Style choices that age women in their 40s

[Anonymous]

The “nasty” bra ad PP is probably a man and possibly a teen. I think that’s common on this site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The “nasty” bra ad PP is probably a man and possibly a teen. I think that’s common on this site.

It’s bad enough that adults waste their time on this site, but teens? That’s just sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this a nasty ad? I actually like the idea of these bras. They take your natural breasts and lift them up. No compressing or squeezing or shaping. Nice wide straps too!

The bra looks great but I could have done without the "before" with those saggy flapjacks hanging around in socks. It does really illustrate what everyone has been saying in this thread about larger breasts being aging. Once you get to the point when they aren't perky anymore it's not pretty.

Your personality isn’t pretty, and your perky tits won’t save you.

[Anonymous]

I do think large breasts are aging after 40 and while it’s not an easy style choice, I’d consider a breast reduction if mine were very large.

I had a baby in my late 30s and my typically b-cup boobs wound up huge throughout my pregnancy and breastfeeding. It 100% made me look older and, yes, matronly. I especially hated how my clothes fit during that time. When they finally went back down, it was a huge relief and I think I looked much better.

I’d consider a reduction and lift even with my Bs at this point because I love the look of A cups and perky breasts are so much better. It gives you more options for clothes and I think makes you look taller and thinner.

I would also consider a hair transplant for thinning hair and a face lift. I get these aren’t “style choices” in the classical sense, but this really is the stuff that ages us. A different makeup technique or avoiding Chicos is only going to go so far.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For those who want to see the nasty a** advertisement: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1452380886/bralisse-ultimate-breast-shapewear-to-wear-everyday?ref=adqmca&gclid=Cj0KCQjwoK2mBhDzARIsADGbjepPbqSSTDUth-M1PGOk-YEqh5nLWTeQs0UoJHSlntGz-jamBRJY8ykaAkzMEALw_wcB[/quote

Nothing nasty about that ad. It looks like an innovative idea for bras for large breasted women. I've been living with large breasts since I was about 13 and it's still a constant struggle to find bras that are comfortable, supportive enough, that maintain their shape and are affordable. I can't imagine why you would want to denigrate this person who is trying to create such a product. Please explain.

I can’t wait until they fine tune their sizes and will gladly hoist my large saggy bits into one to give it a try!

But they’re not the first to attempt this type of bra… Evelyn & Bobbie was initially funded via Kickstarter but the reality of their bras just hasn’t lived up to the hype IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For those who want to see the nasty a** advertisement: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1452380886/bralisse-ultimate-breast-shapewear-to-wear-everyday?ref=adqmca&gclid=Cj0KCQjwoK2mBhDzARIsADGbjepPbqSSTDUth-M1PGOk-YEqh5nLWTeQs0UoJHSlntGz-jamBRJY8ykaAkzMEALw_wcB[/quote

Nothing nasty about that ad. It looks like an innovative idea for bras for large breasted women. I've been living with large breasts since I was about 13 and it's still a constant struggle to find bras that are comfortable, supportive enough, that maintain their shape and are affordable. I can't imagine why you would want to denigrate this person who is trying to create such a product. Please explain.

I can’t wait until they fine tune their sizes and will gladly hoist my large saggy bits into one to give it a try!

But they’re not the first to attempt this type of bra… Evelyn & Bobbie was initially funded via Kickstarter but the reality of their bras just hasn’t lived up to the hype IMO.

Personally, I don’t want my bras to make my breasts look naturally supported. I just want them up, mushed and immobilized. Like a weird molded super hero costume.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are some common style choices that you think age women in their 40s?

1) Abdominal weight

2) Unattractive hair color/cut. You should have this figured out in your mid 20s, and update as you age.

3) Bright nailpolish. At 40, you need less attention brought to your hands.

4) The Botox/Filler look. Not attractive.

5) Only wearing athleisure. Wear real clothes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are some common style choices that you think age women in their 40s?

1) Abdominal weight

2) Unattractive hair color/cut. You should have this figured out in your mid 20s, and update as you age.

3) Bright nailpolish. At 40, you need less attention brought to your hands.

4) The Botox/Filler look. Not attractive.

5) Only wearing athleisure. Wear real clothes.

So what were you googling that led you to this old thread

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are some common style choices that you think age women in their 40s?

1) Abdominal weight

2) Unattractive hair color/cut. You should have this figured out in your mid 20s, and update as you age.

3) Bright nailpolish. At 40, you need less attention brought to your hands.

4) The Botox/Filler look. Not attractive.

5) Only wearing athleisure. Wear real clothes.

So what were you googling that led you to this old thread

It's the woman in chinos from flyover country. Apparently nobody likes her or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are some common style choices that you think age women in their 40s?

1) Abdominal weight

2) Unattractive hair color/cut. You should have this figured out in your mid 20s, and update as you age.

3) Bright nailpolish. At 40, you need less attention brought to your hands.

4) The Botox/Filler look. Not attractive.

5) Only wearing athleisure. Wear real clothes.

So what were you googling that led you to this old thread

It's the woman in chinos from flyover country. Apparently nobody likes her or something.

Or it is a bored troll - because what she supposedly writes makes no sense. School’s out, maybe some kid is practicing creative writing

[Anonymous]

45 here and my age is what ages me. It just won’t quit. I am thin, toned, do light Botox, color my hair and smile but… still 45!

[Anonymous]

Their attitudes. If you're ugly to people, you're ugly, period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I will be argued with for this. But letting hair go completely grey is the most aging. Even heavy wrinkles aren’t as ageing.

I think it depends, and I also think this is one of those things that we've been societally conditioned to believe is a hallmark of aging (but only in women!), and aging is bad for women because, again, society tells us that it makes unattractive to men. And we are conditioned to believe our worth only exists in relation to the male gaze.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

+1. Also it’s an example of where we don’t realize what true aging looks like because women have been covering grey for so long.

I follow a lot of IG gray hair sites and I am struck by how early lots of people actually reach the tipping point to dye. I had no idea because everyone is dying.

Lots of people dye by the time they are around 30. I worked in an office with a lot of (fashionable, attractive) 30 something women and most of them probably dyed their hair. They were super fastidious about it though (going regularly to the salon) so they never had roots.

This is crazy. I am 56 and just started getting a grey hair here and there…and I pluck it. Dread when I have to start coloring!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know I will be argued with for this. But letting hair go completely grey is the most aging. Even heavy wrinkles aren’t as ageing.

I think it depends, and I also think this is one of those things that we've been societally conditioned to believe is a hallmark of aging (but only in women!), and aging is bad for women because, again, society tells us that it makes unattractive to men. And we are conditioned to believe our worth only exists in relation to the male gaze.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

+1. Also it’s an example of where we don’t realize what true aging looks like because women have been covering grey for so long.

I follow a lot of IG gray hair sites and I am struck by how early lots of people actually reach the tipping point to dye. I had no idea because everyone is dying.

Lots of people dye by the time they are around 30. I worked in an office with a lot of (fashionable, attractive) 30 something women and most of them probably dyed their hair. They were super fastidious about it though (going regularly to the salon) so they never had roots.

This is crazy. I am 56 and just started getting a grey hair here and there…and I pluck it. Dread when I have to start coloring!

Thanks for your random bragging. Never change DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I will be argued with for this. But letting hair go completely grey is the most aging. Even heavy wrinkles aren’t as ageing.

I think it depends, and I also think this is one of those things that we've been societally conditioned to believe is a hallmark of aging (but only in women!), and aging is bad for women because, again, society tells us that it makes unattractive to men. And we are conditioned to believe our worth only exists in relation to the male gaze.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk.

+1. Also it’s an example of where we don’t realize what true aging looks like because women have been covering grey for so long.

I follow a lot of IG gray hair sites and I am struck by how early lots of people actually reach the tipping point to dye. I had no idea because everyone is dying.

Lots of people dye by the time they are around 30. I worked in an office with a lot of (fashionable, attractive) 30 something women and most of them probably dyed their hair. They were super fastidious about it though (going regularly to the salon) so they never had roots.

This is crazy. I am 56 and just started getting a grey hair here and there…and I pluck it. Dread when I have to start coloring!