How obnoxious is it to miss rec games?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is he going to practices? The kids playing multiple sports/ ADP soccer killed my son's rec soccer team this past year. There was a whole group of kids that never went to a single practice b/c of conflicts with adp/ baseball. There was no observable difference in skill between the kids playing adp and the kids just doing rec. This group of kids would, however, show up for games- and the coach had to play them all equally. They didn't know how to play together at all and they badly lost every game. If you sign up to be a part of a team, you need to be part of the game. Can you miss a game or a practice? sure-- but don't sign up if you are going to have lots of conflicts.

I would have to find a team with a practice schedule he could make. I think I can do that, it’s a big league so someone must have practice that is in the right slot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a rec sport he’s never played before, then the coach and team will probably be happy he is missing the game.

Can you give us the sport, age and general area? Maybe we can help you find a Saturday option.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s a rec sport he’s never played before, then the coach and team will probably be happy he is missing the game.

Can you give us the sport, age and general area? Maybe we can help you find a Saturday option.

Middle school boys lacrosse, rising 6th/2010.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a rec sport he’s never played before, then the coach and team will probably be happy he is missing the game.

Can you give us the sport, age and general area? Maybe we can help you find a Saturday option.

Middle school boys lacrosse, rising 6th/2010.

Oh and we’re in Eastern MoCo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

[Anonymous]

When you sign up to be part of a team, there is the expectation that you be part of the team - practices and games. If you are going into it knowing you will not be able to meet that commitment most of the time (the once a season relay carnival notwithstanding), then you should choose something else. The team should be able to count on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^and it also depends on the team. If it’s a rec team that I know has double the amount they need to play it’s generally okay. She’s been on some teams where that’s not the case and so many players missing have resulted in forfeiting games. That is not fair to the kids who show up every game and where this rec team is their only sport.

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Depends on the number of players who is likely to show up on a regular basis.
One of our DCs plays mostly rec sports and we've also experienced the forfeit issue for one sport. Pretty miserable for that team but he plays a second rec sport where the roster is big and most players-only rec and the ones that play on a second travel team- show up so no one minds when one of the travel kids occasionally misses a game. So "it depends" is the right answer here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is he going to practices? The kids playing multiple sports/ ADP soccer killed my son's rec soccer team this past year. There was a whole group of kids that never went to a single practice b/c of conflicts with adp/ baseball. There was no observable difference in skill between the kids playing adp and the kids just doing rec. This group of kids would, however, show up for games- and the coach had to play them all equally. They didn't know how to play together at all and they badly lost every game. If you sign up to be a part of a team, you need to be part of the game. Can you miss a game or a practice? sure-- but don't sign up if you are going to have lots of conflicts.

I generally agree with this but on DS's "school" rec team for basketball about half the kids play other travel sports and the kids all way the others to be there even if they miss every practice. It does stink when they can't get 8 kids together sometimes but I think they'd rather have their friends around some of the time rather than not at all.

[Anonymous]

This happened with my kid’s rec soccer (not his “main” sport either). The travel kids missed a lot of practice and so when they did show up for games, the team couldn’t really play together as a team. More difficult to learn skills in that situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

[Anonymous]

As a former coach, if a kid is new to the sport and one of the weaker players on the team and ended up missing some games I didn't mind because the team was stronger overall.

I only cared if people said they were going to be there and were there. If a conflict arose and they couldn't make it, it was fine as long as I knew in advance so I could rethink substitution patterns etc and how to ensure equal playing time for the kids who were going to be there, or to make sure if it was Susie's turn to play in goal but she wasn't there to have another option ready to go and ideally give that kid or their parents a heads up etc.

OP, let your kid live their life--don't sweat it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

Bruh, even volunteers have conflicts from time to time and sometimes folks can't clone themselves and be in two places at once. Why don't you step up and volunteer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It happens. Rec basketball was sparsely attended throughout our league last night because nvsl divisional relays were at the same time. Most coaches understand that kids have priorities

They say that to your face because they have no choice. These volunteers are annoyed with you and frantically emailing the rest of the team to see who’s going to show for the game or if they have to forfeit. And the kid who has been looking forward to the game because this is their priority is really disappointed because you took away their only game for the week and their playing time.

the coach was at relays with us because his kid was also competing

That's ridiculous. He volunteered to coach. His responsibility was to coach his team, not pawn it off on some other parent or get the game rescheduled so he could watch his kid swim.

Bruh, even volunteers have conflicts from time to time and sometimes folks can't clone themselves and be in two places at once. Why don't you step up and volunteer?

His spouse could take the kid to the relay meet, and he could coach his team. Or another parent could give the kid a ride to the meet, if he is a widower. I volunteer plenty, thank you, that's how I understand how it should work.

[Anonymous]

Can you ask about the general game schedule? One of my sons has played soccer and baseball in the fall and spring for years, and he has only missed a couple of games during that whole time. Depending on the age, the games sort of fell in a predictable time frame. Soccer for little ones is early in the morning morning, and baseball games were midday. As he got older the soccer games were middday and the baseball tended to be evening. Maybe getting some insight from each league about the general timing could help you decide?