How obnoxious is it to miss rec games?

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It definitelys depends. if roster is too big it could be a huge benefit to others on team to get some playing time.

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Anonymous wrote:It definitelys depends. if roster is too big it could be a huge benefit to others on team to get some playing time.

This. My kid played on a rec basketball team that was mostly baseball players and a couple of travel basketball players. It wan't the main sport for any of them, they were all friends and looking for a way to hang out. When the travel basketball players were there, they were a much stronger team, but when they weren't the baseball players got more playing time. Baseball players are no known for being shy, so they didn't mind stepping up when the basketball players were not there.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you ask about the general game schedule? One of my sons has played soccer and baseball in the fall and spring for years, and he has only missed a couple of games during that whole time. Depending on the age, the games sort of fell in a predictable time frame. Soccer for little ones is early in the morning morning, and baseball games were midday. As he got older the soccer games were middday and the baseball tended to be evening. Maybe getting some insight from each league about the general timing could help you decide?

Move to travel soccer and then the games are mostly in Sundays. Of course you will also run into midweek baseball games conflicting with soccer training.

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Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

Bruh, even volunteers have conflicts from time to time and sometimes folks can't clone themselves and be in two places at once. Why don't you step up and volunteer?

His spouse could take the kid to the relay meet, and he could coach his team. Or another parent could give the kid a ride to the meet, if he is a widower. I volunteer plenty, thank you, that's how I understand how it should work.

Mmhmmm and what if spouse was sick or there wasn't a spouse? Ruh roh.

[Anonymous]

I have coached 3 different sports and have been a commissioner for 2 of those- ages U5 to current U 14. Here is my take-
1) sign your kid up - it is Rec level and we all know kids can and should try multiple sports. I had one DC who only came to practice all year. I had another who only came to every game (this was discussed and agreed to prior to season start).
2) make sure the office or commissioner knows your story. There are often teams that are bigger vs smaller rosters, those with more travel kids, etc They can help you find the right fit.
3) look ahead to the schedule and alert the coach as soon as possible when you will miss a game. This will give them time to ensure other players will be there. DD plays Rec and travel in one sport and we will try to make Rec team for at least 1/2 a game if they are really low on players.

Good luck!

And for what it is worth if my DC has an important event, I would certainly pass off a practice and perhaps even a game to an assistant coach or ‘manager’ as long as they have been approved by the league. I always have back ups. Many volunteer coaches coach more than one team and many coach more than 1 season. Week after week and year after year they spend not just the time a practice or the game but work at home also, waiting for the parents who are 5-10’ late and evening carpooling a bunch of the players from time to time. No one should ever get upset if they miss some team events to see their own kids participate in something.

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^^ sorry- even carpooling…

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Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

Bruh, even volunteers have conflicts from time to time and sometimes folks can't clone themselves and be in two places at once. Why don't you step up and volunteer?

His spouse could take the kid to the relay meet, and he could coach his team. Or another parent could give the kid a ride to the meet, if he is a widower. I volunteer plenty, thank you, that's how I understand how it should work.

Mmhmmm and what if spouse was sick or there wasn't a spouse? Ruh roh.

Try reading for comprehension next time. Ruh roh indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

Bruh, even volunteers have conflicts from time to time and sometimes folks can't clone themselves and be in two places at once. Why don't you step up and volunteer?

His spouse could take the kid to the relay meet, and he could coach his team. Or another parent could give the kid a ride to the meet, if he is a widower. I volunteer plenty, thank you, that's how I understand how it should work.

Mmhmmm and what if spouse was sick or there wasn't a spouse? Ruh roh.

Try reading for comprehension next time. Ruh roh indeed.

Try bridge jumping.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you ask about the general game schedule? One of my sons has played soccer and baseball in the fall and spring for years, and he has only missed a couple of games during that whole time. Depending on the age, the games sort of fell in a predictable time frame. Soccer for little ones is early in the morning morning, and baseball games were midday. As he got older the soccer games were middday and the baseball tended to be evening. Maybe getting some insight from each league about the general timing could help you decide?

Move to travel soccer and then the games are mostly in Sundays. Of course you will also run into midweek baseball games conflicting with soccer training.

Ok? I think it is quite obvious, and was assumed in the OP, that there is potential for conflict. I was offering the idea that sometimes there isn’t—in no way did I imply that it will definitely work. This is why I suggested asking the league. Maybe it wouldn’t be much of a conflict, maybe it would, but OP could gain some more insight by speaking with league representatives about their typical scheduling.

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Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

And one thread up you can find all the furious swim team parents who would be livid if the dude coached the baseball game. Can’t win around here.

[Anonymous]

What? That thread is about volunteering, not two
Parents attending every meet to watch their kid. Random Coach Dad doesn’t have to volunteer at every meet to get his required hours in.