AITA: teasing a friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not a troll -- I genuinely think what I'm doing is okay and this woman is overreacting. I think it is just not translating the way I'm explaining it. Or I've just attracted the most hypersensitive group of poster ever. I don't know. The reaction seems weirdly harsh.

OR, you're really obtuse and lack self-awareness. YTA when you do something someone has repeatedly asked you not to do, whether you think it's a big deal or not. Would I want to be friends with a hypersensitive silly woman? No. But I would not purposely antagonize her either. It's clear from your post that you don't really care about her or her feelings, so just cut ties. She won't be devastated, I'm sure, and you can pick friends who "get you" and your "sense of humor".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, let's do this "am I the a**hole" style. I really don't think I've done anything wrong, but you tell me.

I have a friend who is a little bit sensitive. I think it's just her personality, but also she's been having a bit of a tough time lately at work. I think she and her boyfriend might have some Covid-related strife, I don't know. Point is, she's a little on the sensitive time.

I'm a very jokey, irreverent person. I have a very sarcastic sense of humor and like to joke around with my friends. I spend a lot of time around men and maybe that's why. Also, I have ADHD and sometimes struggle a bit with picking up on certain social signals.

Anyway, I tease this friend sometimes. Nothing serious, just lighthearted ribbing. She takes herself SO seriously. Sometimes if she's lamenting some job- or boyfriend-related drama, I'll crack a joke about it to lighten the mood. Or I'll snap a silly photo of her while we're all hanging out (socially distanced, of course, don't freak out) and post it to Instagram or Facebook with a funny caption. I just think it's all of us having a good time.

But she cannot take a joke. She gets mad at me every time, and will say things like "I don't think that's funny" or ask me to take down a photo I posted of her. I kind of roll my eyes at it, but she's getting really obnoxious about it. Honestly, I think I tease her more because she's so sensitive about it. I think she just needs to get over herself and lighten up.

So, what do you think? Am I the A**hole?

Why do you post photos of people who have asked you not to post their photos? Do you have a problem with comprehension?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YTA, OP. For so many reasons, maybe including trolling.

But while we’re at it, let’s discuss why you have such a need to be a superficial cool chick with no empathy, and why you have to post everything you do With others on social media?

Lol, no one is like “wowwww she has a bunch of weird unflattering photos of this one woman in her feed...she’s SO COOL!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YTA, OP. For so many reasons, maybe including trolling.

But while we’re at it, let’s discuss why you have such a need to be a superficial cool chick with no empathy, and why you have to post everything you do With others on social media?

Lol, no one is like “wowwww she has a bunch of weird unflattering photos of this one woman in her feed...she’s SO COOL!”

I think PP was referring to OP's "I'm not so hypersensitive like this complainer, probably because I hang out with guys and not whiny chicks" framing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:YTA, OP. For so many reasons, maybe including trolling.

But while we’re at it, let’s discuss why you have such a need to be a superficial cool chick with no empathy, and why you have to post everything you do With others on social media?

Lol, no one is like “wowwww she has a bunch of weird unflattering photos of this one woman in her feed...she’s SO COOL!”

I think PP was referring to OP's "I'm not so hypersensitive like this complainer, probably because I hang out with guys and not whiny chicks" framing.

First quoted PP, and yea, this is it. Plus OPs need to be sarcastic, Post funny pictures <of others> etc. That’s all a veil. She doesn’t want to show who she really is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not a troll -- I genuinely think what I'm doing is okay and this woman is overreacting. I think it is just not translating the way I'm explaining it. Or I've just attracted the most hypersensitive group of poster ever. I don't know. The reaction seems weirdly harsh.

OR, you're really obtuse and lack self-awareness. YTA when you do something someone has repeatedly asked you not to do, whether you think it's a big deal or not. Would I want to be friends with a hypersensitive silly woman? No. But I would not purposely antagonize her either. It's clear from your post that you don't really care about her or her feelings, so just cut ties. She won't be devastated, I'm sure, and you can pick friends who "get you" and your "sense of humor".

Thank you for someone finally recognizing that she is being hypersensitive. I agree I can be obtuse sometimes, but if she just had a thicker skin, it wouldn't matter. Everyone else seems to like me fine, so I know it's not just me.

Unfortunately, I don't know that I can get rid of her that easily. As I said before, we have a lot of friends in common. But I guess I could try to distance myself from her in general and stop hanging out one on one or inviting her to my stuff. I feel like she'll just make a big deal out of that as well, though.

[Anonymous]

You are violating her privacy and continue to do it. Like a stalker. She is not being hypersensitive. You sound more sociopath than adhd. Dont be surprised if she blocks you, has a layer send you a threatening letter. Or takes out a restraining order. Stay away from her. Keep your mouth shut. You are not funny you are scary.

[Anonymous]

The picture thing is a completely dick-move, op. I can’t quite get a sense of what the jokes are, and normally I’d say those are no big deal, but if you’re that obtuse about the picture issue, I suspect the “jokes” are more mean than funny and probably aren’t okay either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not a troll -- I genuinely think what I'm doing is okay and this woman is overreacting. I think it is just not translating the way I'm explaining it. Or I've just attracted the most hypersensitive group of poster ever. I don't know. The reaction seems weirdly harsh.

OR, you're really obtuse and lack self-awareness. YTA when you do something someone has repeatedly asked you not to do, whether you think it's a big deal or not. Would I want to be friends with a hypersensitive silly woman? No. But I would not purposely antagonize her either. It's clear from your post that you don't really care about her or her feelings, so just cut ties. She won't be devastated, I'm sure, and you can pick friends who "get you" and your "sense of humor".

Thank you for someone finally recognizing that she is being hypersensitive. I agree I can be obtuse sometimes, but if she just had a thicker skin, it wouldn't matter. Everyone else seems to like me fine, so I know it's not just me.

Unfortunately, I don't know that I can get rid of her that easily. As I said before, we have a lot of friends in common. But I guess I could try to distance myself from her in general and stop hanging out one on one or inviting her to my stuff. I feel like she'll just make a big deal out of that as well, though.

Why do you go out of your way to post unflattering pictures of her?

[Anonymous]

Lol OP it's telling that your'e wondering how to "distance yourself" when you are literally going out of your way to antagonize this lady. Teasing her, taking pics of her, jfc. Yes, distance yourself. She'll breathe a sigh of relief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not a troll -- I genuinely think what I'm doing is okay and this woman is overreacting. I think it is just not translating the way I'm explaining it. Or I've just attracted the most hypersensitive group of poster ever. I don't know. The reaction seems weirdly harsh.

OR, you're really obtuse and lack self-awareness. YTA when you do something someone has repeatedly asked you not to do, whether you think it's a big deal or not. Would I want to be friends with a hypersensitive silly woman? No. But I would not purposely antagonize her either. It's clear from your post that you don't really care about her or her feelings, so just cut ties. She won't be devastated, I'm sure, and you can pick friends who "get you" and your "sense of humor".

Thank you for someone finally recognizing that she is being hypersensitive. I agree I can be obtuse sometimes, but if she just had a thicker skin, it wouldn't matter. Everyone else seems to like me fine, so I know it's not just me.

Unfortunately, I don't know that I can get rid of her that easily. As I said before, we have a lot of friends in common. But I guess I could try to distance myself from her in general and stop hanging out one on one or inviting her to my stuff. I feel like she'll just make a big deal out of that as well, though.

THIS is what you gathered from your thread, OP? My, you are the obtuse ahole.

[Anonymous]

OP, I too have a dry, sarcastic sense of humor. It's really easy not to post pictures of people without their permission, regardless of your opinion on the silliness or flattering-ness(?) Of the picture. In fact, I'm not posting pictures of people right now! You can do it too.

As for the jokes . . . If I knew someone didn't like my teasing her, I wouldn't tease her. Yes, people have varying levels of sensitivity. I will avoid deliberately trying to offend yours. Just save your teasing for those who enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

You probably tickle little kids until they're crying saying stop and wetting their pants OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am not a troll -- I genuinely think what I'm doing is okay and this woman is overreacting. I think it is just not translating the way I'm explaining it. Or I've just attracted the most hypersensitive group of poster ever. I don't know. The reaction seems weirdly harsh.

OR, you're really obtuse and lack self-awareness. YTA when you do something someone has repeatedly asked you not to do, whether you think it's a big deal or not. Would I want to be friends with a hypersensitive silly woman? No. But I would not purposely antagonize her either. It's clear from your post that you don't really care about her or her feelings, so just cut ties. She won't be devastated, I'm sure, and you can pick friends who "get you" and your "sense of humor".

Thank you for someone finally recognizing that she is being hypersensitive. I agree I can be obtuse sometimes, but if she just had a thicker skin, it wouldn't matter. Everyone else seems to like me fine, so I know it's not just me.

Unfortunately, I don't know that I can get rid of her that easily. As I said before, we have a lot of friends in common. But I guess I could try to distance myself from her in general and stop hanging out one on one or inviting her to my stuff. I feel like she'll just make a big deal out of that as well, though.

OP, let me spell it out for you - JUST LEAVE THE WOMAN ALONE
My 6th grader is being bullied right now by a neighborhood "friend" and at the very core it sounds so similar to how you treat this person

[Anonymous]

You're the a-hole, OP. How many times do you have to hear it?