Style choices that age women in their 40s

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Anonymous wrote:I just want to say that buying clothes is too much work and it’s okay to just embrace our fashion invisibility and wear the capris and the tunic and be happy, at least some do the time. You look best when you’re happy.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of floral patterns.

Clothes that don’t fit properly.

I have been working in London recently and a lot of the female associates and leadership in our London offices are wearing loose fitting floral dresses. Don't see how that is age related.

That's just terrible frumpy British fashion.

[Anonymous]

I wear what I like. I love florals. I don’t care what anyone thinks either.

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Anonymous wrote:What a thread. It took a tedious detour for 7-8 pages when we were overcome with bosom discussion but I like that on page 20 we’ve all accepted we are just eldritch crones (with or without the tunics).

Listen just because I live by the woods, have a bosom, wear capri pants and occasionally eat souls doesn’t mean I can’t be stylish.

I would like to be friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What a thread. It took a tedious detour for 7-8 pages when we were overcome with bosom discussion but I like that on page 20 we’ve all accepted we are just eldritch crones (with or without the tunics).

Listen just because I live by the woods, have a bosom, wear capri pants and occasionally eat souls doesn’t mean I can’t be stylish.

I don’t eat souls but each month on the new moon I perform a sacred ritual whereby I place a healing spell upon the girdle I was assigned to wear 24 hours a day to confuse those walking behind me when I turned around. It then takes on the appearance of a jean jacket which I wear with my Soft Surroundings dresses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just want to say that buying clothes is too much work and it’s okay to just embrace our fashion invisibility and wear the capris and the tunic and be happy, at least some do the time. You look best when you’re happy.

X10000

SO MUCH THIS.

I'm in my 50s, not 40s, so perhaps this thread is not for me, but here's where I am: My feet hurt and my waistline is disappearing. Fabulous shoes are no longer for me. Clothing styles I've relied on for years no longer look good on me. Truthfully, though I am reasonably slim and fit, I'm not sure very much looks "good" on me any more. So generally I am aiming for "good enough." I want to be comfortable, and I want to spend whatever time I have left on this earth actually LIVING life, rather than shopping, dressing, and primping for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just want to say that buying clothes is too much work and it’s okay to just embrace our fashion invisibility and wear the capris and the tunic and be happy, at least some do the time. You look best when you’re happy.

X10000

SO MUCH THIS.

I'm in my 50s, not 40s, so perhaps this thread is not for me, but here's where I am: My feet hurt and my waistline is disappearing. Fabulous shoes are no longer for me. Clothing styles I've relied on for years no longer look good on me. Truthfully, though I am reasonably slim and fit, I'm not sure very much looks "good" on me any more. So generally I am aiming for "good enough." I want to be comfortable, and I want to spend whatever time I have left on this earth actually LIVING life, rather than shopping, dressing, and primping for it.

Sure, and rah rah on all the personal power stuff, but you are the one hanging out in Beauty & Fashion. A little disingenuous, don't you think?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

That highlights the issue with tunics- no waist.

But that’s why I’m WEARING the mother f$&ing tunic in the first place!!

This is exhausting and the reason the smart women hit 40 and move to the edge of the woods to be witches.

Look, a witch's caftan is a style CHOICE that I fully support.

Right? Witches cabins are probably a huge tax advantage. And if I need a man, there’s no reason I can’t take one captive.

I would like to sign up for the witch cabin. I have plenty of caftans I can share and and assortment of capris, tankinis and non-sexy sandals as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

That highlights the issue with tunics- no waist.

But that’s why I’m WEARING the mother f$&ing tunic in the first place!!

This is exhausting and the reason the smart women hit 40 and move to the edge of the woods to be witches.

Look, a witch's caftan is a style CHOICE that I fully support.

Right? Witches cabins are probably a huge tax advantage. And if I need a man, there’s no reason I can’t take one captive.

I would like to sign up for the witch cabin. I have plenty of caftans I can share and and assortment of capris, tankinis and non-sexy sandals as well.

I want to be a witch and everything but idk if I’m ready for tankinis.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The only things I think of as universally aging are beauty/grooming choices. I think women start looking a lot older with no makeup once we hit the late 30s/early 40s. A totally bare face makes you look older at this age, light/neutral makeup makes you look younger. If you’re avoiding light foundation because it “settles in your fine lines,” as a lot of people say, you’re either applying it wrong, not using the right kind of skin care/prep/moisturizers, or you’re using the wrong type of foundation.

Too short hair is prematurely aging. So is being visibly gray. Yes, some people can pull off the “full head of gray hair” look, and I think at a certain age it becomes kind of ageless in a way, but that age is certainly not newly 40.

Unfortunately, carrying weight in your chest/bust seems prematurely aging. Especially if you’re short you can get a dowdy/mumsy look and then it’s made worse by the fact that you generally buy clothes to fit your chest and then they’re too big in the waist/hips, so you look like you’re wearing your clothes too loose and that can make you look heavier as a result.

Interesting - I am turning 40 and I look soooo much younger when I wear no makeup. I use makeup to make myself look older. Otherwise I look like a 20 year old (this is not a good thing in my mind). I am Asian so that might be why. Most of the time I am afraid people think I am my kids nanny.

I am Asian. We will not think you are in your 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not coloring gray hair.
Chipped teeth
Missing teeth
Wearing clothing from Walmart and/or KMart
Bad posture

I do agree that small busted women can dress age appropriate but still look way more youthful.
Very large bust in a tight top or stretched out in a blouse just looks matronly.

A crown is $5000 and it is not a fashion choice.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree that really big boobs on women are more aging over 40. It’s just gravity. I’m at a family function right now and my cousins with big boobs look older than same age people with small or even just average-sized chests. It changes your body shape and dictates how you dress to some degree. And yes, it all means more matronly.

Someone posted pics of Helen Mirren upthread to prove an older woman with big breasts can look youthful and hot. That’s how you know it’s true— Helen Mirren is the exception that proves the rule. She makes wrinkles and gray hair and a womanly older body look good.

There’s only one Helen Mirren.

So, how many attractive older women with large breasts do I have to post to make the point? Because I can think of several without trying.

And yes, these are women paid to be beautiful. They are professionally in the public eye. But c'mon, the critical stance that big breast on their own as an attribute will necessarily make you look matronly is, well, bunk. You know that. It's a lot of things added up, including how you style your body (as well as 600 other things).

If you look matronly, it's not because your breasts are big. It's because those breasts aren't supported, or are dwarfed by a protruding belly, or are draped in eight thousand dishwater-colored scarves, or whatever. But it's not just because of the breasts. Sorry if that pricks the happy bubble of revenge for some people, but that was a gross one to begin with anyway.

There is a middle aged body we are all familiar with that starts to look more rectangular. I think that's what PP was talking about. And you do often see women who've come into that shape in tunics that emphasize it. I just don't know what the heck you're supposed to do about it or how you can call it a "style choice." Our bodies make some choices for us!

That highlights the issue with tunics- no waist.

But that’s why I’m WEARING the mother f$&ing tunic in the first place!!

This is exhausting and the reason the smart women hit 40 and move to the edge of the woods to be witches.

Look, a witch's caftan is a style CHOICE that I fully support.

Right? Witches cabins are probably a huge tax advantage. And if I need a man, there’s no reason I can’t take one captive.

I would like to sign up for the witch cabin. I have plenty of caftans I can share and and assortment of capris, tankinis and non-sexy sandals as well.

I want to be a witch and everything but idk if I’m ready for tankinis.

It’s just coven culture, accept it. What the heck else are you supposed to kayak in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not coloring gray hair.
Chipped teeth
Missing teeth
Wearing clothing from Walmart and/or KMart
Bad posture

I do agree that small busted women can dress age appropriate but still look way more youthful.
Very large bust in a tight top or stretched out in a blouse just looks matronly.

A crown is $5000 and it is not a fashion choice.

For a second I thought this had to do with frumpy British fashion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just want to say that buying clothes is too much work and it’s okay to just embrace our fashion invisibility and wear the capris and the tunic and be happy, at least some do the time. You look best when you’re happy.

X10000

SO MUCH THIS.

I'm in my 50s, not 40s, so perhaps this thread is not for me, but here's where I am: My feet hurt and my waistline is disappearing. Fabulous shoes are no longer for me. Clothing styles I've relied on for years no longer look good on me. Truthfully, though I am reasonably slim and fit, I'm not sure very much looks "good" on me any more. So generally I am aiming for "good enough." I want to be comfortable, and I want to spend whatever time I have left on this earth actually LIVING life, rather than shopping, dressing, and primping for it.

Sure, and rah rah on all the personal power stuff, but you are the one hanging out in Beauty & Fashion. A little disingenuous, don't you think?

Personally, I read this board and the private school board for the entertainment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a thread. It took a tedious detour for 7-8 pages when we were overcome with bosom discussion but I like that on page 20 we’ve all accepted we are just eldritch crones (with or without the tunics).

Listen just because I live by the woods, have a bosom, wear capri pants and occasionally eat souls doesn’t mean I can’t be stylish.

I don’t eat souls but each month on the new moon I perform a sacred ritual whereby I place a healing spell upon the girdle I was assigned to wear 24 hours a day to confuse those walking behind me when I turned around. It then takes on the appearance of a jean jacket which I wear with my Soft Surroundings dresses.

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