold them.
They're going into 4th grade and at least 10-20% of of kids in their grade are older than they are! (i.e. redshirts from June, July and Aug).
This is in DCPS where in theory no-one redshirts.

Ordinarily I wouldn't indulge in this sort of derailment, but the thread reeks of dead equine, so I don't care. I'm wondering if the PP did DCPS preschool and if that allows you to redshirt, or if free preschool is why "no one" redshirts (except the people who do)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

I don't think anyone on this thread is starting their child in K at 7 years old. OP is starting her kid at 6 and he will turn 7 in May at the end of K.

Math is hard. If you're a dummy redshirt hater.

Parenting is hard, if you're a dummy redshirting OP who holds her "advanced" child back yet another year in kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

If the rule is: A child who will be six years old on or before September 30 must attend school. A qualifying parent may elect to provide home instruction for his or her school-age child in lieu of school attendance. More information is also available by calling 571-423-4460. Kindergarten programs are housed in FCPS elementary schools.Apr 4, 2013

Then explain to me how kids are able to be redshirted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Graduating high school at 20? If they start at 7years old.. Wow! I never really considered that. For the people who did start k at 7 or 6 even, how was it for a 19-20year old graduate?

I don't think anyone on this thread is starting their child in K at 7 years old. OP is starting her kid at 6 and he will turn 7 in May at the end of K.

Math is hard. If you're a dummy redshirt hater.

Parenting is hard, if you're a dummy redshirting OP who holds her "advanced" child back yet another year in kindergarten.

Yeah - some kid didn't start K until he was 10 and then he don't even graduate HS until he was 35! Or something like that. Is that how reshirt hater math works?

[Anonymous]

If your child is SEVEN YEARS OLD for any portion of kindergarten, you are not someone I want to hang out with. Some things are just red flags, and sorry that's one of them, for a lot of reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the rule is: A child who will be six years old on or before September 30 must attend school. A qualifying parent may elect to provide home instruction for his or her school-age child in lieu of school attendance. More information is also available by calling 571-423-4460. Kindergarten programs are housed in FCPS elementary schools.Apr 4, 2013

Then explain to me how kids are able to be redshirted.

What is your question? Did you read the Fairfax website and conclude that 6 year olds go to K? Because in Fairfax, 5 year olds go to K and 6 year olds go to 1st, unless they are redshirted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the rule is: A child who will be six years old on or before September 30 must attend school. A qualifying parent may elect to provide home instruction for his or her school-age child in lieu of school attendance. More information is also available by calling 571-423-4460. Kindergarten programs are housed in FCPS elementary schools.Apr 4, 2013

Then explain to me how kids are able to be redshirted.

What is your question? Did you read the Fairfax website and conclude that 6 year olds go to K? Because in Fairfax, 5 year olds go to K and 6 year olds go to 1st, unless they are redshirted.

If you child is turning six in Sept they must go to K. A lot of "rising 6 year olds" born in Aug and Sept go to K.

If every child followed the rules there would be no issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If you child is turning six in Sept they must go to K. A lot of "rising 6 year olds" born in Aug and Sept go to K.

If every child followed the rules there would be no issues.

Now there's a generalization. Do you think that it's best for every single child, under every single circumstance, everywhere, to go to school according to the general schedule?

Also, the people who hold their children back for a year from kindergarten actually are following the rules. The rules explicitly provide for this choice. If you think that the rules should be changed so that they no longer allow this choice, then you should work to change the rules.