Style choices that age women in their 40s

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I know I will be argued with for this. But letting hair go completely grey is the most aging. Even heavy wrinkles aren’t as ageing.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

Large breasts aren't a style choice. Unless you are talking about implants. It's like saying, being under 5'6" ages you. Or blue eyes age you.

NP and I’m taking this personally! I’m 52, 5’5” 130 lbs. and a bra size of 33E. I’ve always had large breasts on a small frame, but post menopause I think my 10 pound weight gain is because my breasts went up 2 bands and 2 cup sizes.

Get professionally fitted bras. I have for years. No tunic tops - makes me look like I’m wearing a choir robe. My bra fitting store convinced me to give up on
a minimizer and opt for well fitting, supportive bras instead.

Correctly fitting bras and great posture help!

[Anonymous]

I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

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Anonymous wrote:I know I will be argued with for this. But letting hair go completely grey is the most aging. Even heavy wrinkles aren’t as ageing.

+100. I will never do this.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

I wear capris, so take this with a grain of salt, but I also like skorts and have several from Title 9.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

I wear dresses with bike shorts underneath, or light-weight full length linen pants.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

Shorts.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

Shorts.

I’ve hated capris for years but it feels so hard to find light weight pants that are full length. . I’m 5’8 and so many spring/summer pants are cropped to some degree these days. Now there are some casual ones with drawstring waists, but I prefer a more tailored look. Appreciate any suggestions .

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

I wear capris, so take this with a grain of salt, but I also like skorts and have several from Title 9.

Same. My kids hate sitting on my naked lap so capris it is. Sometimes bermuda shorts.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

Midi skirts and dresses

Workout dresses/skirts with bike shorts underneath.

Lightweight pants (linen, technical knits)

Shorts (longer inseams are in right now so it’s easy to find comfortable shorts that are easy to wear while sitting on the ground or playing with kids)

I don’t get the appeal of capris for this reason anyway? Is your calf really the hottest part of your body? For me it’s less about exposing more skin than about choosing the right fabrics and making sure nothing sits too close to my body. I’d take a pair of full length linen pants with a wider leg of fitted capri pants any day if the week.

[Anonymous]

Any of those chin length beach wave bob haircuts that everyone thinks are so great now. All the middle aged women sport them so when you do, you look old. That and too much makeup.

Trying too hard to look polished backfires.

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Anonymous wrote:I know I will be argued with for this. But letting hair go completely grey is the most aging. Even heavy wrinkles aren’t as ageing.

+100. I will never do this.

eh. a bad dye job is also aging. if you’re otherwise put together, silver hair just makes you look your age, not aging. and there’s something to be said for the “natural” look compared obviously dyed hair. It can be a style choice.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

Shorts.

I’ve hated capris for years but it feels so hard to find light weight pants that are full length. . I’m 5’8 and so many spring/summer pants are cropped to some degree these days. Now there are some casual ones with drawstring waists, but I prefer a more tailored look. Appreciate any suggestions .

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Also, I think cropped to the ankle is fine. People are specifically talking about capri pants that are cropped to just below the knee. It cuts your legs in half, visually, and often has this very unflattering way of hugging the top of your calf. It’s a bad look on anyone, but fir some reason middle aged women wear them a lot and many of us associate it with middle aged frump.

But a pair of pants cropped to the ankle or even an inch or two above don’t bother me, especially in summer with a pair of cute sandals.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

I wear capris, so take this with a grain of salt, but I also like skorts and have several from Title 9.

Same. I wear capris. I see other moms wearing longer pants this summer. No way. And no one wants to see me in shorts.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize how much disdain there is for capris! What are options when it’s super super hot out and jeans are not comfortable, and skirts are not practical (eg sitting on a picnic blanket with little kids)?

shorts or long skirts. some people will say athletic skorts but i say no.