Oldest son has a lot of animosity towards middle son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don’t sound like you care very much for your middle son.

Because I’m not saying much about him? I certainly do care but his behavior isn’t the problem.

[Anonymous]

So your middle son is a judgy, virtue-signaling douche bag? And you like him better? That much is clear.
Geez, I wonder why older bro hates him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don’t sound like you care very much for your middle son.

Because I’m not saying much about him? I certainly do care but his behavior isn’t the problem.

NP. Because you don't seem protective of him in the normal way most mothers are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don’t sound like you care very much for your middle son.

Because I’m not saying much about him? I certainly do care but his behavior isn’t the problem.

DP. Oh you said plenty. Nobody is stupid here. Goldenkid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you don’t sound like you care very much for your middle son.

Because I’m not saying much about him? I certainly do care but his behavior isn’t the problem.

NP. Because you don't seem protective of him in the normal way most mothers are.

I get it. I def am. I’m just not posting about that part here. I’ve been overprotective in the past. But I am not here to defend myself I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with my oldest because I care about the younger brothers.

I appreciate the suggestion of therapy. I do think that’s what it’s going to take.

[Anonymous]

Please reread your original post op. It is oozing with dislike of your older son and worship of the 14 year old.
You are a major issue in this relationship.

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting that some posters are reading that she favors the older son and some are reading that she favors the 14yo.

It might be a lot of projection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please reread your original post op. It is oozing with dislike of your older son and worship of the 14 year old.
You are a major issue in this relationship.

OMG. Go away troll. No one else agrees with you. You must have been a problem child too

[Anonymous]

You are not here to get criticized? For real? On dcum?

Few have told you what is going on with your older son. In our opinions. You don't want to hear it. Just phrasing it like that.
"I am trying to figure out what is going on with my oldest." Your words.
That is why we know that your actions are biased. Blame is on your older son, in your eyes. And while you are blind to the dynamic you are contributing to, he is not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not here to get criticized? For real? On dcum?

Few have told you what is going on with your older son. In our opinions. You don't want to hear it. Just phrasing it like that.
"I am trying to figure out what is going on with my oldest." Your words.
That is why we know that your actions are biased. Blame is on your older son, in your eyes. And while you are blind to the dynamic you are contributing to, he is not.

Wait what part do I not want to hear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please reread your original post op. It is oozing with dislike of your older son and worship of the 14 year old.
You are a major issue in this relationship.

OMG. Go away troll. No one else agrees with you. You must have been a problem child too

No, op. plenty will agree with me. I was never, ever a problem child. I was the perfect oldest child, that protected her siblings. You are unable to admit to your fault. If this is op, what is with being so defensive? Why is it so hard for you to even contemplate that you are contributing to this issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not here to get criticized? For real? On dcum?

Few have told you what is going on with your older son. In our opinions. You don't want to hear it. Just phrasing it like that.
"I am trying to figure out what is going on with my oldest." Your words.
That is why we know that your actions are biased. Blame is on your older son, in your eyes. And while you are blind to the dynamic you are contributing to, he is not.

You need to get therapy and stop hashing out your issues on this thread. No one agrees with you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not here to get criticized? For real? On dcum?

Few have told you what is going on with your older son. In our opinions. You don't want to hear it. Just phrasing it like that.
"I am trying to figure out what is going on with my oldest." Your words.
That is why we know that your actions are biased. Blame is on your older son, in your eyes. And while you are blind to the dynamic you are contributing to, he is not.

Wait what part do I not want to hear?

See, you are a person that can't accept any fault. No doubt, you will ask Jeff to delete your thread when people post what you don't want to hear.
You adore your 14 year old. Your 16 year old is sick of being a black sheep in your family and being put down by you and your 14 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please reread your original post op. It is oozing with dislike of your older son and worship of the 14 year old.
You are a major issue in this relationship.

OMG. Go away troll. No one else agrees with you. You must have been a problem child too

No, op. plenty will agree with me. I was never, ever a problem child. I was the perfect oldest child, that protected her siblings. You are unable to admit to your fault. If this is op, what is with being so defensive? Why is it so hard for you to even contemplate that you are contributing to this issue?

And so now the truth of your projection comes out. You must certainly were not, and you need to pay a licensed therapist to walk you through these issues in a healthy and productive way instead of vomiting all over this thread. Not OP, btw!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are not here to get criticized? For real? On dcum?

Few have told you what is going on with your older son. In our opinions. You don't want to hear it. Just phrasing it like that.
"I am trying to figure out what is going on with my oldest." Your words.
That is why we know that your actions are biased. Blame is on your older son, in your eyes. And while you are blind to the dynamic you are contributing to, he is not.

You need to get therapy and stop hashing out your issues on this thread. No one agrees with you!

Again, the truth is hard. You are asking for advice and not accepting it.