Why do women hate women who marry well?

[Anonymous]

I feel like there’s this unspoken and implicit assertion that if you marry a rich man, you have “won” and you are better than the women who weren’t as lucky to have garnered the romantic interest of a a wealthy man.

I resent this implication and I have seen other women exhibit it openly and smugly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

Meghan herself will literally bow down before Kate, which bothered her enough that she left the country and hasn’t returned.

Yep, that is what makes this so amusing to me.

She obviously -loved- the idea of being royalty right up to the point where she realized she wasn't at the top of the heap.

From the cringy Oprah interview:

"Harry and I were in the car and he says, ‘OK, well my grandmother is there, you’re going to meet her’. (I said) ‘OK, great’. I loved my grandmother, I used to take care of my grandmother. (He said) ‘Do you know how to curtsey?’ ‘What?’ ‘Do you know how to curtsey?’ I thought genuinely that’s what happens outside, that was part of the fanfare. I didn’t think that’s what happens inside. I go, ‘But it’s your grandmother’. He goes, ‘It’s the Queen!"

Talk about profoundly not getting it. She thought it was all a dress-up game that you did for show in public.


For the actual royals, this system is the only reason they don't have to have jobs, so you better believe they believe in it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike women who are smug about who they married, especially if their smugness is related to their husband's income or family money. I don't dislike them for "marrying well" -- I hope everyone who wants a partner finds a good one. I dislike them for being obnoxious about how their marriage offers them more economic power than other women they know. It's a fundamentally misogynist attitude and is just gross.

There was a woman in another thread recently who explained that her she didn't have to work and was able to travel extensively with her husband when he traveled on business, and how that made another woman jealous. And then she said a bunch of snide stuff about how that woman was miserable in her job and was probably making her husband miserable too. It was just incredibly judgmental and smug. I can't stand women like that. If you are fortunate in who you married, be thankful for your good fortune. Acting smug makes you look so small and petty.

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Well said, PP.

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I just hate the whole “married well trope”, mercantilism in relationships, and heavy misogyny

[Anonymous]

I'm not jealous of women who spread their legs to get paid, especially just for a few hundred thousand, even a million. So when a woman marries a man for less several million, cash in bank, and brags and brags, I really think how low rate they are.

Kind of reminds me of a guy at McDonald's who was bragging yeah, I just got paid, and he had a gigantic wad of $1 bills he whipped out, and all the cashier ladies were so turned on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not jealous of women who spread their legs to get paid, especially just for a few hundred thousand, even a million. So when a woman marries a man for less several million, cash in bank, and brags and brags, I really think how low rate they are.

Kind of reminds me of a guy at McDonald's who was bragging yeah, I just got paid, and he had a gigantic wad of $1 bills he whipped out, and all the cashier ladies were so turned on.

Reminds of the old joke:

A guy says to a women, "would you sleep with someone for a billion dollars?"

She responds after thinking for a moment, "yeah, sure I guess."

So he says, "would you sleep with me for $20?"

No offended, she responds, "Of course not! What do you take me for?"


He responds: "We have already established that, now we are merely haggling."




Btw, you are the woman in this joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a very small percentage of women. I don’t know anyone who cares at all about Meghan Markle. Like if I see them I think “cute couple” then move on and never think about them again, because I have my own life to worry about.

Remember DCUM isn’t representative of real life. Most of the people I know don’t even know who Hilaria Baldwin or Priyanka Chopra are, let alone care what they do.

Priyanka Chopra married down. She’s not a good example here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

Meghan herself will literally bow down before Kate, which bothered her enough that she left the country and hasn’t returned.

Yep, that is what makes this so amusing to me.

She obviously -loved- the idea of being royalty right up to the point where she realized she wasn't at the top of the heap.

From the cringy Oprah interview:

"Harry and I were in the car and he says, ‘OK, well my grandmother is there, you’re going to meet her’. (I said) ‘OK, great’. I loved my grandmother, I used to take care of my grandmother. (He said) ‘Do you know how to curtsey?’ ‘What?’ ‘Do you know how to curtsey?’ I thought genuinely that’s what happens outside, that was part of the fanfare. I didn’t think that’s what happens inside. I go, ‘But it’s your grandmother’. He goes, ‘It’s the Queen!"

Talk about profoundly not getting it. She thought it was all a dress-up game that you did for show in public.


For the actual royals, this system is the only reason they don't have to have jobs, so you better believe they believe in it.

This was the funniest story ever. How was she this clueless???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there’s this unspoken and implicit assertion that if you marry a rich man, you have “won” and you are better than the women who weren’t as lucky to have garnered the romantic interest of a a wealthy man.

I resent this implication and I have seen other women exhibit it openly and smugly.

Do you assume it is his money? Do you assume she married for money, and not him?

Be careful who you try to move in on - other PP was kind of obvious she has bad intentions. Other PP will come up empty handed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at all the hates Meghan Markle gets due to jealousy. Why can’t we let women be?

Marrying well isn’t the reason I dislike her. Good for her for snagging that cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there’s this unspoken and implicit assertion that if you marry a rich man, you have “won” and you are better than the women who weren’t as lucky to have garnered the romantic interest of a a wealthy man.

I resent this implication and I have seen other women exhibit it openly and smugly.

This. I know a woman who was an insecure mess right up until she started dating a rich guy. Suddenly she felt validated and started acting much nicer towards people. Then they got engaged and married, and now she looks down her nose at everyone and brags constantly about their house, their vacations, meals at fancy restaurants, etc. The whole thing is tedious because watching it happen you can see that she was insecure before because she was single, then a rich guy "picked" her and she felt worthy, and now she thinks she's better than people who married less wealthy men or who are not married. I feel bad for her because it's so sad, but not enough that I won't avoid spending time with her whenever possible because she is so grating.

What's amazing is that she's also very outspoken about being a feminist -- talking about choice and the pay gap and women getting equity. I agree with all that stuff but there are definitely times when I want to shake her and be like "look at your own damn house, girl -- this is NOT feminism." I think she's oblivious to it.

[Anonymous]

Wow. 1950 is calling! Maybe 1970?

This hasn't crossed my mind. I am guessing for two reasons: people with money always marry other people without, so the marrying well trope is just a movie plot device for class commentary at this point.

But also there is no actual need for an educated woman marry unless she specifically wants to.

I also am aware I run in odd circles of women PhDs and MRS etc whose concerns lie more with did my experiments work, did a patient die, or will that article be published. No one has time for weird 1950s preoccupations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. 1950 is calling! Maybe 1970?

This hasn't crossed my mind. I am guessing for two reasons: people with money always marry other people without, so the marrying well trope is just a movie plot device for class commentary at this point.

But also there is no actual need for an educated woman marry unless she specifically wants to.

I also am aware I run in odd circles of women PhDs and MRS etc whose concerns lie more with did my experiments work, did a patient die, or will that article be published. No one has time for weird 1950s preoccupations.

Pp here. No going to lie....it is pretty hilarious that MDs was autocorrected to MRS. F**king autocorrect also needs to not live in 1950.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like there’s this unspoken and implicit assertion that if you marry a rich man, you have “won” and you are better than the women who weren’t as lucky to have garnered the romantic interest of a a wealthy man.

I resent this implication and I have seen other women exhibit it openly and smugly.

Well I certainly believe you that it’s about resentment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. I think the Meghan Markle hate is motivated by a weird and toxic mix of things, including racism.

2. I certainly don't hate women who married well, but I do think it's foolish for a woman not to have her own money, whether from her family, her work, etc.

When she marries, her husband becomes family. Does that money not count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Kate is the winner over all. She is next in line.