What's your parenting mindset/belief that goes against the grain?

[Anonymous]

yes to sugar
yes to letting kids see PG/PG-13 movies that DCUM parents have said are "inappropriate"
yes to free time & being under scheduled
yes to being laid back

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I despised having potty trained kids. It's so annoying having to run to the bathroom every time we are in a public place. Diapers were so easy.

Of course it's easier. That's why so many people wait too long to potty train - they are lazy and don't want to deal with it. How is this going against the grain?

WTF? No. Its way easier to have potty trained kids, as long as you don't use a potty. Just teach them to use the regular toilet. Its way easier to send your kid to the bathroom than to haul around diapers.

I have never understood this. I'm the 'freakishly early' OP. Diapers are SO easy. I carry one of each size in my purse with a small bag of wipes, hardly 'hauling'. And we never have to make unscheduled stops.

I feel like I have an irrational fear that once they are potty trained I will consistently be driving somewhere nowhere in the vicinity of a bathroom and the kids will need to pee.

I also envision this adding HOURS to road trips where we all have to stop every hour to let EVERYONE out to pee. And I have to let them touch public toilet seats? I dunno I'm dreading the whole thing. I'm dreading them BEING potty trained more than potty training them.

OP of this thread, coming back to you - we should be best friends.

I have two less than a year apart, and I have NEVER used a diaper bag. Always a small crossbody purse, a couple diapers and a ziploc baggie of wipes- that's IT. SO easy and quick. Now mine are both potty trained and it's SO ANNOYING

[Anonymous]

I moved my kid out of his crib at 17 months.

[Anonymous]

I never sleep trained at all. They're absolutely fine

[Anonymous]

I don't censor music or books or art.

[Anonymous]

My kid is always dressed well. I think it's tacky and gross to let kids wear character t shirts, they look low class. I am MC/LMC and a public school teacher. But my children are always dressed in matching clean well-kept outfits, mostly designer brands (thrift/consignment/goodwill), bobby socks (none of those tacky patterned character or neon), usually mary janes or solid white keds, and hair neatly brushed with a bow or a braid. They also have no problem playing hard - I'm not an idiot and can do their laundry, and they have tons of fun outdoors and get muddy. You don't have to let them look like trailer trash to let them have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is always dressed well. I think it's tacky and gross to let kids wear character t shirts, they look low class. I am MC/LMC and a public school teacher. But my children are always dressed in matching clean well-kept outfits, mostly designer brands (thrift/consignment/goodwill), bobby socks (none of those tacky patterned character or neon), usually mary janes or solid white keds, and hair neatly brushed with a bow or a braid. They also have no problem playing hard - I'm not an idiot and can do their laundry, and they have tons of fun outdoors and get muddy. You don't have to let them look like trailer trash to let them have fun.

Your definition of 'well-dressed' does not happen to align with mine. If my kid gets it out of the dresser, puts it on facing the right way and it covers the essential parts of the body, my kid is 'well-dressed'. Your toddler-fashion policing really impresses no-one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I despised having potty trained kids. It's so annoying having to run to the bathroom every time we are in a public place. Diapers were so easy.

Of course it's easier. That's why so many people wait too long to potty train - they are lazy and don't want to deal with it. How is this going against the grain?

WTF? No. Its way easier to have potty trained kids, as long as you don't use a potty. Just teach them to use the regular toilet. Its way easier to send your kid to the bathroom than to haul around diapers.

I have never understood this. I'm the 'freakishly early' OP. Diapers are SO easy. I carry one of each size in my purse with a small bag of wipes, hardly 'hauling'. And we never have to make unscheduled stops.

I feel like I have an irrational fear that once they are potty trained I will consistently be driving somewhere nowhere in the vicinity of a bathroom and the kids will need to pee.

I also envision this adding HOURS to road trips where we all have to stop every hour to let EVERYONE out to pee. And I have to let them touch public toilet seats? I dunno I'm dreading the whole thing. I'm dreading them BEING potty trained more than potty training them.

I just posted in your other thread. I always carried a small cross body with a diaper and a few wipes in a baggie. Simple. I sort of dreaded the constant bathroom trips, but my kid is prone to rashes plus I haaaaaate cleaning poopy diapers. Sensitive sense of smell or something, I dunno. My kid's been trained for a year and for the first 6 months or so, I carried a foldable potty seat and small potty in the back of the car. For the past few months, she's been able to hold it until we get home or to a bathroom. She has regular bladder control and uses a regular toilet without an insert (put paper on the seat). No urgent or frequent scrambles to a bathroom. Same number of stops on the road as always. It's like being out with another person, except I have to help her wipe her butt when she poops. It is so liberating, I can't even express how great it is to have a "big" kid. And she's not even 3 yet.

[Anonymous]

I don't like children wearing black.

[Anonymous]

I cuss constantly in front of my kids. Did before, always will. I just tell them they’re “adult” words instead of “bad” words and they can say them when they’re older.

My kids have about 2 hours of screen time a day.

I only bathe them twice a week.

I don’t care if they eat sugar. I care about overall diet.

I don’t push my kids to read or write- I don’t want to such the fun out of it so they actually enjoy doing it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is always dressed well. I think it's tacky and gross to let kids wear character t shirts, they look low class. I am MC/LMC and a public school teacher. But my children are always dressed in matching clean well-kept outfits, mostly designer brands (thrift/consignment/goodwill), bobby socks (none of those tacky patterned character or neon), usually mary janes or solid white keds, and hair neatly brushed with a bow or a braid. They also have no problem playing hard - I'm not an idiot and can do their laundry, and they have tons of fun outdoors and get muddy. You don't have to let them look like trailer trash to let them have fun.

Your definition of 'well-dressed' does not happen to align with mine. If my kid gets it out of the dresser, puts it on facing the right way and it covers the essential parts of the body, my kid is 'well-dressed'. Your toddler-fashion policing really impresses no-one.

Umm no. That just means your kid is "dressed". Well dressed takes effort.

[Anonymous]

Kids will not die or instantly develop type II diabetes or become obese if they drink a cup of juice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is always dressed well. I think it's tacky and gross to let kids wear character t shirts, they look low class. I am MC/LMC and a public school teacher. But my children are always dressed in matching clean well-kept outfits, mostly designer brands (thrift/consignment/goodwill), bobby socks (none of those tacky patterned character or neon), usually mary janes or solid white keds, and hair neatly brushed with a bow or a braid. They also have no problem playing hard - I'm not an idiot and can do their laundry, and they have tons of fun outdoors and get muddy. You don't have to let them look like trailer trash to let them have fun.

Your definition of 'well-dressed' does not happen to align with mine. If my kid gets it out of the dresser, puts it on facing the right way and it covers the essential parts of the body, my kid is 'well-dressed'. Your toddler-fashion policing really impresses no-one.

LOL I'm not trying to impress anyone. I just prefer my children to look presentable. If I wouldn't wear it in public, or a middle schooler or high schooler or elementary school student would not - then why should a 3 or 4 year old solely because you think they should?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is always dressed well. I think it's tacky and gross to let kids wear character t shirts, they look low class. I am MC/LMC and a public school teacher. But my children are always dressed in matching clean well-kept outfits, mostly designer brands (thrift/consignment/goodwill), bobby socks (none of those tacky patterned character or neon), usually mary janes or solid white keds, and hair neatly brushed with a bow or a braid. They also have no problem playing hard - I'm not an idiot and can do their laundry, and they have tons of fun outdoors and get muddy. You don't have to let them look like trailer trash to let them have fun.

Your definition of 'well-dressed' does not happen to align with mine. If my kid gets it out of the dresser, puts it on facing the right way and it covers the essential parts of the body, my kid is 'well-dressed'. Your toddler-fashion policing really impresses no-one.

Umm no. That just means your kid is "dressed". Well dressed takes effort.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is always dressed well. I think it's tacky and gross to let kids wear character t shirts, they look low class. I am MC/LMC and a public school teacher. But my children are always dressed in matching clean well-kept outfits, mostly designer brands (thrift/consignment/goodwill), bobby socks (none of those tacky patterned character or neon), usually mary janes or solid white keds, and hair neatly brushed with a bow or a braid. They also have no problem playing hard - I'm not an idiot and can do their laundry, and they have tons of fun outdoors and get muddy. You don't have to let them look like trailer trash to let them have fun.

Your definition of 'well-dressed' does not happen to align with mine. If my kid gets it out of the dresser, puts it on facing the right way and it covers the essential parts of the body, my kid is 'well-dressed'. Your toddler-fashion policing really impresses no-one.

LOL I'm not trying to impress anyone. I just prefer my children to look presentable. If I wouldn't wear it in public, or a middle schooler or high schooler or elementary school student would not - then why should a 3 or 4 year old solely because you think they should?

That's the point, YOU are the one who thinks your kids 'should' wear a particular thing (or not). You really don't care if they want to wear your fuddy-duddy old lady fashion.