Wife Spending Too Much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We bought the nursery furniture ( crib, dresser, and glider) and a stroller travel system. We got most of the big ticket items at our baby shower ( virtual) but she did buy the rest of the stuff she wanted on the registry.

She said she is worried about taking baby out in a pandemic with cold/flu season. She bought the stuff we normally buy in doubles ( meat, pantry items, and paper products). She bought in bulk baby diapers and wipes because she worries they will go out of stock like they did a couple of months ago. She bought a bunch of paper products and cleaning products. She says it’s smart and that she is preparing for us to not have to go out or worry about needing this stuff. She has also made and froze a bunch of meals to eat when once the baby gets here for dinner.

She is a genius and you need to thank her.

[Anonymous]

What are you complaining about? She doesn't spend it on herself. She spent the money on the baby and family, you included. Since you two can afford it, why does it matter? If it's a recurring thing, then you should be worry, but this is a one time thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Diapers are a waste unless she can exchange them

LOL and this is the advice you get from the loons on DCUM... just let the baby poop in your hands OP, anything else is spendy

I should clarify overstocking on diapers and hoarding them is a waste of money unless she can change them. Is that clear enough for you?

OP here. She didn’t get a ton. She got 2 NB sizes, 4 1 size, and 4 size 2. She got two boxes of baby wipes.

Okay then. That's not bad. It doesn't sound like she purchased anything unreasonable, and it seems it's all within your budget. It will be worth not leaving the house with your newborn during the pandemic and cold/flu season unless you need to.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Maybe I am overreacting. That’s why I asked. I didn’t know if this was normal. I do think she got a lot of unnecessary baby items but the rest we will use.

[Anonymous]

How about stop policing your pregnant wife and be supportive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We bought the nursery furniture ( crib, dresser, and glider) and a stroller travel system. We got most of the big ticket items at our baby shower ( virtual) but she did buy the rest of the stuff she wanted on the registry.

She said she is worried about taking baby out in a pandemic with cold/flu season. She bought the stuff we normally buy in doubles ( meat, pantry items, and paper products). She bought in bulk baby diapers and wipes because she worries they will go out of stock like they did a couple of months ago. She bought a bunch of paper products and cleaning products. She says it’s smart and that she is preparing for us to not have to go out or worry about needing this stuff. She has also made and froze a bunch of meals to eat when once the baby gets here for dinner.

Is she about 7 months along?
This is totally normal behavior. Maybe you should get a parenting book.

Do you know anything about physical and psychological changes women go through during pregnancy? Pretty soon, she is going to start getting up multiple times at night to pee. About three days after the baby is born, she is going to have a huge hormone shift and start crying all of the time about nothing for a few days.

OP here. No. We are having a baby at the end of the month. She’s like 37 weeks pregnant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We bought the nursery furniture ( crib, dresser, and glider) and a stroller travel system. We got most of the big ticket items at our baby shower ( virtual) but she did buy the rest of the stuff she wanted on the registry.

She said she is worried about taking baby out in a pandemic with cold/flu season. She bought the stuff we normally buy in doubles ( meat, pantry items, and paper products). She bought in bulk baby diapers and wipes because she worries they will go out of stock like they did a couple of months ago. She bought a bunch of paper products and cleaning products. She says it’s smart and that she is preparing for us to not have to go out or worry about needing this stuff. She has also made and froze a bunch of meals to eat when once the baby gets here for dinner.

Is she about 7 months along?
This is totally normal behavior. Maybe you should get a parenting book.

Do you know anything about physical and psychological changes women go through during pregnancy? Pretty soon, she is going to start getting up multiple times at night to pee. About three days after the baby is born, she is going to have a huge hormone shift and start crying all of the time about nothing for a few days.

OP here. No. We are having a baby at the end of the month. She’s like 37 weeks pregnant.

You are about to become a family of 3 , possibly in a matter of days! You should feel ashamed of yourself, that your wife was the one to do all this. be grateful she is trying to plan ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Maybe I am overreacting. That’s why I asked. I didn’t know if this was normal. I do think she got a lot of unnecessary baby items but the rest we will use.

Just out of curiosity what do you think is unnecessary?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We bought the nursery furniture ( crib, dresser, and glider) and a stroller travel system. We got most of the big ticket items at our baby shower ( virtual) but she did buy the rest of the stuff she wanted on the registry.

She said she is worried about taking baby out in a pandemic with cold/flu season. She bought the stuff we normally buy in doubles ( meat, pantry items, and paper products). She bought in bulk baby diapers and wipes because she worries they will go out of stock like they did a couple of months ago. She bought a bunch of paper products and cleaning products. She says it’s smart and that she is preparing for us to not have to go out or worry about needing this stuff. She has also made and froze a bunch of meals to eat when once the baby gets here for dinner.

Is she about 7 months along?
This is totally normal behavior. Maybe you should get a parenting book.

Do you know anything about physical and psychological changes women go through during pregnancy? Pretty soon, she is going to start getting up multiple times at night to pee. About three days after the baby is born, she is going to have a huge hormone shift and start crying all of the time about nothing for a few days.

OP here. No. We are having a baby at the end of the month. She’s like 37 weeks pregnant.

You are about to become a family of 3 , possibly in a matter of days! You should feel ashamed of yourself, that your wife was the one to do all this. be grateful she is trying to plan ahead.

OP here. I have done a lot too. Painting and putting the nursery together. I didn’t know all of this was necessary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Maybe I am overreacting. That’s why I asked. I didn’t know if this was normal. I do think she got a lot of unnecessary baby items but the rest we will use.

Just out of curiosity what do you think is unnecessary?

OP here. The amount of stuff we have. We have a swing, a bouncer, two bathtubs, 4 play gyms, multiple sets of bottles, lots of toys, lots of books, lots ( we easily have enough clothes until that baby is 6 months), a $1200 bassinet, and so much more. Our baby registry was close to 5K.

[Anonymous]

You do not need 4 play gyms. No one should ever buy multiple sets of bottles because you don’t know what kind of bottle the baby will drink from. Babies don’t play with toys until they’re much older books are pretty useless until they are at least six or eight months old, but they are nice to have for when you need them. The $1200 bass and that’s a little much because bassinets only last about four months. That money could’ve been spent on a crib. My bassinet was $200 and I used it for two kids I also then sold it for $80 when I was done with it. A 5K baby registry is a bit much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not need 4 play gyms. No one should ever buy multiple sets of bottles because you don’t know what kind of bottle the baby will drink from. Babies don’t play with toys until they’re much older books are pretty useless until they are at least six or eight months old, but they are nice to have for when you need them. The $1200 bass and that’s a little much because bassinets only last about four months. That money could’ve been spent on a crib. My bassinet was $200 and I used it for two kids I also then sold it for $80 when I was done with it. A 5K baby registry is a bit much.

OP here. We bought a crib. She wanted to get The Snoo because she heard good things about it.

[Anonymous]

agree that the question re: if the actual amt is reasonable needs to be relative to your HHI or budget

who normally does the shopping? if not you, then it may very well be that she's doing all of "her" work before the baby arrives so that she doesn't have to later

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We bought the nursery furniture ( crib, dresser, and glider) and a stroller travel system. We got most of the big ticket items at our baby shower ( virtual) but she did buy the rest of the stuff she wanted on the registry.

She said she is worried about taking baby out in a pandemic with cold/flu season. She bought the stuff we normally buy in doubles ( meat, pantry items, and paper products). She bought in bulk baby diapers and wipes because she worries they will go out of stock like they did a couple of months ago. She bought a bunch of paper products and cleaning products. She says it’s smart and that she is preparing for us to not have to go out or worry about needing this stuff. She has also made and froze a bunch of meals to eat when once the baby gets here for dinner.

Is she about 7 months along?
This is totally normal behavior. Maybe you should get a parenting book.

Do you know anything about physical and psychological changes women go through during pregnancy? Pretty soon, she is going to start getting up multiple times at night to pee. About three days after the baby is born, she is going to have a huge hormone shift and start crying all of the time about nothing for a few days.

OP here. No. We are having a baby at the end of the month. She’s like 37 weeks pregnant.

You are about to become a family of 3 , possibly in a matter of days! You should feel ashamed of yourself, that your wife was the one to do all this. be grateful she is trying to plan ahead.

OP here. I have done a lot too. Painting and putting the nursery together. I didn’t know all of this was necessary.

yes. it increases as you get closer to the birth, starting around 7 months.

[Anonymous]

ps- you should go give your wife a huge hug for doing all this planning and work that will spare YOU and her a ton of effort later -- all while being 8 months pregnant.