Why do women hate women who marry well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. 1950 is calling! Maybe 1970?

This hasn't crossed my mind. I am guessing for two reasons: people with money always marry other people without, so the marrying well trope is just a movie plot device for class commentary at this point.

But also there is no actual need for an educated woman marry unless she specifically wants to.

I also am aware I run in odd circles of women PhDs and MRS etc whose concerns lie more with did my experiments work, did a patient die, or will that article be published. No one has time for weird 1950s preoccupations.

I’m the same circle without the lack of family values. This is a very small number of women. Highly educated women in DC apply outsourcing but still you’re in for that family values that you neglect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. I think the Meghan Markle hate is motivated by a weird and toxic mix of things, including racism.

2. I certainly don't hate women who married well, but I do think it's foolish for a woman not to have her own money, whether from her family, her work, etc.

When she marries, her husband becomes family. Does that money not count.

DP, but: not in the same way. The explicit implication here is that you need to understand divorce is a possibility and not simply rely 100% on your spouse for your financial well being. In a divorce, you would keep family money or your own income. You won't keep your spouse's income.

I would also argue that there are myriad things that can happen that make it smart to have some form of economic independence in your marriage. Your spouse could fall ill or, god forbid, die. Maintaining a source of income will make it easier for you to take over as a breadwinner if that happened. I also think women who have some kind of income and career tend to be happier as they age because they maintain something that is separate and "theirs". Not just separate from their husband but also their kids.

Even if it's part-time work or a small income source, like socking away any financial contributions from your parents in a separate savings account that you manage, or selling clothes and jewelry online and saving the proceeds. Plus being able to contribute to marital finances, even in small amounts, can really change relationship dynamics in a positive way. You are more likely to pay attention to finances and spending if your income is part of it, and it allows you and your husband to operate as equally vested financial partners, even if your financial contributions aren't equal (likely your parenting and other contributions aren't equal in the other direction, this is normal).

[Anonymous]

I’m jealous of the women who get to sleep with your well you do men without the nagging of being the kept wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at all the hates Meghan Markle gets due to jealousy. Why can’t we let women be?

Your thread title is misleading. You just want to start ANOTHER fracas about MM, who is toxic and a horrible example of anything positive.

[Anonymous]

I really don’t know any women who married well but I know many women who are married to successful men. I don’t hate any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. 1950 is calling! Maybe 1970?

This hasn't crossed my mind. I am guessing for two reasons: people with money always marry other people without, so the marrying well trope is just a movie plot device for class commentary at this point.

But also there is no actual need for an educated woman marry unless she specifically wants to.

I also am aware I run in odd circles of women PhDs and MRS etc whose concerns lie more with did my experiments work, did a patient die, or will that article be published. No one has time for weird 1950s preoccupations.

I’m the same circle without the lack of family values. This is a very small number of women. Highly educated women in DC apply outsourcing but still you’re in for that family values that you neglect.

What does this word salad even mean?

[Anonymous]

If someone marries well above the lifestyle they grew up in there is bound to be some jealousy. But marrying into money doesn’t insure happiness because that money can come with obligations. Getting married and building wealth together is generally a happier route at least among the couples we know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If someone marries well above the lifestyle they grew up in there is bound to be some jealousy. But marrying into money doesn’t insure happiness because that money can come with obligations. Getting married and building wealth together is generally a happier route at least among the couples we know.

The bolded is a big part that is largely ignored regarding this subject. I’ve found this to be VERY true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not jealous of women who spread their legs to get paid, especially just for a few hundred thousand, even a million. So when a woman marries a man for less several million, cash in bank, and brags and brags, I really think how low rate they are.

Kind of reminds me of a guy at McDonald's who was bragging yeah, I just got paid, and he had a gigantic wad of $1 bills he whipped out, and all the cashier ladies were so turned on.

Reminds of the old joke:

A guy says to a women, "would you sleep with someone for a billion dollars?"

She responds after thinking for a moment, "yeah, sure I guess."

So he says, "would you sleep with me for $20?"

No offended, she responds, "Of course not! What do you take me for?"


He responds: "We have already established that, now we are merely haggling."




Btw, you are the woman in this joke.

Not. Switch $20 to $2m. Cash in my account, 1990s. Then maybe. I said no. Loved guy too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. I think the Meghan Markle hate is motivated by a weird and toxic mix of things, including racism.

2. I certainly don't hate women who married well, but I do think it's foolish for a woman not to have her own money, whether from her family, her work, etc.

When she marries, her husband becomes family. Does that money not count.

DP, but: not in the same way. The explicit implication here is that you need to understand divorce is a possibility and not simply rely 100% on your spouse for your financial well being. In a divorce, you would keep family money or your own income. You won't keep your spouse's income.

I would also argue that there are myriad things that can happen that make it smart to have some form of economic independence in your marriage. Your spouse could fall ill or, god forbid, die. Maintaining a source of income will make it easier for you to take over as a breadwinner if that happened. I also think women who have some kind of income and career tend to be happier as they age because they maintain something that is separate and "theirs". Not just separate from their husband but also their kids.

Even if it's part-time work or a small income source, like socking away any financial contributions from your parents in a separate savings account that you manage, or selling clothes and jewelry online and saving the proceeds. Plus being able to contribute to marital finances, even in small amounts, can really change relationship dynamics in a positive way. You are more likely to pay attention to finances and spending if your income is part of it, and it allows you and your husband to operate as equally vested financial partners, even if your financial contributions aren't equal (likely your parenting and other contributions aren't equal in the other direction, this is normal).

This!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not jealous of women who spread their legs to get paid, especially just for a few hundred thousand, even a million. So when a woman marries a man for less several million, cash in bank, and brags and brags, I really think how low rate they are.

Kind of reminds me of a guy at McDonald's who was bragging yeah, I just got paid, and he had a gigantic wad of $1 bills he whipped out, and all the cashier ladies were so turned on.

Reminds of the old joke:

A guy says to a women, "would you sleep with someone for a billion dollars?"

She responds after thinking for a moment, "yeah, sure I guess."

So he says, "would you sleep with me for $20?"

No offended, she responds, "Of course not! What do you take me for?"


He responds: "We have already established that, now we are merely haggling."




Btw, you are the woman in this joke.

Not. Switch $20 to $2m. Cash in my account, 1990s. Then maybe. I said no. Loved guy too.

You were married at the time, right? And this took place on a yacht.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not jealous of women who spread their legs to get paid, especially just for a few hundred thousand, even a million. So when a woman marries a man for less several million, cash in bank, and brags and brags, I really think how low rate they are.

Kind of reminds me of a guy at McDonald's who was bragging yeah, I just got paid, and he had a gigantic wad of $1 bills he whipped out, and all the cashier ladies were so turned on.

Reminds of the old joke:

A guy says to a women, "would you sleep with someone for a billion dollars?"

She responds after thinking for a moment, "yeah, sure I guess."

So he says, "would you sleep with me for $20?"

No offended, she responds, "Of course not! What do you take me for?"


He responds: "We have already established that, now we are merely haggling."




Btw, you are the woman in this joke.

Not. Switch $20 to $2m. Cash in my account, 1990s. Then maybe. I said no. Loved guy too.

You were married at the time, right? And this took place on a yacht.

He wanted to marry me. But I wanted to be free.

[Anonymous]

If you’re married “well”, and you don’t tout it as your entire identity or main achievement in life, I can promise you that no one hates you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone marries well above the lifestyle they grew up in there is bound to be some jealousy. But marrying into money doesn’t insure happiness because that money can come with obligations. Getting married and building wealth together is generally a happier route at least among the couples we know.

The bolded is a big part that is largely ignored regarding this subject. I’ve found this to be VERY true.

+1. Marry for money, earn every penny…

[Anonymous]

Basic b$tches gonna hate. Put on a lock on him before the meal ticket finds another woman.