What's your parenting mindset/belief that goes against the grain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Extended breastfeeding. DD is now 2.

Co sleeping. Again, she’s 2.

I don’t look like a crunchy mom. I don’t think I’d be one. But there it is.

I'll one up you with an extra year! Good job!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've always done home bday parties for all 4 of my kids (and continue to do so) despite our modest house (especially by dcum standards) and it's always been a ton of fun for everyone - never had it at a venue, never hired an entertainer, etc.

If you have a house, it's not modest by DC standards.

[Anonymous]

I let my kids climb trees high. And run with sticks. And get really messy and muddy. Today we were at the park and my sons were rolling down the hill. Another kid tried it and his mom yelled, “I just washed that coat.” My kid got up, had some geese poop on his shirt and I just shrugged. At least it wasn’t dog poop.

Two seconds later the kid who had been told to stop rolling asked to go home. So he could play Fortnight. He looked around 4 or 5.

Let your kids play people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t have screen time limits. My kids are so much less addicted then those who have strict screen rules. They will not scream if I turn it off nor do they turn into zombies when it is on. They are active, very creative and never beg to watch tv during play dates, like a lot of their friends.

If you are turning it off, you are limiting it in some way. I'm not saying that you have strict limits, but your kids don't have 100% say over how much they are watching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I let my kids climb trees high. And run with sticks. And get really messy and muddy. Today we were at the park and my sons were rolling down the hill. Another kid tried it and his mom yelled, “I just washed that coat.” My kid got up, had some geese poop on his shirt and I just shrugged. At least it wasn’t dog poop.

Two seconds later the kid who had been told to stop rolling asked to go home. So he could play Fortnight. He looked around 4 or 5.

Let your kids play people.

Me too! I hate when I get dirty looks or comments because it’s harder for other mothers to keep their kids from playing when they see my kids playing.

[Anonymous]

I let my kid snack with little restriction aside from mostly healthy food. She is a grazer and often has several snacks in an evening. I sort of believe if food isn’t a source of conflict she will have a healthier relationship with it later. Or maybe I am lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I let my kids climb trees high. And run with sticks. And get really messy and muddy. Today we were at the park and my sons were rolling down the hill. Another kid tried it and his mom yelled, “I just washed that coat.” My kid got up, had some geese poop on his shirt and I just shrugged. At least it wasn’t dog poop.

Two seconds later the kid who had been told to stop rolling asked to go home. So he could play Fortnight. He looked around 4 or 5.

Let your kids play people.

Me too! I hate when I get dirty looks or comments because it’s harder for other mothers to keep their kids from playing when they see my kids playing.

Same here. It's especially awkward with our friends at the playground, since most of the moms are helicopters and constantly micromanaging their kids' play.

And the real dirty looks come out when we take our shoes off. DD and I both hate wearing shoes so we go barefoot as much as possible. Of course then every other kid wants to do the same.....

[Anonymous]

I still give my 19 month old a bottle of (diluted) milk before bedtime. We brush her teeth afterwards and take a few sips of water, but I know this is a no no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still give my 19 month old a bottle of (diluted) milk before bedtime. We brush her teeth afterwards and take a few sips of water, but I know this is a no no.

Same except mine is over 2. Seems to be "weaning" himself though (only wants it most of the time) and I might just "lose" the bottles soon.

[Anonymous]

Many times a SAHM is bad for a child. It makes them extremely clingy and they are used to 24-7 attention. The moms often let them get away with murder and don’t do things like sleep train because they don’t have to be at work in the morning. I don’t think 10 hours a day of daycare is good for a kid either, but not convinced that SAHMs are any better. I’d argue a mom working part time is best for a child.

[Anonymous]

I think all the crunchy weird moms who let their kids have no sweets, no screens, and think that characters are low class should be investigated- they are setting their kids up for loneliness/being bullied at school later. Actually all parents with unconventional parenting of kids older than about 5-7 should be investigated for for child abuse. Homeschoolers too. They aren’t all cruel, but too many are setting their kids up for being a weirdo. Ask me how I know.

Also, I don’t make my child brush teeth/wash face in the morning. He takes a bath and brushes teeth every night though. I only enforce hand washing at public restrooms, not at home.
He is to wash his hands when he comes home after being out of the house though.
He is almost 9 but shares a king mattress with me (separate blankets and of course pajamas for me and undies for him).

[Anonymous]

Oh and also I buy my child most of the stuff he wants, or help him earn/save for the stuff he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many times a SAHM is bad for a child. It makes them extremely clingy and they are used to 24-7 attention. The moms often let them get away with murder and don’t do things like sleep train because they don’t have to be at work in the morning. I don’t think 10 hours a day of daycare is good for a kid either, but not convinced that SAHMs are any better. I’d argue a mom working part time is best for a child.

I’d argue that SAHMs are less likely to let their children “get away with murder” because they actually have to be around them all day. Therefore, discipline is essential to make the job of being at home tolerable. All of the non-disciplining parents I know have their kids in full-day school (whether the parent works or not).

[Anonymous]

I fancy myself a pretty good mom, but some things are just bigger than I am. Like the emotions dredged up from not wanting to return to school after that colossal winter break—and DD is successful in school and has friends, so I really feel for parents of kids with real difficulties. ANYWAY. This morning is taking place wholly in front of Sesame Street because DD is so pissed it’s Monday and there’s nothing I can say to help, she just needs to GET THERE and get through it. Not sure if this is against grain but not something I’d admit on FB in one of those lazy parenting posts, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many times a SAHM is bad for a child. It makes them extremely clingy and they are used to 24-7 attention. The moms often let them get away with murder and don’t do things like sleep train because they don’t have to be at work in the morning. I don’t think 10 hours a day of daycare is good for a kid either, but not convinced that SAHMs are any better. I’d argue a mom working part time is best for a child.

I’d argue that SAHMs are less likely to let their children “get away with murder” because they actually have to be around them all day. Therefore, discipline is essential to make the job of being at home tolerable. All of the non-disciplining parents I know have their kids in full-day school (whether the parent works or not).

The SAHMs I know give in to their kids because they're tired and don't want to hear them whine, so the kids are technically getting away with murder.