Any men attracted to spoiled women?

[Anonymous]

American divorce rates explained partially in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

This is pretty accurate. We have 1 kid, I don’t work, a couple of vacation homes and DH could care less about what I spend money. He is a natural giver. He spoils me and I don’t ask for it. He just wants me and our family to have a great fun life. Sex is great, family is great, life is great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who enjoys being fairly low maintenance/minimalist I find this thread fascinating. The concept of being “spoiled” by a man is strange to me as I’m an attorney who makes good money and can buy what I want. But I definitely think there is a dynamic out there if men who enjoy the power of buying things for a beautiful woman. So I would say yes that being “high maintenance” can be a turn on for men. I think those men are probably fairly status conscious though, which is not something I find attractive. Middle age men revving up their sports cars and wearing flashy displays of wealth is so cheesy to me. I prefer being more of the millionaire next door type of family.

We are double biglaw and I’m spoiled AF by my DH, even though I can and do buy whatever I want.

[Anonymous]

So I think some people are interpreting spouses caring for each other, buying gifts, having a good sex life as being spoiled.

Personally, I wouldn’t interpret this as ‘spoiling’ in my marriage and wouldn’t characterize it that way to family or friends. We like our dynamic and I so appreciate all that DH does to care for me but I don’t see myself as spoiled or proudly high maintenance.

I think some women enjoy applying those terms and thinking in that way. I think there are also some men who like the spoiled princess schtick but not most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

Well, bless your little heart.

[Anonymous]

So, some takeaway's from this thread:
-I am overweight and therefore not petite, pretty or dainty
-If you are perfect, then you get to SAHM with a wealthy husband who does everything for you or outsources all of the not-so-fun stuff in life and gets you lots of pretty things or vacations
-Attractiveness is directly related to a happy life or high earning families

My tidbit: I am overweight but still attractive, have an awesome DH who shares the work and the fun, we go to awesome vacations, and he loves spoiling me by getting things that I want for my hobbies like cameras, spyware and blinds for birding or kitchen gadgets like mixer attachments. Or, a nice Porsche Cayenne that I wanted. So, just because I am not this 100# sex kitten VS model does not mean that I am not deserving of a nice lifestyle as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, some takeaway's from this thread:
-I am overweight and therefore not petite, pretty or dainty
-If you are perfect, then you get to SAHM with a wealthy husband who does everything for you or outsources all of the not-so-fun stuff in life and gets you lots of pretty things or vacations
-Attractiveness is directly related to a happy life or high earning families

My tidbit: I am overweight but still attractive, have an awesome DH who shares the work and the fun, we go to awesome vacations, and he loves spoiling me by getting things that I want for my hobbies like cameras, spyware and blinds for birding or kitchen gadgets like mixer attachments. Or, a nice Porsche Cayenne that I wanted. So, just because I am not this 100# sex kitten VS model does not mean that I am not deserving of a nice lifestyle as well.

I agree with you but it’s not a secret that beauty brings rewards and especially when it comes to men. Men would do anything to have a beautiful woman.

[Anonymous]

My sister is a SAHM and has a full time nanny and maid who comes in every week to clean the house. She gets someone to cook 2-3 times a week also!

She is quite beautiful and she spends hours working out and taking good care of her looks.

I always envy her when we visit them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

How big is your house that you need a live in housekeeper?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, some takeaway's from this thread:
-I am overweight and therefore not petite, pretty or dainty
-If you are perfect, then you get to SAHM with a wealthy husband who does everything for you or outsources all of the not-so-fun stuff in life and gets you lots of pretty things or vacations
-Attractiveness is directly related to a happy life or high earning families

My tidbit: I am overweight but still attractive, have an awesome DH who shares the work and the fun, we go to awesome vacations, and he loves spoiling me by getting things that I want for my hobbies like cameras, spyware and blinds for birding or kitchen gadgets like mixer attachments. Or, a nice Porsche Cayenne that I wanted. So, just because I am not this 100# sex kitten VS model does not mean that I am not deserving of a nice lifestyle as well.

Deserve's got nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

This thread is ignoring the fact that everyone has different love languages and different dynamics in their relationships. To assume someone is “jealous” because they aren’t spoiled is silly and myopic. But I expect no less than this from DCUM.

[Anonymous]

It's one thing to attract a man. It's another thing entirely to make him stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am spoiled and I think men are attracted to the self confidence and love of sex (yes, I think they are related). Men don’t want sex in the dark and always hearing about how you can’t lose weight, etc. Take care of yourself physically and mentally and the men will take care of you. We have 3 kids, a live in housekeeper, and I don’t work. We have amazing sex most days of the week, go on date nights several times a week, and he spoils me with jewelry, trips, etc. Our kids are teenagers and most of their friends’ parents seem tired, grumpy, and just going through the motions of marriage. We are having a blast.

How big is your house that you need a live in housekeeper?

It’s 10k sqft.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's one thing to attract a man. It's another thing entirely to make him stay.

I’m pp and we have been married 27 years. 3 kids 25, 22, and 19. Our relationship has only gotten better over the years. Now that the kids are all either on their own or in college we can travel more and are looking at beach houses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is a SAHM and has a full time nanny and maid who comes in every week to clean the house. She gets someone to cook 2-3 times a week also!

She is quite beautiful and she spends hours working out and taking good care of her looks.

I always envy her when we visit them.

My SIL is also a SAHM with a live in housekeeper/cook as well as full time nannies for both of her young kids.
I don't know if I would describe her as beautiful, but she is petite and cute and does look after herself well. Above all I think her relaxed/positive/fun personality is the thing that her husband values (just my thoughts).
I don't necessarily envy her but she's always fun to talk to so I love her regardless!