Any men attracted to spoiled women?

[Anonymous]

LOL DCUM Frumps are so bitter, jealous and wrong.

In my experience, ABSOLUTELY.

I have been spoiled by every man who has ever dated me. I don't know what it is...its a vibe I sent out unconsciously? I was raised in a wonderful, kind and loving family and have always had a special bond with my father. He always gave me everything I wanted and dreamt of and more. Because of that I have what some would call a healthy sense of entitlement and sky-high self worth. I like high quality beautiful and pretty things. My interests and exposure have made me naturally prefer a certain kind of lifestyle.

I will say though, looks wise I am not always the hottest girl in the room. I have an average face but genetically blessed. I have olive skin, a small petite frame that I maintain via a very healthy Gwyneth Paltrow-esque diet. I am "cute" and "feminine" and small.

I am NOT a mean person, however. I am exceedingly kind, generous and full of love. If people treat me well, I love them 100x more. My husband always says he married me because I am the best woman he has ever met and I am pretty and smart.


From what I have observed, certain kinds of men LOVE spoiled bratty women. These men themselves come from wealthy families or are in high income professions. They enjoy fine living and want the nice house in the best neighborhood, they want a Tesla or whichever expense car of their choosing, they care about what they wear and how they appear to society. A pretty woman who also likes these things is the cherry on top of this lifestyle. Its a point of pride to show off a pretty woman wearing expensive clothes they can bring to parties. It signals, " I am rich and I can afford HER type of woman"

Average middle class people would not understand. It usually involves two people who on some level definitely value material things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL DCUM Frumps are so bitter, jealous and wrong.

In my experience, ABSOLUTELY.

I have been spoiled by every man who has ever dated me. I don't know what it is...its a vibe I sent out unconsciously? I was raised in a wonderful, kind and loving family and have always had a special bond with my father. He always gave me everything I wanted and dreamt of and more. Because of that I have what some would call a healthy sense of entitlement and sky-high self worth. I like high quality beautiful and pretty things. My interests and exposure have made me naturally prefer a certain kind of lifestyle.

I will say though, looks wise I am not always the hottest girl in the room. I have an average face but genetically blessed. I have olive skin, a small petite frame that I maintain via a very healthy Gwyneth Paltrow-esque diet. I am "cute" and "feminine" and small.

I am NOT a mean person, however. I am exceedingly kind, generous and full of love. If people treat me well, I love them 100x more. My husband always says he married me because I am the best woman he has ever met and I am pretty and smart.


From what I have observed, certain kinds of men LOVE spoiled bratty women. These men themselves come from wealthy families or are in high income professions. They enjoy fine living and want the nice house in the best neighborhood, they want a Tesla or whichever expense car of their choosing, they care about what they wear and how they appear to society. A pretty woman who also likes these things is the cherry on top of this lifestyle. Its a point of pride to show off a pretty woman wearing expensive clothes they can bring to parties. It signals, " I am rich and I can afford HER type of woman"

Average middle class people would not understand. It usually involves two people who on some level definitely value material things.

Yes we're all just so jealous that we can't be wethy like you

[Anonymous]

This thread proves is nice and for all - men are idiots and women are evil.

[Anonymous]

for sex, yes. everything else? hell no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL DCUM Frumps are so bitter, jealous and wrong.

In my experience, ABSOLUTELY.

I have been spoiled by every man who has ever dated me. I don't know what it is...its a vibe I sent out unconsciously? I was raised in a wonderful, kind and loving family and have always had a special bond with my father. He always gave me everything I wanted and dreamt of and more. Because of that I have what some would call a healthy sense of entitlement and sky-high self worth. I like high quality beautiful and pretty things. My interests and exposure have made me naturally prefer a certain kind of lifestyle.

I will say though, looks wise I am not always the hottest girl in the room. I have an average face but genetically blessed. I have olive skin, a small petite frame that I maintain via a very healthy Gwyneth Paltrow-esque diet. I am "cute" and "feminine" and small.

I am NOT a mean person, however. I am exceedingly kind, generous and full of love. If people treat me well, I love them 100x more. My husband always says he married me because I am the best woman he has ever met and I am pretty and smart.


From what I have observed, certain kinds of men LOVE spoiled bratty women. These men themselves come from wealthy families or are in high income professions. They enjoy fine living and want the nice house in the best neighborhood, they want a Tesla or whichever expense car of their choosing, they care about what they wear and how they appear to society. A pretty woman who also likes these things is the cherry on top of this lifestyle. Its a point of pride to show off a pretty woman wearing expensive clothes they can bring to parties. It signals, " I am rich and I can afford HER type of woman"

Average middle class people would not understand. It usually involves two people who on some level definitely value material things.

This post neatly summarizes everything that has ever been or will ever be written on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL DCUM Frumps are so bitter, jealous and wrong.

In my experience, ABSOLUTELY.

I have been spoiled by every man who has ever dated me. I don't know what it is...its a vibe I sent out unconsciously? I was raised in a wonderful, kind and loving family and have always had a special bond with my father. He always gave me everything I wanted and dreamt of and more. Because of that I have what some would call a healthy sense of entitlement and sky-high self worth. I like high quality beautiful and pretty things. My interests and exposure have made me naturally prefer a certain kind of lifestyle.

I will say though, looks wise I am not always the hottest girl in the room. I have an average face but genetically blessed. I have olive skin, a small petite frame that I maintain via a very healthy Gwyneth Paltrow-esque diet. I am "cute" and "feminine" and small.

I am NOT a mean person, however. I am exceedingly kind, generous and full of love. If people treat me well, I love them 100x more. My husband always says he married me because I am the best woman he has ever met and I am pretty and smart.


From what I have observed, certain kinds of men LOVE spoiled bratty women. These men themselves come from wealthy families or are in high income professions. They enjoy fine living and want the nice house in the best neighborhood, they want a Tesla or whichever expense car of their choosing, they care about what they wear and how they appear to society. A pretty woman who also likes these things is the cherry on top of this lifestyle. Its a point of pride to show off a pretty woman wearing expensive clothes they can bring to parties. It signals, " I am rich and I can afford HER type of woman"

Average middle class people would not understand. It usually involves two people who on some level definitely value material things.

From what I have observed, those women inevitably get traded in for a younger model

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL DCUM Frumps are so bitter, jealous and wrong.

In my experience, ABSOLUTELY.

I have been spoiled by every man who has ever dated me. I don't know what it is...its a vibe I sent out unconsciously? I was raised in a wonderful, kind and loving family and have always had a special bond with my father. He always gave me everything I wanted and dreamt of and more. Because of that I have what some would call a healthy sense of entitlement and sky-high self worth. I like high quality beautiful and pretty things. My interests and exposure have made me naturally prefer a certain kind of lifestyle.

I will say though, looks wise I am not always the hottest girl in the room. I have an average face but genetically blessed. I have olive skin, a small petite frame that I maintain via a very healthy Gwyneth Paltrow-esque diet. I am "cute" and "feminine" and small.

I am NOT a mean person, however. I am exceedingly kind, generous and full of love. If people treat me well, I love them 100x more. My husband always says he married me because I am the best woman he has ever met and I am pretty and smart.


From what I have observed, certain kinds of men LOVE spoiled bratty women. These men themselves come from wealthy families or are in high income professions. They enjoy fine living and want the nice house in the best neighborhood, they want a Tesla or whichever expense car of their choosing, they care about what they wear and how they appear to society. A pretty woman who also likes these things is the cherry on top of this lifestyle. Its a point of pride to show off a pretty woman wearing expensive clothes they can bring to parties. It signals, " I am rich and I can afford HER type of woman"

Average middle class people would not understand. It usually involves two people who on some level definitely value material things.

From what I have observed, those women inevitably get traded in for a younger model

Divorce rates are higher in MC and LMC circles.

[Anonymous]

As someone who enjoys being fairly low maintenance/minimalist I find this thread fascinating. The concept of being “spoiled” by a man is strange to me as I’m an attorney who makes good money and can buy what I want. But I definitely think there is a dynamic out there if men who enjoy the power of buying things for a beautiful woman. So I would say yes that being “high maintenance” can be a turn on for men. I think those men are probably fairly status conscious though, which is not something I find attractive. Middle age men revving up their sports cars and wearing flashy displays of wealth is so cheesy to me. I prefer being more of the millionaire next door type of family.

[Anonymous]

Not most men. A few do. I see it a kind of relationship kink.

[Anonymous]

I'm a highly educated woman who makes a great salary. My husband does make an effort to buy and do things that like for example he bought horses for us. I don't consider myself a spoiled woman as a personality type that's strange to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a highly educated woman who makes a great salary. My husband does make an effort to buy and do things that like for example he bought horses for us. I don't consider myself a spoiled woman as a personality type that's strange to me

To me, this is just normal happy relationship behavior.

I’m a sahm currently and will likely not be a high earner when I return to work. Still, while my husband is the sole earner, we have 4 kids under 6 and we both work very hard. I think the whole “high maintenance” and “spoiled” relationship dynamic goes beyond giving gifts, treating each other etc. These types seem to really enjoy the presentation of being taken care of. I think “spoiled wives” are often grown up “daddy’s girls”. They, and their husbands, like to show off how wealthy he is by her portraying that she never has to lift a finger and gets showered with gifts. Someone said upthread, and I agree, that it is a kink of sorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on what I have observed: they are absolutely attracted, long term relationship or marriage no, that schtick gets old

I’m extremely spoiled and high maintenance and got married 3 times before marrying my husband of 10 years. And now more spoiled than ever.

I think the secret is spoiled women who are also grateful and happy are gratifying. Compare to women I know who, when they get a gift from their husbands, complain about how the money could have been used better on something more practical. A woman who wants to be spoiled but also makes spoiling her a rewarding and pleasant experience is fun to date/marry. Of course a woman for whom nothing is ever good enough would get old quick.

Obviously men can be attracted to a spoiled woman, but the attraction can't necessarily be maintained as the rest of the spoiled personality emerges ...

[Anonymous]

I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High maintenance here and have always attracted a lot of men. I don’t think men are necessarily attracted to the high maintenance aspect as they are to my self-confidence. I’m also hot and fun, so that helps.

In what ways are you high maintenance?

High standards when it comes to everything. I’m not insufferable, though, and am very grateful and positive. I attract men who are natural providers and are happy to spoil me. I think there’s a large swath of men who wouldn’t like my standards.

Example: my ex-husband took me to Italy when we were dating. My ex-boyfriend took me to Bermuda. Just yesterday my current boyfriend bought me an iPhone (smaller example, but my point is - they just do these things. I don’t ask, and I don’t *have* to ask.)

you must be a porn star in the sack - every time. otherwise I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

You're probably a great role model for your teens, especially if they're girls.
Seriously.