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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have very different ideas of what it is to get hit on!

I don't consider random compliments on my appearance from men to be getting hit on unless they are clearly doing it to start a conversation with me or continue the interaction. So an older man on the street saying "nice coat" is not hitting on me. He is complimenting my coat. I compliment random people's clothes on the street all the time. Women do this to each other to. Complimenting your hair or eyes or even just saying you look pretty is a bit more of something, but again, if it's just said in passing and then people go on with their day, no one has hit on anyone.

Catcalls and harassment are definitely not getting hit on. Ladies, come on. Some guy yelling at you about your boobs or grabbing himself as you jog by is not hitting on you! Stop with this nonsense.

Men in service roles providing good customer service and nothing else (even free items) are not hitting on you. They are working. It has to go beyond serving your lunch to count.

To me, someone is hitting on me if they are trying to to talk to me and suss out if I'm available, if I'm interested in them, and maybe ask me out. Sometimes it doesn't get to the asking out stage but it's really obvious what the intention is. So like when I random guy starts talking to me at a coffee shop or bar and asking questions about my life, maybe in addition to complimenting me or saying stuff like "you seem like the kind of of woman who..." -- that's hitting on someone.

Seriously, some of you are acting like any man talking to you while being friendly is hitting on you. Which, if a man said this, he would get called an incel and delusional. Sometimes people are just being friendly. That doesn't mean their trying to date you.[/quote]

I posted earlier on page 1, and I'm still puzzled about my interactions. Is it just a part of customer service to enter your phone number into someone else's phone and then text them after, either asking for a picture or offering to meet up? Is it just being friendly to walk up to a stranger and say, "I don't mean to bother you, but you are a beautiful woman. Are you from around here?"

My take on these interactions -- which I have NEVER mentioned to anyone other than here, and dodged as quickly as I could -- was that they were likely hitting on me. Is that being delusional? Sincere question.[/quote]

I think they are giving you compliment. There is a whole range of behavior: giving compliments while expecting nothing in return, having a bit of playful banter while wanting nothing in return, and flirting with the intention of figuring out if you can eventually ask the person out.

I also think only the last interaction is "hitting on"[/quote]

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