Why do women hate women who marry well?

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Anonymous wrote:1. I think the Meghan Markle hate is motivated by a weird and toxic mix of things, including racism.

2. I certainly don't hate women who married well, but I do think it's foolish for a woman not to have her own money, whether from her family, her work, etc.

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People don't hate on Meghan because she "married well." For the proof, contrast her with Kate, who is beloved. Meghan was independently successful and wealthy, whereas Kate has always been the opposite.

Pp is incorrect its racism though. Meghan looks white and has only married white but she plays up her blackness when it suits her. She dominates Harry and has him at her beck and call.

Sure, Karen. Not a racist bone in your body, right?

[Anonymous]

I judge women who marry only for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. I think the Meghan Markle hate is motivated by a weird and toxic mix of things, including racism.

2. I certainly don't hate women who married well, but I do think it's foolish for a woman not to have her own money, whether from her family, her work, etc.

+1

People don't hate on Meghan because she "married well." For the proof, contrast her with Kate, who is beloved. Meghan was independently successful and wealthy, whereas Kate has always been the opposite.

Pp is incorrect its racism though. Meghan looks white and has only married white but she plays up her blackness when it suits her. She dominates Harry and has him at her beck and call.

Sure, Karen. Not a racist bone in your body, right?

Correct. Most of my friends are black and they don't like Meghan for these reasons as well.

[Anonymous]

Oh and I'm not white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who marry only for money.

To me I don't care if they married for money or not, or because they are kind or supportive or funny or handsome. That's your business.

What bugs me is when women speak and behave as though marrying a man with good qualities is evidence that they are more deserving. This is as bad when you're talking about wealth as kindness. Does any woman deserve an unkind partner? Does anyone deserve to struggle financially? To have an unsupportive partner? No. No one deserves that.

So when women act like their husbands are rewards or prizes for "winning", it irks me. I know amazing women who have had to leave abusive relationships, who have married men with gambling problems or mental health issues that didn't emerge until years later, who turned out to have controlling or abusive family members that they are now stuck with. Those women didn't deserve any of that -- it's just life sometimes.

If you married "well", whatever that means to you, count your blessings and shut your mouth. You got lucky and if you don't see that, better watch out for when bad luck sneaks up on you too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I judge women who marry only for money.

To me I don't care if they married for money or not, or because they are kind or supportive or funny or handsome. That's your business.

What bugs me is when women speak and behave as though marrying a man with good qualities is evidence that they are more deserving. This is as bad when you're talking about wealth as kindness. Does any woman deserve an unkind partner? Does anyone deserve to struggle financially? To have an unsupportive partner? No. No one deserves that.

So when women act like their husbands are rewards or prizes for "winning", it irks me. I know amazing women who have had to leave abusive relationships, who have married men with gambling problems or mental health issues that didn't emerge until years later, who turned out to have controlling or abusive family members that they are now stuck with. Those women didn't deserve any of that -- it's just life sometimes.

If you married "well", whatever that means to you, count your blessings and shut your mouth. You got lucky and if you don't see that, better watch out for when bad luck sneaks up on you too.

+1. well said.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

Lol you do understand that there are actually lots and lots of people in the world who wouldn't want the burden or limitations of being married to a monarch, right? There is not enough money and luxury and tiaras and parties in the world to make that life appealing to me. I'd also never want to be married to a president or any high level politician. It is a brutal life made palatable by privilege. But I'd rather have the privilege without the responsibility, and I think a lot of other people would to.

Having to bow to my cousins would be weird, though. I'd just try to avoid seeing much of them, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who marry only for money.

I judge men and women who marry for money equally. That includes Kevin Federline, John Kerry, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

I agree with you on the monarchy but Kate’s kids aren’t “better.” They simply rank higher. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dislike women who are smug about who they married, especially if their smugness is related to their husband's income or family money. I don't dislike them for "marrying well" -- I hope everyone who wants a partner finds a good one. I dislike them for being obnoxious about how their marriage offers them more economic power than other women they know. It's a fundamentally misogynist attitude and is just gross.

There was a woman in another thread recently who explained that her she didn't have to work and was able to travel extensively with her husband when he traveled on business, and how that made another woman jealous. And then she said a bunch of snide stuff about how that woman was miserable in her job and was probably making her husband miserable too. It was just incredibly judgmental and smug. I can't stand women like that. If you are fortunate in who you married, be thankful for your good fortune. Acting smug makes you look so small and petty.

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Well said, PP.

Agreed. I remember the same thread and thought the same. It was obvious people don't like her because she's unkind and snide, but she was insistent it was jealousy for marrying well. Shrug.

[Anonymous]

OMG! Why can't you keep your Meghan Markle obsession in the designated forum and thread!


I also don't know anyone who hates a woman simply for marrying a wealthy man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

I would prefer a husband who doesn't cheat on me with my friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

I agree with you on the monarchy but Kate’s kids aren’t “better.” They simply rank higher. Big difference.

Uh, no, pretty much the exact same thing.

That is the whole nature of a class based system. The higher the class the better and obviously more refined you are.

You can't have it any other way because otherwise some peasant will start asking why he can't rule the kingdom, live in the castle, and bang all the ladies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody hates her for "marrying well," if that were the case people would be hating on Kate even more because afterall, Kate married better.

Haha no she didn’t.

Of course Kate married better. She married the future king.

Megan's kids will literally bow down before Kate's kids. That is because Kate's kids are better, because their father will be king.

Welcome to a hereditary monarchy, an unbelievably evil system that we fought a war to be rid of, but that a bunch of Americans seem to love anyway.

Meghan herself will literally bow down before Kate, which bothered her enough that she left the country and hasn’t returned.